Christianity Oasis Forum

[Dora]

Praying for you sis. It is good to see you sharing here.

Faith and trust. All the way.

Praise Him in the good times. Praise Him in the bad times. No matter what life is bringing you, praise Him.

He loves you. And so do I.

[dema]

I think that you perhaps should pray that God fill the loneliness and not give him instructions on how to do it. I was also very lonely in my marriage. even though I had a lot going on in life other than my marriage.

Do you have a church? I know it is very difficult to go to a new church alone - but we need other Christians and they also can fill the loneliness. That can also lead to ways of helping others that can help the loneliness.

I still have a difficult time going to services alone, even though I have been going to this church for years. I don't know why it is so hard for me. But, I go to Sunday school and I volunteer and I try to go to an actual church service once a month to take communion - that is me. I am giving you an example - not instructions. They have women's Bible studies at most churches and those are great for women whose husbands won't go along. I am in one now and I love it.

This site has been wonderful. I have gotten into PM with a number of people and we write back and forth on the message board. That helps a lot.

I don't know who you have in your life that you could offer kindnesses to. I have grandchildren and when I am lonely I will plan something for a grandchild or offer to babysit. I also volunteer through my church occasionally.

God is the best filler of loneliness - and studying and learning about him and praising and singing is wonderful. Expect answers and expect results.

However, you may need to do some reaching out to others as part of God's plan for you.

God will nudge you if you need nudged. I find that when I hear and take notice to the same kind of thing several times in a week - that it is frequently God's nudgings. I pray that you may have discernment.

Hugs.

[UpSide413]

Thanks guys for the words of encouragement!

I do attend church regularly and hubby teaches there. But not to go into detail that is one of my loneliest places to be. It is very hard to get involved and enjoy a place that you totally disagree with a lot that is happening. BTW my hubby agrees with me on that too, but isn't willing to make a change. He is stronger spiritually than I am, so he doesn't need "feeding" as much as I do. I tried going to another church (with his approval) and he stayed at the other. I truly felt God's present and loved the new church but couldn't stand not going with my husband, so I went back with him. We've been there 20 yrs. and it would be very hard to leave completely, but I need to be around spirit filled christians!

Grace forgiven and forgotten!! Wow! It's amazing the God of the universe can forgive me, but that is one of my biggest hurdles. I'll keep working on that too. I sometimes wish I was like my dog. He loves even if he has to be put in a room for a couple hours by himself while company is there. He loves even when he isn't fed on time. He loves even when I forget to let him back inside for a bit. He loves even when he doesn't get the last bite. I want to be like that, with myself and with others. That will only happen with God's help!

[Dora]

I can relate to the church situation very well. Twenty years in a church simular.

When I asked Gods will He wanted me to stay and to pray. I have been blessed to see Him be asked back into that church. Change is slow but well worth watching for.

If it is His will you stay, give it your all. Prayer for His will over them, and forgiveness for what they've done. Gods will be done in this.

I've found hurtful things are done mostly out of misunderstandings as well as one (both) not having a full understanding of Gods will.

Your husband sounds like a good man.

So good to see you posting and sharing.

God loves you and so do I!

[dema]

Sometimes I think loneliness is preparation for a calling. You may wish to be more diligent than usual in seeking God and in listening. Loneliness is a kind of hunger and Jesus fills us up.

[UpSide413]

Hi All,
I haven't been here in a loooonnnnnggggg time. It seems I just can't recover from loosing my sis and best friend. With absolutely no emotional support in my marriage, I am just having a hard time. I feel spiritually, menatally, and emotionally dead. Please pray for me. God can change all this, I just need a little miracle from Him.

[Dora]

I'm sorry for your loss.

Give yourself time to heal. The grieving process can take up to a year. And even then have moments where the ache of your loss may be so intense.

Keep your focus on your hope. That you'll spend eternity together. In just a short while. You've got a little more work to do for Dad then things will get better. One day at a time. God knows grieving and longs to bring you comfort. If you don't feel Him perhaps it's because He is grieving right beside you. Time to heal and Trust in Him.