Christianity Oasis Forum

[mlg]

Yep, I know what you mean. I'm going to pray for both of you sis, that God will find ways for you to be a witness to this man without pushing him away from God. The fact that he was singing a Christian song speaks volumes...because that says Holy Spirit is moving around him. Just needs to allow Holy Spirit to move in him...God's will be done.

luv ya sis

[inHishands]

I really appreciate the prayers. You're right, I have to be tactful in how I witness to him. He's not one to take pressure too well. He gets overwhelmed really easy. So I'll also continue to pray that God enters his heart and if I'm suppose to be with him that he change my feelings toward him and allow me to see a happy future with him.

Love and Blessings,
inHishands

[inHishands]

Pine, I'm not sure if my feelings would change if there was a spiritual connection. I don't feel like I've ever been inlove with him, that being said, I don't want him out of my life either. He's a great person with a huge heart. We get along great but it's more like a best friend/brother-sister relationship sometimes...I don't know it's weird. If he does come around and we do develop a spiritual connection I don't want to settle just because of that...I also want to be inlove and be happy. I would love for us to have the relationship we have now without the title or the physical part of it then see where it goes...but that would break his heart and I don't want to do that. AGH! This stinks!

[momof3]

I've prayed alot about this and will continue to do so. Last night we were in the car and he started singing a Christian song (Jesus Freak). This was our conversation:

Me- "How do you know that song?, Oh you must have heard it in my car" Him-"No, I told you I used to listen to that stuff before, I actually Youtubed it the other day"
Me- "That stuff?, you say that like it's a plague or something"
Him-"No, I used to go to church every sunday and went to see Jars of Clay"
Me- "So you used to be more religious/spiritual than you are now?"
Him- "No, it wasn't that I was spiritual or religious"
Me- "So you went to church because your parents made you go basically"
Him- "Well yeah, that was the major reason but sometimes I would be there to pray about stuff I was thinking about"
Me- "babe you should always pray about everything. Every major or minor decision or issue you have should be prayed on. A job change, home decisions, family decisions, anything. I volunteer at church and prayed about it because how am I suppose to know if it's something God wants for me right now unless I ask for His guidance?"

He changed the subject.

hey inHishands God bless you today, sis. i just wanna say that i think this was a pretty good conversation.

Go back and read it again..listen to what his heart is saying. You are even planting seeds by the way you are living...and he is still there. My son came in the other day humming a Christian song. it warmed my heart, cuz of all the other songs he could have been humming, but his mind, so his heart too, must have also been somewhere on the Lord. Seeds were planted, sis. When your boyfriend was a boy, in church, seeds were planted. Those seeds are still there and like with all of us at times, they get a lil choked out. They are still there, though, waiting to be watered. Words of life are those seeds. Keep speaking words of life without condemnation to him and keep praying for him. in time, you will know if he is the one meant for you. Love is not always a feeling...sometimes its a decision. Im not say he is or is not the one for you, but finish this walk and then go to the till death do us part study. I believe you will find even more guidance from the Holy Spirit after going through these studies..and then, the Virtuous Woman study. After all, when we focus on the Lord and what He wants to do in and through us, He works out the other things around us. You dont have to decide this instant on your boyfriend. God'll make it plain to you.

Keep going sis. You are doing an awesome job.

love you much,
in Jesus,
momo

[mlg]

Sis...step back a second and look at what you have shared...do you see it? This is a Spiritual Battle sis...a battle for your soul and his. So what you have to do now is strengthen your relationship with God. You have to get your life right in God's eyes...then and only then can God start to work on your relationship with your friend. God can use you as a witness to your friend, but first He has to get your relationship with Him strong and trusting....then He can move in other ways for you.

luv ya

[inHishands]

mlg1279, thank you. You're 100% right. I have to get on my feet and move out. If it's His will after I'm good to go with Him for my friend and I to be together then great...I have to let God do for and in me first before I can do for anyone else. This has been an exhausting battle for almost 2 years. I just don't want to hurt him.

[mlg]

Sis, pray and ask God to bring understanding to this man's heart when you tell him that you have to seek God first and foremost. Yes the man may be hurt, but that is his flesh and if you are gentle with your actions, then you can cause the least of hurt...but either way remember God is hurting now because of your current actions...so doing for God will bring great rewards.

luv ya

[deetu]

Speaking of hurt, sounds to me like your friend got hurt by the church at some point; whether they weren't there for him when he needed help or was condemned by something he did.

I think it's great that you're moving out to get right with God.

[inHishands]

We've talked about that...he's never been hurt by the church, it seems like he's just never had that passion for God. I grew up Catholic and they basically teach you that if you confess your sins, say 200 Our Fathers and 300 Hail Mary's (sarcasm ) that God will forgive you and it doesn't matter what you do, how many times you do it as long as you keep doing that you're alright. I think he's the type that is complacent with his relationship with God. He believes in Him and prays when he needs something, but that's it. He's been in several severe accidents which he's come out of by the Grace of God. I ask him "who do you think saved your life?" I look in his eyes and it's like there's nothing there. I just want to get inside his head and turn on the light bulb or something...I don't know....I'm just going to keep praying about it and let Him do what He wants to do with this.

[mlg]

Well the thing is only God can work on and within your friend sis....all God wants you to do is to be the best witness for Him that you can be, and that will plant seeds within this man that God can then water and mature....So, I truly think for now the best you can do for this man is get your own relationship with God where it needs to be...then you can be what God wants you to be.

Praying for you sis.

luv ya lots