Christianity Oasis Forum

[diasgang]

I have a 20 year old son that has received no breaks in life whatsoever and it is breaking my heart. This is been the bulk of my depression as well. If I believed in luck, he has got none. Four years ago when he was 16, he was excited to get a job and so he began searching. He found none until two years ago I helped him get a job as a part time custodian at the high school where I teach. He was a little green but he worked hard. Two months later, the district felt he wasn't doing a good enough job and so they fired him. This is just the beginning of his woes. He again looked for a job and found none. We decided to have him move to Texas and live with my brother and work. You know, get out of the house, on his own. He spent two months looking for a job and found none. He was in his first automobile accident, however. He eventually text me and asked if he could come home. He has never been so unhappy. So I said okay. He sold his truck and flew home. About a week ago I received a call from the Sheriff in San Antonio Texas about some criminal activity regarding my son's truck that he sold. Apparently the person who bought the truck has a criminal record and never registered the truck in his name. Okay so he comes home, looks for a job, has a couple of job interviews and nothing. By this time he is very discouraged. He continues taking classes at the Community College and was helping my wife at her preschool and kindergarten classes. This year they do not want any males working with the children and so now he is unable to even do that. Okay so this summer, one of my college students needed an incomplete in the math class I teach and so I recommended my son for tutoring. She said okay, had him tutor her for a few sessions and then e-mailed me that it was not working and she needed a different tutor. We have told my son that he needs to find a job and he is so discouraged that he tells me that no one wants to hire him so why bother. Working as a teacher is very difficult both at the high school and college. And now I have a son that everything he touches turns to mud. I am so very discouraged and depressed. I pray for him, but the more that I pray, the more things go wrong. I don't know how to help him!!! He is a good kid and loves the Lord.
Paul

[Gods Sheep]

If I may put in my 2 cents, The first thing you need to do is work on your own discouraging and negative views of your sons situation. Yes I know, Easier said that done. But it is the truth. Your negative views will not help your son's situation it will just pull him down further. What you need to do is read the stories of the bible and learn to trust in the lord. Your son is not going through his trials and tribulations in vein. You raised your son to be the man that he is an now God is building character in your son and teaching him to be the man he created him to be. God is drawing your son closer to him as well as preparing your son for a life he has planned for him in the future. One story that comes to my mind with your son is Joseph son of Jacob. Go read that story and get familiar with it because it seems to best fit the situation with your son. Instead of praying for the negative events in your son's life to change into positive ones learn to praise God for the work he is already doing in your son's life and appreciate the events that are happening as negative as they may seem for they are just as much of God's blessing as any event you yourself would recognize if not more so.

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praise God for the work he is already doing in your son's life and appreciate the events that are happening as negative as they may seem for they are just as much of God's blessing as any event you yourself would recognize if not more so.

and i wondered...you didn't mention in your post what your son's relationship is with the Lord. your son is an adult and even though you are concerned for him, as all parents will always be for their children, his growth and future are now in his hands and his ability to turn it over to God for direction. while you can and should always pray on his behalf you also can't let the enemy steal your joy and peace in the Lord because that's where your strength comes from in these trials.

i would encourage you to renew your hope in the Lord, that He IS in control of the situation. Rejoice in all things because He has already won! we are victorious in Him!

i will be praying with you as i pray for direction for my own son in his struggles.

God Bless you and keep you

[stillstanding]

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