Christianity Oasis Forum

[Pert]

I've had real problems feeling a sense of community in the past, but even after hearing so many times that we are supposed to be a community of believers, I tried not to give up. Eventually, I found my way here, to the Oasis.

I've had some good experiences here, and tonight, I had a not-so-good experience. Downright discouraging, actually. While in the chat room earlier, I asked a random question about insomnia. Now, I don't know if any of the other members were medical professionals or not, and I wasn't really even seeking medical advice (I would rather seek a medical professional in person versus online, with all due respect). I was more wondering about any "home remedy" types of responses, just to see what other people may have had to say. Instead, I just got mocked. I was told that if it were really a serious problem for me, I wouldn't type "LOL" after my sentences, and that nobody ever died from not sleeping.

It might seem like nothing, or harmless responses, but to be mocked, especially when you're not joking, is hurtful. This is the reason I don't reach out to people more. I'm largely ignored when I reach out to people, and I'd rather that than being mocked. I might have to take a break from "community" for a while.

[Maverick_Reborn]

Aww, please don't go pert. Im sorry if anyone hurt you. I, along with many others, care a lot about you, and to lose you would be terrible =(

[lyl1114]

Same here, Pert! Don't go. Sorry that happened in the chat room...but not everyone is like that. A lot of us care!
I have suffered and still do sometimes from insomnia and it is NOT pleasant at all. It affect every aspects of daily life. I don't know any remedies except I try to read the WORD about peace. Anyway, Pert, hope we see you around here...

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Hi Pert please know I am like you in ways I back away when I feel coldness or uncaring response and then spiral into a depression of guilting myself of not being worthy or no one caring or wanting to help me.

BUT I will tell you be careful that you do not misunderstand just as they did, and if they knew you were serious then shame on them.....NOT you, we are here to lift each other and encourage as well no matter what the issue.
I'm sure most here have heard the saying "if you can't say something nice....DON'T say anything"
And there is much truth to that but in some here's defense we get to joking and too relaxed and not realizing our words can be taken wrong or seem insensitive.

As for your issue I had it as well but I have been blessed enough to come out of it mostly, I think most of my issue with it was me not realizing I was not wearing my body down (from being depressed and not wanting to do anything) and from sleeping all kinds of different and crazy times, But I use to be one to lay into the bed and was sound asleep minutes later until I separated and that is when my troubles started, today I still don't sleep like that anymore but I have gotten to where I sleep most nights.

I don't know much as for home remedies other than warm milk, hot shower, soothing music before bed, not eating right before, and lastly which I am sure you know and do.....Prayer before laying your head down.

Please do not allow words from another to push you away weather it was innocent or not, And just for the record I think you handled this rightly because if it was a misunderstanding the other party will see this and come to you with a request of forgiving.

God bless you sis and remember you ARE loved here!!
Cuc

[LaSombra]

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[vahn]

Hello Pert

If I were to count the times I felt being mocked , and sometimes I was in fact mocked , and made a decision based on that , I not only be leaving any community , but I would also be watching my computer leaving my room through the window . But , however , neither have happened yet .

Sure , there are those people who are ignorant , and yes I do agree with you that some statements do cause some sort of disturbance or other , but unless I am sure of the intent of that statement , I would refrain from making any decission before I aproach the person and finding out .

Someone is claiming it was them that made the statement of "No one died from lack of sleep" but , both you and I know different right ? ... Well you , or I thought you should know -- putting likes and dislikes aside -- that "mocking" another sister/brother in Christ is the last thing I would do , and yes sometimes I do say things that are not so pleasant ... but mocking and degrading is not on my menu any longer . and deffinitely not directed to you personally .

Last night , we had a very obnoxious person in chatroom that was getting on everyone else's nerves , and I was one of them , in a state like that , no one could manage to say anything and mean it in its full extent , and it my opinion that you may have gotten cought in the cross-fire .

"Laying in the gutter , looking down on people" is for the birds .

My sincere apollogies


Luv ya
In Christ , our Lord
vahn

[Pert]

Let me go on record by saying that NOT ALL OF THE RESPONSES WERE MOCKING. There were a couple of people that were genuine in their answers, offering helpful suggestions, and even those who didn't simply said something like "I don't have any ideas" or something like that. It was not all lost. The problem was that once the mockery started, others in the chat room might have thought that I was the one making a big joke of it and, as these things tend to do, it picked up momentum until everyone was making rather insensitive comments. That's the part that got to me most. I was actually kind of serious. Like I said, I wasn't looking for expert medical advice. But I wasn't necessarily looking for jokes, either.

[Pert]

I realize that in my state of mild sleep deprivation, I may have been more sensitive than I would normally be last night, and for that I apologize. It's not something I intend to do, but then again neither is not sleeping. I really don't want to leave this community, and I'm not planning on it. Insomnia is a personal problem I'm dealing with, and I realize that I probably need to just deal with it on my own, just like any other personal problem. The chat room is not the place for that and I apologize for bringing it up.

[Mackenaw]

Hello Pert (((hugs)))

God bless you this day.

I like the suggestions (home remedies) offered by Cuc, and I find that eating carbs such as bread helps me sleep -- sometimes, even when I don't want to sleep. So, maybe try eating some toast, or an english muffin as a night-time snack.

As far as feeling like the community let you down, I'm glad you expressed your feelings and made us aware of the situation -- brought it out into the open...the light. I truly hope you are feeling better now, and I will be lifting you up in prayers to our Lord in the name of Jesus, for blessed and sweet sleep. May God's blessed will be done.

Proverbs 3:24 When thou liest down, thou shalt not be afraid: yea, thou shalt lie down, and thy sleep shall be sweet.

I have no doubt that over the past 7 years, I've unintentionally hurt others, because while I was being silly and joking with others, because we needed that outlet and our spirits lifted through laughter (a blessing) -- sadly, another was feeling down and felt further bruised by our laughter and occasional silliness. However, whenever it was brought to my attention, I earnestly apologized. And, as was the the case with you in Chat last night, and now here thru this thread -- You had a need but felt offended by the responses, but have now received an apology. Thank You Jesus!!! God is Good!!! May we all move forward in His love and grace and blessed healing.

The internet as a means of communication: while many blessings come with and through it, it still has it's disadvantages because our typed words can easily be misunderstood, without benefit of body language, facial expressions and voice inflections, etc. Food for thought.

Again, Pert, I'm so sorry you were hurt (((hugs))) and I pray blessed rest and sleep for you. May God's will be done.

God bless and keep you.
Love,
Mack