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Postby Bearer Of Light » Sun Oct 16, 2011 2:59 pm

Hello Pine, Thanks for the reply and its good to meet you also. Thanks for your words and I hope that we will get to know each other better in His name.

also another hello back to Momo. Thanks for finding me again in this vast sea of posts! I do have alot of faith but perhaps it is misdirected or a bit confused sometimes. I'm starting to think that things are starting to go better for me even since I started this program. i am feeling more confident and more of the belief that God is working his miracles for me. It is also great to start getting to know some of you in here. Hope to get to know you and others better so that we may pray together to God and that He will listen to us as a group :)

As for your questions:
What are your strengths?
Well, I'm organised, love to cook [been a chef and cant stand the pressure], like to be outdoors, like to drive cars... not sure what else, just my mind is so saturated that its hard for me to focus on things so I can select a direction.

What are your passions?
Love travel... just would love a job that allowed me to travel around the world and see all that God has created and given to man. I'm just inspired so greatly by the beauty and diversity of His Earth.

What really interests and moves you?
Other things that move me are possibly working in the media. I've had dreams all through my lifetime randomly that I was friends with all these celebrities. I have tried acting and doing other stuff but never got anyplace with it. Things that move me are usually fleeting and I dont retain the feelings long. Its weird. i would love to be able to simply know instinctively what moves me and make it a path in my life.... perhaps this is something God will show me...

As for the forgiveness part: I think that is something that I have only just started to really comprehend properly by reading the excerpts in this program. i have certainly not forgiven myself properly maybe. I have forgiven people, in my mind, who have wronged me but after reading the excerpts, I realise I havent forgiven all of them and I seem to reallt struggle with forgiving some of them for what they put me through. How do you free yourself 100% forgiving someone who really messed your life up?
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STEPPING STONE 4

Postby Bearer Of Light » Sun Oct 16, 2011 3:21 pm

After reading about this stone, I have realised that I havent forgiven all and everyone who needs it to be done. Maybe this is a step that I need to complete in my search for myself and my calling. I realise maybe now that I have to be completely free to allow God's help in my life and not be blocked by my remnants of anger and frustration with people I've had negative experiences with.

I thought alot about my dad who called me the other day to see how i was doing. Funny he called me to check up on me as I was wondering the same about him. He seems to be doing better financially than he was a few months ago. Anyway, things seem to be starting to turn favorably for me since starting this path... I do pray to HIM and HIS son Jesus that I will find what I seek. Please pray for me brothers and sisters and i will pray for you as well. God bless you and may we discover our paths together in this window of time that God has brought us together in search.

Amen and praise be to the Lord.

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Re: My step stone 1

Postby momof3 » Sun Oct 16, 2011 5:56 pm

Hi again, BoL *BigGrin*

My brother in Jesus, I can only tell you what helps me to forgive: people who have hurt me are hurt humans too. I dont know what your experiences are but know that each soul on this earth is in a battle. Some know theres a battle for their souls and some dont. Forgiving doesnt make what was done right, but only God knows our hearts and true intentions. He knows each story behind each act. He knows our hearts intimately. Souls have been twisted and hurt by our enemy, and made into something that needs our Savior to heal and change. None of us are immune to the pain and evils of this world. The enemy is after all of God's cherished. Forgiving frees you. It takes the noose out of your hands and says that you will allow God to be God. You will pray for those who have hurt you...and you will decide that you will forgive cuz you have been forgiven for so much, as well. God doesnt expect us to do anything He hasnt given us the strength to do. Its like the way He wants us to love each other. He wouldnt ask us to love the way He does unless He was able to instill that kind of love in us. It takes practice..and decision, bro.

Im praying for you. There is no doubt that He has a plan and will for your life. Just keep going. He will reveal it to you in His time.

God bless you, bro.

In Jesus,
luv momo *Halo*
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Postby Bearer Of Light » Mon Oct 17, 2011 4:46 am

Dear Sister in Jesus [I've never called anyone that before!],

It is so nice to read your message and get yet more insight into how forgiveness works. it never occurred to me that those who have hurt me are also hurt people. I suppose that those who are hurt, will cause hurt. Those who are free will only cause happiness and love to happen?

I do truly hope that He will show me my path soon. I guess you are right when you say He will reveal it in His time. It's just been soooo long I've searched... It would be great to finally know! *Halo*

It will be great to keep learning and practicing how to love in the way that Jesus taught. And I will be making more conscious decisions in forgiveness to ALL who have hurt me. I think that it all makes a lot more sense now. It will be easier to fogive those who have hurt me because its true: they have also been hurt and perhaps are misguided or know not their own souls are in battle.

I free myself here and now and forgive them all in His name. Amen. Let my brothers and sisters in Jesus be witnesses to my forgiveness. Bless you Momo and thank you again for your Godly insight. *AngelYellow*

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STEPPING STONE 5

Postby Bearer Of Light » Mon Oct 17, 2011 5:02 am

After reading my stone number 5 I have learned yet more and more about what my purpose may be in God and that it definitely is to glorify HIM. My faith is growing more and more and I hope that God will show me my path very soon.

The stone 5 was about emotions. This has opened my eyes and heart and soul more to see that some of these emotions are blocking me and keeping Him from doing what He needs to do for me and my life. I've seen that these negative emotions have also caused rifts between myself and family and friends and other relatives over many years. My spirit and soul need to learn calm. I will need to douse my anger, weed my frustrations which feed that anger, relax and feel my emotions and control them. Patience is something that I need to also learn to master. I believe that will be the key to my future success...

