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[mlg]

You will love the time you spend with God...I pray His will is revealed to you and that you can find some peace and be obedient to what He would have you do.

luv ya

[grace2010]

Yesterday was a new experience for me. I fasted for the very first time. It was the longest conversation I have ever had with anyone. The first part of the morning was spent in Church and the remaining day in my room, praying and reading the word of God.


Please pray for me and my situation...in His love!

[Mackenaw]

Hello Grace2010,

God bless you this day.

God is Good, isn't He. Hallelujah!!! Thank You Jesus.

I'm lifting you up in prayers to our Lord. God's blessed will be done.

In Christ's love,
Sister Mack

[mlg]

Hello grace,

I want to share a story with you this day...a story that happened many years ago...but one that I hope will help you see the importance of speaking with your wife even more quickly.

My best friend from college dated a married man once when we were in college. She was single, but he was married. They ended up conceiving a child together. After many months...the man never told his wife about the baby or the affair. Then one day my friend and this man had very bitter words...and in return for what he had said to her...she called his wife and told his wife about the baby. See the thing is here...the news of his affair and baby did not come from him...it came from another source. I can only imagine the pain my friend caused this wife by her actions. What is more...my friend's actions cause a void. The man's wife forgave him after awhile and they are still together to this day...but this man has not seen his child since he was 6 months old. This child is now a 15 year old young man who has grown up without a father...being created out of sin and then in turn being shunned by his father because of that sin.

I want to encourage you to get things settled with your wife...and to also keep the door open to be able to have a help in raising this child...just as you are doing...as I know a 15 year old child who sure wishes he could see his father and step-mother at times.

My prayers continue for you.

luv ya

[grace2010]

Mlg -

Thank you for the story. I understand the additional hurt and pain that would be caused if the news came from someone else. I will not prolong this more than necessary. As I mentioned I did speak with this woman today, this issue is still very recent (the news came the end of June) and I plan on telling my wife once the guest leaves the end of this month.

I am asking God to walk with me as I have the conversation and I am asking that He prepare her heart. I don't know what will come, but as I think you have reminded me, it is all in His hands, and He has a perfect plan for me.

I know I made a mess of things, but at this point, I've asked God to forgive me, turned away from sin and now I am asking for His strenght, wisdom and love. I need Him and I desire never to be separated from Him again.

[mlg]

Very good...so you know the best thing to do is to wait til the guest leaves...and I must say I too agree with you as this will save your wife from any embarassment this issue may cause in front of a guest. I think that is a very caring gesture on your behalf.

Yes you made a mess...but guess what I see...God is helping you clean up the mess. I would suggest you continue praying and listening to God as I have a feeling He will begin preparing you with words to share with your wife in the time ahead. Make sure to show your wife daily just how much she means to you...as this will play a huge part in how she reacts to what you share...if she sees you are truly sorry and changing...then she may be able to better forgive you...as this is what she is going to need to do in order to heal her own heart when she hears what you have to share.

luv ya

[Guest]

I don't know if this is an area for you to look into, but your story brought to my mind a website that I referred to after learning about my husband's involvement in pornography, a path which leads to all forms of sexual sin.

I don't know if you have been involved in porn, but even if not, there is quite a bit of good information about sexual sin in general, including spiritual warfare needed to combat it. There are courses which you might want to take the time to review.

Although you are repentant, you have revealed a now vulnerable area that you must be careful about forever going forward. You must not let your guard down because this area of weakness has been revealed in your armour.

I distinctly remember when I discovered my husband's involvement, that I felt a "presence" in my home. God revealed to me this presence that was holding my husband hostage to sexual sin. I sensed it all around our home and declared war on these evil things invading my home and my marriage. God also prepared me beforehand and I had started memorizing scriptures pertaining to sexual sin. I had no idea why at the time, but I obeyed and later learned why. I encourage you to do the same - to begin memorizing scriptures that God has led you to and to pray that all evil presence be cast from your home and away from your wife, your children and the woman you had the affair with.

I was devastated when I found out what my husband was doing. And he was just "looking." But his heart was turned from me and his actions had caused destruction and damage in our relationship. We were having sexual problems and fighting and I had no idea why. I finally learned why. My husband never came clean to me. It took me 2 months to confront him. But, during that two months, I prayed feverishly to God. I obtained spiritual counseling. And I prayed that God would open a door for the right time for me to be able to bring up this problem into the light of God. I prayed for my husband's deliverance from the evil bondage.

I will pray for you:
I pray for the right time for you to bring this into the Light with your wife. I pray for God to lead you to local spiritual counsel for the long road ahead.
I pray for the Lord to prepare the hearts of your family.
I pray for the other woman and her heart and the unborn child
I pray for the Lord's strength for you as you brace for any consequence that may result from your actions.
I pray for your receptivity to God's shaping and molding of you through this situation - to His glory.
I pray for God's grace and glory be evident at all times.

[Dora]

That's terrific where the Lord has brought you.

Couldn't be happier to see such progress!

Continuing to pray for you and yours.

[grace2010]

I am trying not to get ahead of myself, or ahead of God, so will focus on my relationship with him and getting prepared to have the conversation. I will then take the next steps and prepare to do what is necessary, always obedient to God. The devil will be attacking from all sides, he will clearly want to get at her. He will use others to suggest so many things that may not be according to God's will. I pray for her faith and that God comfort and giver her peace.

Please continue to pray for me and all those involved.

[Guest]

Brother, My heart truly breaks for you and the sorrow you are feeling. I will continue to pray for you and all involved.

By the way, I tried to place the website in my previous msg, but it was gone when I looked at the post. I'll try to post again -

Teapot, the terms of use state that no web links outside of christianityoasis.com are to be placed in open forums or chat rooms. Please feel free to send the link via private message. Thanks for understanding

There are courses within here that speak specifically to sexual sin, including spiritual warfare and building your spiritual armour.

[mlg]

Good morning grace One thing is that your wife knows that you have done something wrong...so she is now able to prepare herself for what is to come. I want to suggest that you ask her to pray with you in the days to come...that will be a way to strengthen not only your relationship with God but your foundation in your marriage being with God.

You need to prepare yourself to do what is right in God's eyes...I want to share with you about your wife a bit. You mentioned you are a type A personality and always need to be in control...well now it's time to submit that control to Jesus and let Him be in control. Your wife is your helpmate...and you need to love her as you love yourself. This means whatever you do and give yourself...you should do the same for her. She needs to be your partner in all things...and she should be your support and you should be hers.

The enemy knows your weakness...and as you stated he will try to use it against you as many times as he can...but that's why you must strengthen yourself in God so that when he comes a knocking again, you can send Jesus to answer the door.

My prayers do continue for you and your family and this baby.

luv ya

[Dora]

Haven't heard from you in over a week. Was wondering how you are doing. Saying a prayer today for you and yours. Hope to hear from you soon.

God bless and keep you and yours.