Christianity Oasis Forum

[Christianity Oasis]

Greetings fellow Christians,

Is it not interesting how if someone gets addicted to eating, gambling, drinking, drugs, self harm, etc ...

We hear the Christians say "Awwwwwwwwwwwww, poor thing ... Let us reach out to this VICTIM" and they do so with great zeal. In particular, those who have or are experiencing the same symptoms from the same plague of the mind and body.

However, if one becomes addicted to sex ... Many of those same Christians choose not to get involved and still others get the torches and pitchforks, cuz we bout to have us a hanging.

Tsk tsk

I believe that 90% of the Christians within the Oasis have had or do have a sexual addiction in one way or another.

So, like they do in AA, I was hoping we could get a buddy system going within the S.O.S. forum between those who have been there and have overcome with those who are experiencing it.

If you feel led, please choose to join the S.O.S. forum.

I have joined this program cuz I KNOW the importance of it.


Your turn ...

Luv all of ya

[phantomfaith]

Amen. I too am joining this group becuz I know also how difficult it is too admit and work on things that we as Christians are too ashamed of or feel we will be judged if we open up to some people.

This is a great program and an awesome opportunity to talk and work out this addiction which can be like all other addictions that take you under before you actually realize what is going on.

GBU all

[lizzie]

Amen to all that you guys shared.

I agree that it is strange how most wanna keep quiet about something that every single person has to address at some point in time... sex and sexual desire. Fear of judgement can do that.

Its awesome that there is a program and a place here where folks can feel comfy knowing that they are among friends, who will not judge, but support and encourage.

I also will be getting involved with the program, and hope that others who are led to will do so as well.

Luv and blessings

[momof3]

Im in. Time for healing, time to let the shame we carry go.

love yous

in Jesus,
love momo

[Mercy7]

I am very grate ful for this program, and I'm glad that no one is being put down or judged or even angry for these things, it's hard when you have to keep this a secret from your family, but God sees it and I know He won't be angry either He will just love us all the more. Thank God for all of you here and for the programs here for the encouragement you all give, God bless you all

[Christianity Oasis]

As I said ...

I believe that 90% of the Christians within the Oasis have had or do have a sexual addiction in one way or another.

Whether it be simply thinking about sex a lot (oft times due to neglect from a spouse) or masturbation (even married folks behind the spouses back) or pornography or thinking of other people when having sex with your mate or seeking kinky ways to spruce up sex or looking upon others out and about with lust.

This too is sexual addiction.

I also believe that there are some who have been molested or raped as a child (some by their own family members) and this act has changed their ideology about sex and tho some despise sex from that point on, or have probs within relationships cuz of it, others became the predator (Which is a disease they caught from the predator) but keep it secret.

This too is sexual addiction.

This plague of the mind and body which we speak of has NO BIAS as to age, gender or martial status.

It, like other habits tends to require more and more as time passes. Just as the addiction to drugs and alcohol continue to evolve into harder drugs and liquor, this addiction asks the same of its victim.

Let us take porn for example ...

It may start with looking at various still images (pics) of half naked and then naked people and that suffices for a while. Then it craves more. It can evolve into porn movies.

But, it still is not done. The porn movies which were exciting at first become not enough to satisfy the lust, so it evolves into kinky type of porn. Even into beastiality and bondage.

And yet ... It still wants more.

It wants to be in REAL TIME.

Some head out to the clubs and/or cyber sex on the Internet.

Just as it is with the porn movies, it continues to evolve.

From one person to many.

From one method of sex to another.

As this plague within ... Fills it's appetite.

In the end ...

Despite how beautiful the person was, how excited you got, how kinky you got ...

You end up with that big empty void within, when you have ... Completed.

Oft times you sit there in the darkness in shame. If you have been at it a while it is more of a usual ending and you go about your business until the next ... calling.


Rascals and rascalettes ...

This is an addiction ...

No different than any other addiction other than the embarrassing aspect.

