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[Loreeann32]

I just feel I need to post this, I am soooo sad. 3 yrs ago, my father was diagnosed with Bladder Cancer. He had surgery and had his bladder removed along with some other things. He wears a bag now. His cancer has been in remission for 3 yrs. He goes faithfully to his checkups every 3 mons, and gets his MRI's and CT Scans. Well this last visit was not so good, about 2 weeks ago. I mean yes your father is gonna die sometime, but I am not ready for him to go. I guess everyone says that. It is just a shock still. My father is a Evangical Preacher, Pentecostal, so I am raised with a religous background, and I believe in the Lord wholeheartedly. Anyway, they found spots on his lungs. So he goes for a PET Scan and a MRI, to get a better image.. On thursday last week, (On his Birthday) he had to go to the DR to get his results. I was praying before his appt to, that God take this situation and turn it around if it be his will. My father was diagnosed with lung cancer, and on top of that, they found a Aortic Anurysm on his Aorta, that is 5 cm. Now I did some reading on this, and it can burst anytime, and when it does, he only has 3 min. I really do not think that Ambulance will be at their house in 3 min, but then again, they are not even a block away. Due to his lung cancer in his lungs, they cannot do the surgery to fix his Aorta, because the cancer would spread. So he is in a hardplace right now. He goes to see the cardiologist on Tues, the Cancer dr on Wed for a biopsy, to see if this the same cancer that he had 3 yrs ago, and what kind of treatment he needs. I know God can work maricles, and my dad believes also, but this is sad. We all have to be strong, but yet we are sad. I have had freinds die, but I guess when it is your family, it is different. My mother is so strong, and I love her for it, they have been married since 1967, and still in love. She does not have time to be weak, and I am trying to be strong, because my kids are sad. Just keep this in your prayers. I have sooo much going on, I cannot even focus, every where I turn, it is bad news, or someone did something. I have no one to share this with, I am alone, and this is my only family I have. God Bless All of You, Thank you.

[lizzie]

Loreann

Keeping you and your dad and family in prayer. I wish I had the right words to take away your pain, but I know that God is more than able to give you the strength and comfort during this difficult time.

[Dora]

When we find out news like this we go through a grieving period. This is normal. Your strength will rise again as you begin to trust in God to tend to you, your children, and your parents. He is trust worthy. As you know.

I just want to wrap you up in a huge hug. I know this is difficult and scary.

Praying for Gods will.

[Poefenjaf]

Hi Loreeann

I just read your post as well as lizzie's and Pine's replies.
I can't begin to even THINK how tough this is for you and your family. I do understand to some extent though as I have for the last few months been helping my bestestest friend battle stage 4 cancer. I have been through ALL of it with her. Man! So many times I would be so scared that God would take her away - I have learnt so much from her over the years. She loves Daddy God with all of her heart and you know what - through ALL of this she was encouraging US ... not the other way around. She has finished her chemo, but they have not cured the cancer - just gave her a few years extra to be around with us. She is not afraid to die, but I was afraid that she WOULD!
What I decided to do was the following:
Every morning, I would pray for her and then I would ask God to remind me of something GOOD about her ... and He did! Every day He would remind me of something she said, or did, or a joke she told, or a prank she pulled, or how she blessed others - and that made it easier to bear the tough things. I am praying for your papa and your family, but through all of this, ask Daddy God to remind you of the GOOD times with your dad. CLING to those things. Remind the rest of your family about those things - it will help in the tough days. I can vouch for that!
I keep praying for you ...

Much love!
(and a GLOMP)

[Paul Swartz]

I really sympathize w/you,I just lost my stepfather to cancer apr. 11,and a really dear friend at this same time last year to that brutal killer.I can tell you from my own experience that it was the toughest thing I ever had to deal with.I was there to the very end w/both men,and it felt like my heart was being torn apart,the grief was overwhelming. but praise God both men were believers.When my stepfather(of 43 yrs.)died I watched him take his last breath.I was crushed,but then the strangest thing occurred the Holy Spirit came over me with not only peace but joy unspeakable.It was at that instant I realized that God gave me a father at five years old when I did not have a dad,and my mom a wonderful husband.the Holy Spirit brought
back to remembrance every good thing.I never thought I could rejoice in tribulation,but that's just what I did.My step dad was a blessing here on earth and I know he will be a blessing in Gods kingdom.We can be selfish wanting to hold on to them,its only human nature.From what Ive read your Dad is ready for the kingdom,and man are they gonna party when he gets there!I,myself,revel in the fact that we are all going to be together again,never to be separated by death.No more pain,
no more tears,Only peace ,Joy unspeakable,and the comfort of being in the presence of our Lord for all eternity.Ill be praying
for you,may you find peace and comfort in Gods Holy Spirit.God bless you!
Your brother in Christ Jesus Paul.

[Loreeann32]

I want to thank you all for the prayers and support for this situation. The whole family was able to attend church this Sunday on Easter. My father does not look good. I just got news that instead of the cancer in his lungs, it appears to be ALL over. He is still up and walking around, and is not bad yet, but it is coming. I really do believe in maricles, but I do not know what God has in store for him. He was in church yesterday, saying God is not done with me yet. I am soooo glad he has the faith... but he goes to 3 more dr's appts this week, another heart surgeon, which is just for confirmation for him, to tell him that they cannot operate on this anurysm. He has hope, but really these dr's say there is not any. Of course, I know my God can DO ANYTHING, and he can very well turn this situation around, if it is his will. Who is to say. Then he gets a biopsy, they canceled it last week. They did not give us a round about figure as to how long he has, but I am sure we will find out this week. Please continue to pray, I believe the shock has wore off for me now, but I really, really am thankful that God has let me spend time with him before he goes.. Some people do not have that. And the family is doing just that. I enjoy everyone that posts something positive for me, it makes me feel better. It makes me stronger, and i love my christian family. Hope everyone has a wonderful week, and I will pray for all also. Thank you all for remembering me and my family... May God bless and Keep you.....

Lori