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[tankster34]

Blessings to All,

First of all, thank you for all the prayers. Here goes: I have recommitted my relationship to God and its been almost 2 months. What prompted me was an affair my finance' had and it made me see that I wasn't living right. I have forgiven him but it was very difficult at times. I realized that I couldn't just say I forgave, I actually had to do it and not hide it somewhere in the back of my mind and through the Grace of God and a lot of soul searching through the Healing Path I have done just that. We are working on our relationship and have definitely taken many steps back, we both have agreed that our relationship was 80% physical and 20% everything else - that's not the kind of relationship I want or deserve. We have decided that obviously we weren't living our lives right and thru this affair we had our eyes opened by the Lord. We are building our relationship on a solid foundation this time and there is no sex involved this time (I have to admit that we both miss that intimacy from each other) but we definitely are strong to resist and its necessary if we want us to last and be blessed by God. I would just like prayers for guidance, protection and direction and thankful that we have been given another chance to move forward with each other.

Second: I have a 19 year old son who moved out two months ago and I haven't heard from him since. We would butt heads all the time because I would never agree with who he hung out with or what he would be doing. I worry about how he is getting by and if he is safe everyday. I am divorced and his father lives in a different state so there is no help there. I just am praying for his safety/protection and if there is any opportunity to reach him, that God shows me.

Third: My other child who is 15 is visiting his father for summer and has been considering staying with him, which I was thinking it would be a good idea because I know he desires to have that relationship with his dad. However, my ex informed me the other day that his estranged wife is moving back to the state in which he lives and asked if it would still be ok if he stayed. I respectively said no only because she has never liked our kids, she has only wanted her and my ex together - she doesn't want to take care of his kids, she has even posted very negative comments about our children on her facebook - this is how I'm validating my decision to have him come back home. I am praying that my son will not hold this against me (he doesn't know the reason, I didn't want to hurt his feelings) and I'm struggling w/ the fact that maybe I'm not doing the right thing by making him come back (my ex said that she just said that out of anger because they were fighting), not sure if he is speaking the truth.

Whew - it seems like a lot, so I apologize but thank you so much for your prayers/thoughts. God Bless. Becky

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Praying for you and your family

[ServeGod]

Praying in accord for you and your family.
With ever household, Jesus must be that solid rock, the foundation to any home. The rest will fall into place. You need to ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in all things.

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Hi again Becky
I wanted to say it is great God has given you both the strength to do it right, I pray this is the start of a God fearing but God blessed marriage that will stand the test of time as well as the test of satan, please Lord bless this union as you see fit.

I really came in to post about your son (the younger one) you see I have a 15 year old son as well, and I would say if it were me and my ex was with a man that chose to make such comments or in any way show dislike for my kids I would make my self very clear it will not be put up with to my ex and at age 15 he is old enough to say no I will not be treated this way I will go back to moms where I am loved, but of course you need to stay in good contact with him and it would also benifit to know he will ALWAYS be honest when you do contact him.
My ex started dating and I told her RIGHT out front that while I hope he and her are happy....he better not hurt my kids...in ANY way, now some may think thats not very Christian like....I disagree, go hurt one of Gods children and see if it doesn't upset Him, it is a parents love and right to protect the children at any cost, they are only ours borrowed from God to raise.

Talk to your son instead of making this decission for him and explain Without telling of the facebook or anything hurtful
just give senerios of what if or that you want to know if anything makes him uncomfortable if he wishes to do this and that it is ONLY a trial period if he stays (after she comes back into the picture) and it doesn't work out let him know he is always wanted to come back home, and make this clear to dad as well

Again these are only my opinion as a dad of a 15 year old son as well
God bless and I pray He shows you the right answers
Cuc

[Timothy]

Praying for you and your family and all your concerns.