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[scootles]

Today,I feel miserable,totally lonely and very misuderstood.This past week things have happened to my son,and critisim on my parenting skills have been made by my own daughter! Who by the way needs to check with her own parenting skills! Lately,I have noticed I become very sensitive when someone attacks my parenting skills for whatever reason,I burst into tears. I feel like I'm not doing what I'm supposed to or not doing enough. But my daughter for some inknown reason blames me for her becoming a chronic runaway. She decided to discuss this with my 11 year old son while he was staying at his grandmothers house(over night),She is staying there too.She told him I am very over protective and that was the reason she started to runaway.But I don't think so,she before this even started would come up to me and ask me what would you do if I ran away? Shortly after that she started to do it constantly,she stayed in her room and only came out for meals and if she was goingout with the guy who is now her husband. I went thru hell with her,cried alot and finally had no choice but to send her to a home for troubled girls,I told her that I never locked her in her room,her room never had a lock on the door and she always escaped thrut he window when i told her she couldn't go out with who is now her husband. He is just bad news. Anyways,this happened when she was still in school,and it made me alot hurt and mad that she would be telling mys on this,almost like encouraging him to do the same thing!There was no point to her telling him this or even bring it up in a conversation.I told her I was tired of taking the blame for something I never did.Now as for what is happening with my son,who is 11,sometime a couple of weeks ago,I found out he was watching cartoons with adult context like South Park,after watching 4 episodes my daughter calls me and asks me is he allowed to watch it,I told her no,he also has been exposed to Porn,he has been asking to watch booby movies and or naked movies! I talked to his grandmother who was supposed to be supervising him and she said,I'm telling you its normal for his age to want to watch these things they think about sex all the time! As you can see I was getting no where with her and her attitude has been like this ever sence he's been going toher house,he stays up late as much as he wants and does what ever he wants,It is the way of life at her home. Last week I always ask him about stuff that happenes when he stays the night,well he told me..Oh I am not supposed to tell you something that I made a promise to my dad that I wouldn't tell,Well that gave me a red flag...I hated doing that to my son,making him tell me but I was right to do so,he was distroyed cuz he had to betray a promise to his dad.but...he told me that he saw some drugs"white powder"stuff laying about on his dads desk...His grandmother went to work that night and left my son unsupervised. Then he went on to tell me that his aunt was calling him to come over to her,and he ran away because he was scared she was going to put drugs in his mouth. They were smoking pot in the living room. I was very angry that his grandmother left him unsupervised and that his sister didn't do anything to protect him,butmore so it how much drug use is openly used without any consideration for the children inthe home,my son and grandson!I called his grandmother immediatly and told my son to tell her what he just told me,because if i told her she would argue with me,and he did and she just told him she would take care of it. So I called her again and told her that mys on told me that he is scared to go there anymore and he doesnt want to any more,she said that she would have to think about it and that was it! Think about what??? Is this why I am being called over protective? Man alive!! This is not normal and no child should be exposed tothis so why am I the bad guy here?

[mlg]

Sis you aren't the bad guy here. Satan just wants you to think you are. What I do want to ask you is what does the custody papers say about your son's visitation. Sounds as if your son is in a dangerous environment there sis, and you may need to contact someone and make them aware of what is going on over there and see if you can have his visitation removed or go to supervised visits only.

I so feel for you today sis, I'm praying for you. Keep your head up...God is in control...lean on Him to handle these matters for you. It's all gonna be ok.

luv ya

[scootles]

the divorce papers state that he is to have supervised limited visitation at my home. Due to him being parinoid schizophrenic which I think is mainly drug induced.

[mlg]

So sis this means you are responsible for your son, and you need to do your best to protect him. I ask that you take this matter to prayer and ask God to show you what you should do. Personally I think it is best if you follow the court orders and not allow your son to be at your ex's house with these things being allowed to go on. As your son's guardian you could be liable if something were to happen while he is away from your care...due to the fact that your not following court orders by allowing your son to be there. I pray the Lord will help you sort all this out.

luv ya

[momof3]

ljd, sis...i so agree with you. Kids push the boundries just to see if they can...to see if you are strong enough to tell them no...to keep them accountable to the guidelines set for them. They want to know deep down that they can count on you to be the parent.

Scootles, sis.....don't give up. Keep your kids in prayer..they are the Lord's children, too. There is a reason the courts have decided the way they have to keep your kids safe. I can tell you first hand how a father, through his own addiction can lead his kid into the same things. Your strength is in the Lord, sis. Stand your ground and keep all of this in prayer. Do what you have to do to protect your son from that kind of lifestyle. I am praying for you, your kids and their dad and family. May His will be done. He will show you what to do. Don't listen to the enemy when he tells you that you are a bad mom. Lean on the Lord for guidance and strength. Praying for you, sis.

in Jesus,
momo