Christianity Oasis Forum

[Domo1364]

Tonight we are reading from Isaiah 61:1 He has sent me to bind up and heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the [physical and spiritual] captives and the opening of the prison. We have all had disappointments and losses. Many of us have experienced abandonment and betrayal. We absorb many of these painful experiences, learn something and move on. Sometimes however, something happens that is so rough that we get stuck in it. The bad experience becomes a reference point for what we can expect form other people. It starts to become a reference point for what we expect form other people, from ourselves and from life itself. We find it very difficult to trust and to start out in neutral with new people.
Some people in your life may tell you to Get over it.

[loveiskind]

I know exactly what you're saying. It is easy for people to say "Get over it," "Time heals all wounds," or my personal least favorite "Your problem isn't so bad. Let me tell you what happened to so-and-so." They don't know what we're going through inside. Sometimes they don't understand that you're not looking for advice; you just need someone to listen and care. Someone to make you feel that you and what you're going through do matter.
As for confronting people who have hurt me, there is one person I'm not ready to confront yet. I have forgiven him in prayer, but not personally; I'm not ready to do that either. I still have an emotional open wound that I need to get healed first. I'm just thankful I have a counselor who does all she can to help me; have friends locally, here at Oasis, and other sites who love and care about me and want to do what they can for me; and most thankful I have God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit in my life.