Christianity Oasis Forum

[empressnic]

Hello Guys,

My problems are many, I need a job that will allow me to properly pay my bills, I do have a Job, but my expenses are more than my income. another problem, i have been in a relationship with the father of my child for 13 years, this year. We have a son together and i recently found information that indicates that he is cheating. He has not admitted to this but we have grown distant from each other, and his behaviour is very confrontational and disrespectful. Third problem my son's father work overseas (US) which mean we spend 4 months together every year, this is not good for our relationship or for my son who is always asking for his father.

My home seem to be a place of conflict, things that should not cause a problem seem to. Now some detail into the relationship, we started talking when we were 20 years old and we have been together since. essentially he is a good person, a good dad. But he made me some promises that he has not kept that he will never cheat, that he would never hurt me. i know i may sound childish and hurt is everywhere in the world but loyalty is very important to me. I am a black woman, he is a black man and i believe he is cheating with a 20 year old white woman. so i am feeling as if there are some standards that i am not meeting. Because i can never be a white woman.

I need a change in my life and i need to start living a life that is pleasing to God. I have been praying a lot lately and i have decided that i WANT my family to stay together. So i have prayed and ask God for his intervention and i am requesting prayers as well. So now i am trying to build my faith and believe that my life will change for the better my home will become peaceful, my son's father will understand how he is hurting his family and i will get married and starting living a life pleasing to God, i will get a job that i like doing and that allows me to pay my bills properly

That is what i am talking into my life now. there is more i could read, but that all for now

[dema]

I know that what you are going through is difficult. Sometimes we hold onto the bad we know, or the inadequate we know, rather than trusting God for something better. Please pray about whether you should stay in this relationship. When God answers there is peace.

If a man is chasing after a much younger woman, it may be that he has fundamental feelings of inadequacy. That he needs his ego to be fed in ways that no woman can handle. That no person can handle.

God works in peace. I have found that Satan works in many ways to create conflict.

Seek the peace. Be willing to sacrifice for the peace.

God bless you. Keep stepping along the stones.