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by **mlg** » Tue Oct 27, 2009 7:44 am

Ok Psalms, start your chart simple. Just a few items. You can always go back and add to it. Then each day check your chart of items, and check them off to make sure you do them. Very simple, and besides it will help you be more accountable in your walk with God. Come on my friend, you can do this.

luv ya

by **comfy** » Thu Oct 29, 2009 3:26 pm

And it can be good to trust God to bring things to mind, in His timing with different things He wants to do with us. And He has us involved with others He uses to help us and has us sharing together . . . feeding us along, so we are not cramming, but a mouthful at a time. We can get isolated, in giving too much attention to ourselves, when we need each other to help us and to share with us in what is better, that we need to get on to.

We trust Him to be guiding us so things fit together His way and in His timing.

Trusting You to do this with us . . . writing *in* us what You want . . .

by **deetu** » Thu Oct 29, 2009 10:08 pm

Psst... I'm bad with charts too :roll:

by **comfy** » Fri Oct 30, 2009 7:26 am

For me, it works to wait for God to clear everything from my mind and purify me into His peace, then see what He writes

and be open for how He has planned this day. And He brings correction things during the day, feeding them in. I think of >

"nor as being lords over those

. . . . . .entrusted to you,

. . .but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)

I am not to lord myself over anyone > lording over includes how I can just criticize people in order to be over them, somehow. And just *using* people for pleasure and attention that I want. Arguing can be lording over. And me trying to use words just to control people to understand me, intellectually, instead of really getting into the love and peace and goodness of joy with the LORD that His words mean. So . . . with any person, at all . . . I am to love them, first, not to try to just use anyone for services at the post office, etc. . . . but first care about each person.

It says "entrusted to you" > God is trusting each and every person to us, for this > every one we see, know, think about, find out about in the news . . . first to be loving and caring for each one, with hope of prayer *for* any one, at all > love "hopes all things" (in 1 Corinthians 13:7). So . . . we *are* being trusted

by God, Himself.

And *His* chart will include every person He will have for us to love, today. While enjoying Him in His peace > "And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15) If we are busy with this, there are a lot of things that will turn out to have to go, things we might not have thought about, but being in His peace will show them up *run*

by **Dora** » Fri Oct 30, 2009 10:52 am

Hello Psalm *Wave*

Don't get hung up on the chart.
Start with easy to accomplish goals.
Then challenge yourself more and more as you reach those.
I am not good marking off or adding up mine.
But it's there where I can see it and I'm reminded of what I want to work on.

luv ya

God bless and keep you.
Sending up a few prayers for you.

by **Guest** » Sat Oct 31, 2009 12:09 am

thank you all for the encouragement.

I'm going to try to make a chart this weekend or this coming week.

by **mlg** » Sat Oct 31, 2009 10:04 am

Cool, and if you look at the top of this forum, you can print off a chart and just add your items to it.

luv ya

by **comfy** » Sat Oct 31, 2009 10:50 am

I'm thinking, start with a little. And build up. Or . . . there is what is most helpful for me to realize . . . start with what I know is most helpful and encouraging for me to do and seek . . . versus just putting a whole bunch of things on the chart, in a lot of fine details. Like in my case, I can think of how I need to not be criticizing, first, but first be caring about people who are a problem for me. And be submitting to God, all the time. This might not make a big chart, but I'd say these are the two main and major things that I need correction in, and I'm encouraged by how good these can be for me and others.

Making my bed . . . might be a discipline and order issue . . . but . . . maybe not a major importance item for loving

And there is dust accumulating in corners of my apartment > now, am I going to put this on the chart, versus using time for sharing with others here in our counseling place and other places? I think a little dust is not quite the priority as our sharing

The Pharisees would have expected Jesus to put keeping the Sabbath on His chart, but meaning He would not heal on the Sabbath. So, there are things we don't really need, details that even can be misleading. "Owe no one anything except to love one another, for he who loves another has fulfilled the law." (Romans 13:10) There are people who are very busy with what they feel they owe religiously, but this does not include how to love all people, or personally submitting to God and sharing with You, LORD, in Your love (Romans 5:5)

There are men who think they owe themselves to work like crazy to pay for video games etc. for their kids, but how much time do *they* spend with their own children? But for their own self image, they suppose they have to show themselves to be men like the others who provide vain things but not themselves loving with their families. Ah . . . so we need to pray for *You*, LORD, to show us what is on *Your* list for our charts

And I keep finding You have more and better than I would have thought > surprises . . .

by **Tam** » Sat Oct 31, 2009 11:06 am

Psalms don't let the chart be overwhelming start with a few items on it and then add to it as you get those down. Once you start going by the chart I think that you really will enjoy it. Baby steps with the chart ......You can do it

by **blessedprincess** » Fri Nov 06, 2009 5:39 pm

well I am sooooo glad about this program and this website as a whole.

My problem is with my husband, i spent soooo much time trying to make him happy, i lost myself and put aside my happiness. I let him walk all over me, i need to be strong and stand up for myself. I have made a commitment to myself that i'm going to be a little selfish for a while.

I can't believe that this man actually attempted my murder and i still love him and over look what this man is doing and continues to do, and I allow him to do it. I believe that this program will definitely help me to be strong, not only in my marriage but with my struggle with sex and other aspects in life.

by **mlg** » Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:13 am

Hi Blessed Princess welcome to the Counseling steps. There is truly healing in these steps and I'm delighted to see you beginning the steps. For the next step sis, may I suggest you begin a new post here in the forums so we can comment to you as you go along. This would be great.

Sounds like you have some struggles that you've been through, especially where your husband is concerned. Just know that God is still in control, and He wants you to grow closer to Him and then He can begin to work on husband....but God wants you to heal and He has a plan for you.

As far as the sex addiction goes sis...this is a temporary pleasure that you are seeking to fulfill a void in your life. Jesus wants to become that permanent pleasure and wnats you not to need to seek out temporary things anymore.

Praying for you on this journey sis.

luv ya

by **Guest** » Thu Nov 12, 2009 12:52 am

Sorry everyone...
but i'm going to try again another time. I'm doing great right now though. The steps so far have helped tremendously and i will attempt again soon. There is just tooo much going on right now. Not giving up, just taking a break. I'll start a new post when i start the steps again.
keep praying for me *Pray*

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