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by **learningtoagape** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 12:52 am

Forgive...whew...
Well first forgive myself. I though I had forgiven myself until I was getting ready for bed and the Holy Spirit started showing me different sins that I had not forgiven myself of. I still felt guilty :-( I know that I have to forgive myself because God forgave me. Forgive others. Actually I have truly forgiven the people that have hurt me in my life....except one person...I feel like if i wasn't for him........(I've never said it but secretly I hate him!) I know that's so horrible. But I feel like he ruined my childhood. Wasn' bad enough that my dad wasn't there and my mom and I weren't close ....he just ruined it more. Filled my life with shame and I think I really get angry cause I know for a fact it's not just me. I know others and I wonder how many others he's ruined... :-( But I know I have to forgive him....I'm praying God give me a heart filled with your love so that I can forgive him becuase it is very hard! God has forgiven me of so many bad things and I know that I have to forgive him. I am compelled to complete these 14 days. I feel that God wants me to do it. So even though I'm tired I force myself to do it because I need to and I know God wants me to. So I'll be praying God fill me with your love.

by **Dora** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 6:35 am

God can remove this unforgiveness that is with in you.
I know it's difficult because you lost a lot.
He to was just a pawn used by the enemy.
Forgiving him is not for him, but for you and your relationship with God.

by **momof3** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 7:59 am

hey sis....start with just deciding to forgive him. Decide that he was used by the enemy. Decide to ask God to bless him and not hold him accountable to eternity in hell...this is what helped me, knowing I had sinned and hurt other people as well. I know how hard this is, but you are right. We have been forgiven for so much. The hard truth is..if we were all help accountable for even one of our sins, we would all spend eternity in hell, seperated from God. Ask the Lord to help you forgive. It will come, but it starts with a decision to do so. Forgiving yourself is hard, also. Remember, when you ask Him to forgive you, He remembers it no more and its the enemy again that keeps throwing his darts at you. Remind yourself that God's grace is sufficient and complete through Jesus' sacrifice..out of His pure agape love for you.

keep going, sis. He is right beside you.

in Jesus,
love momo *Halo*

by **mlg** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 8:31 am

learningtoagape...forgiving that one person who has hurt you so...is important to being able to be free from the past. Forgiveness is not saying that it was ok for him to do what he did...what forgiveness does is let you move past what he did. Forgiveness will allow you to grow closer to God. Let go of the hurt and let God handle it. It's not for you to carry any longer sis...God wants to take this from you...I encourage you to let Him.

Forgiving yourself is another huge step. God does not want you to continually beat yourself up because of the sins you have committed...He wants you to let Him have those as well. He wants you to accept His grace. As long as you continue to blame you...then you can't accept His forgiveness...so time to put this blame away..and forgive YOU.

Praying for you sis. Your doing great on the steps...Keep fighting the good fight.

luv ya

by **deetu** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 12:02 pm

learning, as I was reading this post, I got a vision of you all tied up in a tight ball on the ground...the rope being the unforgiveness
But right next to that was the continuing vision of the rope laying on the side and you walking, reaching for the light shining above... oh, what a look on your face...such peace...such hope....

by **vahn** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 1:04 pm

The only thing I can add to what already had been said is my own experience .

I too , like almost all of us , had difficulty with at least one person that we think we can ever forgive . I myself adamantly refused to , let alone give it a thought . But , something happened , (through prayer and meditation , and not necessarily about the subject ) . See , I was kept in bondage to that person , and they were occupying a good deal of a space in my very being , that all else was almost getting the second hand treatment , and that , was bothering me even more , so consequently I was being kept "bothered" at all times .
Like someone suggested , I was asked to pray for willingness to forgive , because by not doing so , I will be dragging that ball around for as long as I let it . So , you see , the question I got left for me to ask wasn't about forgiveness at all , but rather a decision of freeing the chain attached to that ball , looking at it from that perspective things started looking easier to swallow .
Stay in that cell , or walk away free . We don't forgive so the other will be set free , or lead a happier life , repent , or even hoping to treat us better and all that . We forgive so we may free ourselves from the bondage so that we may BETTER do His will , .. to others .

by **learningtoagape** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 1:15 pm

Thank you all. You all have given me some wonderful things to think about. I love God and I want to please him. Once again thanks . I will continue to pray *Pray*

by **Tam** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 1:21 pm

I agree with everything said above. I have one question for you
Are you going to let that one person steal your blessings. Forgive them. Just make the choice and ask God to help you and He will.
Keep up the good work sis....you have way sis
Luv ya

by **mlg** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 1:26 pm

It's awesome to see you praying and pondering....Think on good things

luv ya

by **Mackenaw** » Thu Dec 10, 2009 2:07 pm

Hello Learningtoagape,

God bless you this day.

Forgiving others that have done horrific things to us, seems nearly impossible. But it is not, when we have the love of Christ within us. We do so with His love -- ours, alone, is lacking.

The world teaches us that someone needs to be held accountable for the atrocities against us -- especially those atrocities that have hurt us so deeply and left a mark -- seen or unseen. Jesus has been held accountable for those atrocities. He had to bear the pain and suffering -- both physical and mental -- on the cross for every sin human-kind has perpetrated against man and against God.

Just as we are able to forgive ourselves by the power of God within us, we must extend that forgiveness towards all mankind. Trust God to make amends -- He is the Judge of all mankind. In so doing, it frees us of the bondage that attached itself to us and ensued from the initial horror against us. All offenses include bondage -- whether we choose it or whether someone else chooses it for us. So, until we take it to God and ask for forgiveness, the bondage hangs on to us like a stench. Forgiveness cleanses us from it.

While you may not "feel" like you want to forgive this person -- choose to do so by the love and forgiveness that Jesus has and is giving you to extend to this person. Jesus is right there with you, and it is with His forgiveness that you are empowered to do this. Once you have, believe it. Don't allow thoughts that remind you of the incident(s) to convince you otherwise. Speak aloud "I have forgiven by the power of Jesus." and keep saying it until the thoughts quiet themselves.

We are told to take every thought captive. That means every time a thought associated with the offense against you comes to mind -- don't allow it to dwell and take you captive, but instead...take it captive, and say to it "I have forgiven by the power of Jesus."

Jesus loves you so very much.

I am praying for you. God's blessed will be done.

In His love,
Sister Mack

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