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Coming home - Day 1 Journal
Two weeks ago I returned home from helping to place my dad in a nursing home. I spent two weeks talking to nursing home administrators, lawyers, doctors and funeral home directors. Needless to say it was not the best time of my life.
My husband, who has basically withdrawn from our marriage, said he was glad to see me, gave me a slight hug and continued his playtime with his dogs. I was an emotional wreck and while I had talked to God during the 750 miles I had driven to get home, I was hoping there might be at least a little conversation; perhaps I was even looking for a little sympathy. We have been married almost 33 years, but for the most part of it have occupied separate bedrooms due to the fact that he likes to sleep with dogs in the bed and I do not, plus we have so little in common. He doesn't like to do the things I do, and I cannot, as a Christian, do the things he does. We were married at a time when I was not serving the Lord, and after I came back to God our marriage changed significantly.
He has no time for me. I am free to do as i wish, when I wish, etc., but there are times when the human touch would be so very welcome. This is not a new thing in our marriage, but this time it hurt more than it ever has.
I'm not sure this is what is expected on the Day 1 journal, but it is what's happening with me today.
My husband, who has basically withdrawn from our marriage, said he was glad to see me, gave me a slight hug and continued his playtime with his dogs. I was an emotional wreck and while I had talked to God during the 750 miles I had driven to get home, I was hoping there might be at least a little conversation; perhaps I was even looking for a little sympathy. We have been married almost 33 years, but for the most part of it have occupied separate bedrooms due to the fact that he likes to sleep with dogs in the bed and I do not, plus we have so little in common. He doesn't like to do the things I do, and I cannot, as a Christian, do the things he does. We were married at a time when I was not serving the Lord, and after I came back to God our marriage changed significantly.
He has no time for me. I am free to do as i wish, when I wish, etc., but there are times when the human touch would be so very welcome. This is not a new thing in our marriage, but this time it hurt more than it ever has.
I'm not sure this is what is expected on the Day 1 journal, but it is what's happening with me today.
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myluv4him - Posts: 4
- Location: New Mexico
- Marital Status: Married
Re: Coming home - Day 1 Journal
Thank you so much for entrusting us with your personal world; as a husband myself, I know how very important it is to take care of my spouse. I am sorry for the hurt and pain. We will be praying for you and I know there are many sisters on here who will be able to say so much more wiser things. God Bless. Peter James
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PeterJames - Posts: 9
- Location: Massachussetts
- Marital Status: Married
Re: Coming home - Day 1 Journal
Hi there,
I too lived in a situation much the same as yours for 21 years. I'm so sorry for your situation. I am asking God to speak to you and comfort you. Thank you for sharing "real stuff" with your friends here at Christianity Oasis.
God Bless You
Jamie
I too lived in a situation much the same as yours for 21 years. I'm so sorry for your situation. I am asking God to speak to you and comfort you. Thank you for sharing "real stuff" with your friends here at Christianity Oasis.
God Bless You
Jamie
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Jamie808 - Posts: 76
- Location: California
- Marital Status: Married
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