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[Guest]

How can you deserve the title of mom if you dont choose to exercise it?

[mlg]

Being a mom is more than being called mom.

[Dora]

Who's the judge to say if someone has earned it?

Such as we have a mom at church with six children all dressed in white (I kid you not!) From age 14 to a baby. Walk in straight lines with out saying a word and sit through church with their hands in their laps, not one even requesting a bathroom break. Not a hair out of place and all of them smile and say the appropriate things at the appropriate time. I seriously am not exaggerating.

Then there's my crew in the back row, holes in their jeans, arguing he touched me, she touched me, he touched me, she touched me, while the third bops the guy in front of us over the head with a hymnal and so on and so forth until church is over then I slink out quickly while dragging my kids behind me before we receive any more attention than we already have. This was when they were little mind you. I allow them to make all the ruckus they want now that they are teens.

To mom #1 I stink as a mom.

But I can look down to the mom that feeds her child junk food, screams and yells profanities, spanks over something small but lets him get away with something huge, and lets him stay up watching terrible movies till 2am. To me I could say, Bad Mom! Cause she's a step lower in her training than I am.

She in turn can look down at the mom who neglects her children. Beats instead of spanks, and so on. And say, that mom doesn't deserve to be mom.

What about women who abort? They are still a mother of that child. Just cause they choose to not be right now. One day they may want to be and be filled with grief over their decision. Do they get their title back then?

It is difficult when we are close to a mom who is not trained in how to be a good mom or is so self centered she doesn't care to be mom. We might even get angry cause we hate to see kids hurt.

With being so closely involved with many mother (and fathers) who need training on good parenting, I find it hard at times to not get upset and angry, but I find it best to just live and let live instead of playing judge of who deserves. I can easily get caught up in emotions and trying to literally play judge as I try to decide if the parent deserves to have her child after what they did to him. For me I have to let the courts, CPS and Child and Family services do their job. I try to train the kids and the parents with the limited time I have.

Ok that's my 2 cents. Not sure it's worth 1/2 that.

Love ya gals!

[vahn]

How would I know ?

(oops , its that me thing again)



Luv y'all
In Christ , our Lord

[Guest]

Well I can honestly say pine you still not changed my mind about Jadens mom.

She is not his mom, I am he knows me and im a bit ticked with her today.

My post was a thought about her not judging anyone.

Do you know she called me last night and stated why dont you correct him your not his mom. My answer to her was, he knows me as both but untill she decides to make time and acctually show up in his life I will always be his mom.

[Guest]

moth·er 1 (mr)
n.
1.
a. A female person who is pregnant with or gives birth to a child.
b. A woman who adopts a child.
c. A woman who raises a child.

2. A woman who holds a position of authority or responsibility similar to that of a mother: a den mother.

3. Maternal love and tenderness: brought out the mother in her.


adj.
1. Relating to or being mother.
2. Characteristic of a mother: mother love.

v. moth·ered, moth·er·ing, moth·ers
v.tr.
1. To give birth to; create and produce.
2. To watch over, nourish, and protect maternally.
v.intr.
To act or serve as a mother.
3. a female substituting in the function of a mother


Not anywhere I can find that a women that has abortion is a mom!

[mlg]

Now Now I have the definition of a mother...and I know it's the correct definition cuz I googled it....don't believe me google it..

mother-A stringy slime composed of yeast cells and bacteria that forms on the surface of fermenting liquids and is added to wine or cider to start the production of vinegar.

Nothing like being a ball of slime in my opinion.

disclaimer: I am not calling anyone here a mother either.

[Dora]

Oh my goodness mlg you are a nut!

flo I wasn't sure if you were talking about someone in particular. I suspected you were, but this is a random thoughts forum.

I pray you find my words as an encouragement from one of Gods children to the next.

I have thought and prayed over this and decided I can't do you any favor to not share with you that the road to peace is forgiveness. I'm sure you already know this but we all need reminders as times. I pray you reach for peace. Not for her sake but for yours.

Love you.

Happy Mothers Day!