Christianity Oasis Forum

[foreverHis]

Almost everyone has heard of, or knows of, someone who has been verbally
Abused. Perhaps you are involved in a verbally abusive relationship. It is also
Possible that no one even knows your circumstances. Verbal abuse is a kind
Of battering which doesn't leave evidence comparable to the bruises of
Physical battering. You may be suffering in silence and isolation.
Verbal abuse is often more difficult to see since there are rarely any visible scars
Unless physical abuse has taken place. But it is often less visible simply because
The abuse may always take place in private. The victim of verbal abuse lives in a
Gradually more confusing realm. In public, the victim is with one person. While in
Private, the abuser may become a completely different person. Frequently, the perpetrator of verbal abuse is male and the victim is female, but
Not always. There are many examples of women who are quite verbally abusive.
A victim is often the target of angry outbursts, sarcasm, or cool indifference. The
Abuser's' reaction to these actions is frequently cloaked in a "What's wrong with
You?" attitude. She is accused of "making a mountain out of a molehill." Over time she loses her balance and equilibrium and begins to wonder if she is the one who is crazy. The key to healing is to recognize verbal abuse for what it is and to begin to take
Deliberate steps to stop it and bring healing. Since the abuser is usually in denial, the responsibility for recognizing verbal abuse often rests with the partner.

[loveiskind]

I sure put up with a lot of this when my mom was alive. I've shared the things she would say in other forums. One thing I haven't said in the forums, though, is that when she died, I couldn't help feeling relief--relief that I wouldn't have to listen to it any more. For a long time, though, I still heard it through satan and my subconscious. Thank God counseling has helped me get past that.

[flutemusic67]

I sure recognized a lot of that from my marriage. If I didn't have the Lord, I would have thought I was crazy for sure. God was always there, saying I was worth something to HIM as His child.

The bad stuff people say about you is easier to believe. But the love of God is much, much more powerful.

I accept God as my father, because he accepts me as His child.

[foreverHis]

Thank you Lord . that you love us and your eyes we are worth something..no weapon that is formed against us will prosper..girls we will go forward in Him...healing does take time, but it does happen..love ya all

[foreverHis]

thank you Echo....this marriage can be healed, you both are nice people who have been hurt, and now you are not sure how to build a relationship, with out it all coming out from previous relationships,can i suggest that you get a third person in to talk to you both? some one who can help you both, before you really hurt each other, becuase deep down i think thats all you need..just to have someone to talk it all through with...God bless you and yours my friend..