But, we can not use that as a reason not to be free from the addiction. One can not look down upon another because they have this addiction.

Now, I know most are gonna kick back like the cowardly lion on the show Wizard of Oz and say ... " I do, I do, I do believe in spooks" and not dare share.

But, I do ask those of you who have or do have a sexual addiction to come forth and share.

Those who have overcome get yourselves in here and reach out a helping hand just as you would with any other soul with any other addiction.

Those who have been or are caught up in this web, know very well that most words do not reach. That having a Scripture thrown at you and told good luck, does no good.

That TRUE help is needed.

That saying, amen I am cured, and running back to the shadows can and will be done if any should try and scold, judge or criticize and would do it in a second if someone plays "Holier than thou" ...

Those of you who find yourselves in judgment of these souls or feel like since you do not have a sexual addiction any longer so the opportunity at healing and Grace, knocked only for you and door closed when YOU decided you were not interested any more ...

Best post elsewhere cuz we will NOT allow any judging within this forum.

This happens to be one of the vices, which I selected in my life and it became an addiction.

If someone was able to judge me and CON-vince me that since I was caught up in the sexual addiction web, that I was CON-demned and I took it heart ...

There would be no Oasis which GOD uses to bring His sheep in for healing.

The point is ...

A man caught up in sexual addiction ...

Was used as God's tool.

So, those of you who have sexual addictions ...

NEVER allow the holier than thou Christians to CON-demn you.

The Bible is clear that if you break one law, you break em all.

James 2:10-11 ... For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all. For he that said, Do not commit adultery, said also, Do not kill. Now if thou commit no adultery, yet if thou kill, thou art become a transgressor of the law.

So, any violation of said law (sin) is a violation against em all.

So, sin is sin to the Lord.

And we all sin ...

1 John 1:10 ... If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.

So, NOBODY has ANY RIGHT to judge.

Allow nobody who does not commit THIS particular sin to ever CON-demn you.

GOD is your only judge and HE knows and judges the HEART.

This sexual addiction is just ONE aspect of the Original Sin that we are born with.

http://www.christianityoasis.com/keywor ... nalsin.htm



C'mon friends ... We were all once lil kids who thought the opposite of sex had cooties (I still do believe that of most of em actually)

We had no clue what up, until the enemy of our soul, by use of the world (whether it be a friend's whisper, tv, books, clothing of the day, family member, etc) triggered that dormant plague within us and here we are ... Looked down on by others and even ourselves, cuz we have an addiction.

A plague ...

Much like a flu virus that we got cuz we got just cuz we live in this skin.

Now ...

YES this is something we wanna be rid of.
YES we are to overcome.
YES we can do so.

But, it takes a lot more than a Scripture thrown at us and a few amens.

This Christian walk is a tough one.

We oft times wandered way out in the dark and it takes time to get back.

Oft times we need help finding our way back.

A friend ...

Someone to help us be acountable maybe.

So, like they do in AA, I was hoping we could get a buddy system going between those who have been there and overcome with those who are experiencing it.

I am curious who would be interested in getting involved.

If you want to join, you can also contact PhantomFaith or myself ...

Luv all of ya

[Ivan]

hi

This is interesting and very confusing topic in same moment.

I was sinner before I met Jesus.I was deep in lust and I had all chanches to "enjoy" that condition.Women I've been with was also that kind.Ok..

Then I met Jesus and I was told by the priest that sexuall activity is sin like other sins too.So...I become decent Christian.

Today I can control myself about this issue but there is some mental tricks comming as other issue..and that's what to do with it,sexuallity.

I mean,I feel bit depresed without woman's touch,I feel that I need that love.
On other side it is sin..?!!!So,I am comming through two periods..one is in non-sexuall activity and other is when I am looking for "love".

To be very honest with you guys I don't know what to think about it at all.

I could become monk if I decide to live without woman tho

Any smart thoughts about this?
It is really confusing

Ty

GBu