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[Lionhearted]

ohhhh scootles you can be encouraged ...

i know what it's like to crawl out of the mire that you loosely call life; mine also was a build up from my childhood ...

you're on the right track, you will find healing and wholeness for your heart in Him .... i know what you mean about not feeling any different when coming out of church, or attending after a long period of time and the insincerity of it; i didn't find my healing in church either.

to quote bigred ---> you are not alone ...i know the emotional and mental abuse of a mother as well ... it is very, very confusing ... my memories of my childhood don't go back passed 12 years old ... and what i do remember of my teen years is sketchy. i've turned it over to the Lord and He will reveal what He needs me to know.

it definitely helps to let it out, so it doesn't sit in you and rot. my biggest problem was 'circular' thinking/feeling, have you experienced that? it seems that a thought pattern starts and then i always would end up at the same place. MAN! it was very frustrating, it felt like i wasn't getting ANYWHERE. i would spin my wheels "emotionally" speaking ... but never arrive at any type of "wellness" or "wholeness" ... over and over!!

but now, i'm on the other side .... and the work is worth it .... you must work with Jesus ... He will heal your heart and break down all the iron gates you've built over the years to protect yourself from the abuse.

be hopeful .... don't ever give up hope ... even if it looks like there's no light at the end of the tunnel ... look for someone else, some here !!! to show you where the light is ....

love you,
robyn

[mlg]

scootles, abuse is never an easy thing to watch or be a part of. The pain of feeling so helpless, and defenseless. It does hurt, but I want you to know that Jesus is there with you and He wants to take all that pain away. You may feel alone at times, but you aren't. Again Jesus is waiting.

The past is often a holdback in our life, it's all the memories that torment us over and over. But did you know it's ok to let those memories go. It's ok to forgive yourself and your mom. Begin to let go, and allow yourself to heal. This may take you some time, but it's something to definitely begin to allow to take place. Don't hold on to the past. It's time to move forward and live the life that Jesus wants you to have. He has it all planned, just reach out and say show me the way.

Praying for ya.

luv ya

[scootles]

Whats on my mind today? Drinking...I stopped drinking cold turkey years ago. But I have this urge to just get drunk and escape every now and again. I feel bad that I went back to this church after years of being MIA,and giving a false impression that I was coming back. I never connected to anyone there just the pastor,he counseled me twice and we email each other quite a bit. I think he is frustrated with me,and can offer me now answer or a solution to make me stay.I just feel lousey about it but know its for the better as my son really was not accepted at this church.I feel my life is pointless,I have wasted most of it and I amhere just to raise my son and then have nothing once he is gone. I dont know,I know these are negitive feelings and am supposed tobe replacing them with positiveo ones ,But they keep coming no matter how hard I try to block them,seems I never do anything right.

[Lionhearted]

scootles .... you joined oasis ..... that was something you did that was right.

[ChildsCry]

hi scoots!

[scootles]

Hello,Oh where to start???LOL Today its a rainyday and while itm akes people feel gloomy or sad,It makesme wantto get out! It gives me a little uph power! Strange huh? I love going shoppingwhenit rains! BTW,Is there a section for Finances or budgeting? I also need lots of help in this area!I tend to be a spendaholic!Well last night I didn't sleep,I usually don,t when my son is gone,over to his grandmothers for the night. On New Years Day we were doing HOPES AND DREAMS,and got really sicka nd could not participate. So,Here are my HOPES:
I hope that one day,I wouldn't have to live pay check to pay check and have just enough money to live comfotably with out worries.
I hope that my car(paid for) will serve me well for a long time!
I hope my son has a comassionate,understanding teacher next year.
I hope to find a Bible-based good family church to be envoled in who will except my son and I for who we are.
I hope to lose 10 pounds and go from there in 10 pound increments.
I hope to find a a better paying job in a church/Christian based enviroment.
I hope my daughter will come to her sences!
I hope to grow in the Lord this coming year and continue to do so with follwing year.
I hope to gain mighty close friends here.
I hope to improve alot about myself,with positive changes.
I hope to meet a Christian Man wholoves the lord and loves family and children.
Now for my Dreams:
I Dream: To one day write a book,(Elizabeth Wurtzel wonderful)
I dream,that my son will find one True-Blue Good Christian Buddie,that will not judge him but accept him through out his lifetime.
I dream sucees for my son that he will over come any bounderies/obsticles in his path and keep looking upwards and forwards with the lord in his heart.
I dream to go to Disney World,Rome(to the Vatican),Greece,and Alaska with my children and grandson.
I Dream of a brand new car
I Dream of living in a log cabin in Alaska someday.
I Dream of becoming a Marine Biologist and do studies on sea life
I Dream of working with wildlife
I Dream that I were back to a size 9/10
I Dream of sucess and aceptence.
I Dream that my daughter would Give 150% focus and attention to the needs of her son and see light with her husband before its too late.
I also Dream that she takes responsiblity for her actions and comes back to the Lord for Peace.
I hope that wasn't to long-LOL
Today I feel good,nothing really bothering me.Thanks all for being there for me.

[Dora]

How cool!
Thanks for sharing.

Now how are you going to work on making some of these dreams realities.

I am reminded of this...

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

--Reinhold Niebuhr

Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will direct your paths.

Proverbs 3, 5-6

God bless you scootles. May the Lord grant you the desires of your heart. May the desires of Gods heart be the desires of your heart.

[mlg]

Hopes and dreams scootles that's what brings us joy in the future. To know that the Lord promises to bring us happiness, and that we can look forward to our hopes and dreams of seeing His will done in our life.

I'm glad your happy today sis. May you enjoy your day with the Lord.

Sorry to hear you didn't sleep well last night. Take some time to rest today.

luv ya

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I wouldn't say it was family, more like friends that I help out along the way, but we came up with how to deal with the holidays. We have the holiday or celebrate it when we feel like it. For example, we still haven't done our Thanksgiving or Christmas. The tree is still up, the presents sit under it, still wrapped. Waiting. Another good thing about celebrating like this is that everything is ON SALE, the day after the holiday. You go stock up, and when you feel like celebrating, u do. It's kinda twisted, I know, but it could be an option for you.

[flutemusic67]

Howdy, scootles! Oh, how I would love to talk to you privately in chat! Families are so complicated. They know us deeply and therefore have the most ammunition to use against us.

We have a program on Tuesday nights called Life After Abuse: A New Beginning at 9:00 pm est. I wish you would join us. The program would support the christian counseling you are doing here. We receive healing through the Holy Spirit and become emotionally stronger through Him.

I am sorry that your pastor has reacted in such a way. The person you need to help you is Jesus. He will never leave you. He will never give up on you. He knows you inside and out...all your thoughts, fears, anger, resentment..everything. He is infinitely patient and forgiving. He will welcome you back no matter how long you have been gone or how many times you turned away. As long as you have breath in your body, Jesus will be there for you.

Our Father has given us many churches and pastors who are filled with the love of Jesus and His Holy Spirit. Keep looking for one. Pray about it. God will provide.

God bless you, scootles. Hope to see you tomorrow night at Life After Abuse or any other time in chat.



flute

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