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[Reba]

I 'm sitting here trying to figure out where to start . I'm chewing on a cough drop . I have been sick for a week and a half now . I had strep throat and a viral infection . The throat still hurts but no as much . I have a lot of stress on me right now . I lost my job in November . I still haven't found anything . I baby sit for a friend her son 2 days a week . He's 3 months old . He loves to cry he cries so much . Lucky my 15 month old daughter is easy , and quiet .
I' m fighting for custody of my 2 older daughters . There is problems with my ex' s nephew and girlfriend who live with them , And babysit them . My ex and his family have poisoned our 13 year old daughter's mind against me . She won't talk to me or come visit me . I' m suppose to have my daughters Tiffany and Casey one week and the ex is suppose to have them one week . My ex won't follow through with it . I just that we could work together to raise our beautiful daughters . Brings me to my oldest she needs a lot of prayer . she's full of anger . She hates school and won't even try . She skips all kinds of classes . she's not scared of getting in trouble . Her dad doesn't make her mind . That was one of our biggest problems in our marriage . I said no he said yes . I was always the bad guy . Tiffany takes care of her dad . She picks him up when he has a bad day at work . She comforts him when he cries . She helps take care of stuff and helps cook . She's suppose to be a child not her dad's keeper . He should be there for her . She lies all the time . It's hard to know when she's telling the truth . She's already had a few sips of alcohol . Her 18 year old cousin gave her some . I told her dad and he doesn't believe me . He wants to be her friend instead of being a parent . He doesn't want her to be mad at him . DSS is also involved , I called them on my ex because of the girls not bathing enough and his nephew He tried to untie Tiffany's bathing suit . I hope DSS is out of the picture soon . My husband is not crazy about Tiffany because she does rude things to him . He thinks Tiffany only comes around when she wants something . Even if that is true she's still my daughter and I love her . He thinks we have a daughter together I should just forget about my other 2 . Or put them on the back burner . They are my daughters I love them so much . My in laws tell me that my daughters are my second family . That I need to worry and take care of their son and the daughter I have with him ( their only grand daughter ) . They don't like Tiffany . All of this hurts me , stresses me out . I love my daughter so much , and Praise and thank the Lord for my girls he's entrusted me with . My husband and I have a lot of problems . He's an only child and still thinks the world revolves around him . No he's not saved . He uses all his money for himself . he does help pay the bills . When we get into a disagreement he calls his parents . His parents automatically take his side . They but in , I hate them . I'm sorry I know I need to let go of this hatred . Jesus please help me . His parents and I got into same big fights . When my husband and I got married my daughters were not invited . They were paying for the wedding and didn't want my girls to ruin their son's big day . I was heartbroken . They are in our business all the time . I don't want to fight with them so I say nothing . My husband knows I don't like when they get in the middle . when we have a fight . I worry what he is telling his parents and what they are going to say to me . We have been fighting a lot lately , been really depressed . He drinks a lot . he doesn't think he does . If he doesn't have a few beers for a few days he shakes . He drinks 6 - 12 a night . He knows it bothers me a little . His dad one time told me he has to drink he needs it . No one needs to drink . He plays video games . He spends so much money on video games and beer . There is so much more but I'll be here all day typing .

[mlg]

Wow Reba, all that does sound a little overwhelming when you look at everything that is going on around you all at once. If you begin to focus on just one of the areas, not all of them all at once, but just one, and say to yourself, this is the area I want to see some change, then you might be able to expend some energy, and get somewhere without feeling like it's too much. Jesus wants you to be happy, He wants to be your comfort. Take some time and just sit and meditate with HIM. He will give you the guidance and the strength you need to face each issue as it arises, if you truly place it at His feet. We often try to do and be everything to everyone, I know, because I'm this way personally, but remember you can't do it alone. Most importantly, all problems can't be resolved all together, so focus on the most urgent area, and try to put your attention there. Sometimes we just have to learn to accept the small things, as they aren't near as important as we make them out to be, and it's the dragon's breath that needs a drink instead. I'm praying for you. Make Jesus your focus during this time, and I know you can make it through all of this.

Take care and God Bless