Thanks be to God for leading me to this website!
Amen.

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STEPPING STONE 6

Postby Bearer Of Light » Mon Oct 17, 2011 5:32 pm

I'm interested in doing this Miracle Grow project... lets see what happens and how long I can focus on it. I definitely need to renew my mind, that is for certain. Maybe even replace it with a fresh one! :P

I pray that God Almighty will give me the strength and patience to do this and more.
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Re: My step stone 1

Postby momof3 » Mon Oct 17, 2011 8:43 pm

*BigGrin* woohooo! I like the sound of sister in Jesus!!!

BoL,

There is not a doubt in my mind that the Lord led you here to find what you are looking for....to see His will for your life, and so very much more. Not only do we have people who are led here to do the counceling steps, we have visitors who are led in here and just read whats being posted. One seed, dear brother, ONE seed...thats all it takes. Faith springs like a well in the ones who needed that one seed of hope...and we may never even know it...but, God does. One seed....seemingly nothing to you..or to me....but the difference between life and death, hope and hopelessness...that's how the Lord works. Your faith is stronger than you know, my dear brother. Your love for Jesus is evident. Your love for His children is evident, as well. One seed, brother...the ripple effect is endless. Thats how He is *BigGrin*

Im so looking forward to walking the rest of this path with you. Praise the Lord, He is so good.

As for forgiveness, dear brother, It isnt always easy. Sometimes its the hardest thing to do. But, we are all human. We will hurt others...sometimes intentionally and sometimes without even knowing it. Seek forgiveness, forgiving others and forgiving you....in all areas...and dont forget, Jesus didnt do it half way on the cross. It was complete...it was finished...it IS enough.

God bless you, my brother. *hug*

in Jesus,
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Postby Bearer Of Light » Tue Oct 18, 2011 4:31 pm

Hello again my sister in Jesus,

Thank you again for your reply. I hope that my faith remains strong. Today I felt a bit down and out. It seems all the choices I have tried to make recently regarding a path into work have been disappointing me. I keep running into brick walls. People out here seem to not be very honest or straight forward or interested when it comes to providing help and information, its a bummer :(

I think that even though I forgave everyone - new frustrations arise within my current household. I guess I will have to continually forgive and forget about these things to maintain my focus on being open and available to God.

So very nice to walk with you sister *hug*
I hope that the two of us will grow to be 4, 8, 16 and onwards... I guess that being online doing this always has its mystery when it comes to meeting new people so hopefully more will present themselves. I will try and do the same as well when my confidence grows to that point :)

Bless you sister! til next time! be blessed with God's love.
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Re: My step stone 1

Postby momof3 » Tue Oct 18, 2011 9:37 pm

Hi BoL,

Dont get discouraged. The Lord will open the door He wants you to go through in His time. Ive found in times like this that although its really hard waiting on the Lord, this is when He is teaching us patience lol...and more. He uses each situation, bro. He is in this too, cuz He is in control.

Just yesterday, I was totally frustrated in waiting for something I know the Lord wants to do, but its not time, yet. You know the song..the waiting is the hardest part? But, His timing is perfect. *BigGrin* We so often see something as negative, when in fact, God is behind the scenes doing something bigger than what we could imagine.

Bro, dont be discouraged...if you have to forgive 7 times 70, or more...its His love you are showing. His mercy you are being a witness to. We are forgiven sooo much. *JesusSign*

Have you thought about going into the chat here at Oasis? There are many who come in during the evenings after work and such.

God bless you, my brother. Keep going..if you fall, get back up, dust off and move forward.

In Jesus,
luv momo *Halo*
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STEPPING STONE 7

Postby Bearer Of Light » Wed Oct 19, 2011 3:21 am

The stone of knowing your mind. After reading this stone I have learned a good deal more about my mind in God than before. I am often in touch with my mind and the state of it. Now, with regards to my mind and the need to renew it, I'm a bit confused and not sure how to proceed with it. My mind has certainly been tormented for many years with hurtful images and thoughts from all sorts of things that have gone on in my life.

I put my 2 year old son to bed tonight and I watched him as he fell asleep... thoughts came to me that his soul and mine are bonded on this earth for a short time... meaning our lives on this Earth are but a fleeting moment in God's time because God has infinite time. I wondered what we will do over our time together that has been given to us to share. What will happen once my soul departs this plane of existence some day? Do our souls remain bonded for eternity as father to a son?

My mind endures many such thoughts on a sort of regular basis. I do not know why I think about such deep things but certainly, they are not your every day thoughts that many people seem to have and share. My mind remains in torment I think. All the worries and dreams and hopes within me... seem to be far away now. I pray more than anything that God grant me some peace and direction soon. I feel sincerely lost still.
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STEPPING STONE 8

Postby Bearer Of Light » Wed Oct 19, 2011 4:04 am

I did stone 7 yesterday but wrote the log today as I was too tired last night to enter it - now here is stone 8 log for reading:

After reading this stone I had a thought come to me as an understanding of what it means about having a spiritual mind and a temporal body - the flesh being of sin.

I think that our test on Earth is that we are constantly at war with ourselves.
The mind always seems to be in conflict with the body. Could it be that God has designed us as a combination of good AND evil beings? To see which side of us prevails? If the flesh is of sin and the mind is the soul that belongs to God... that can only mean that we are always at war with ourselves. The spiritual warfare is always within us? we must endure throughout our mortal lives in order to prove to God we are worthy of His Heaven? His Grace?

It's a huge awakening to realize these things. Now I can understand when I have certain feelings from my body, yet my mind sends me signals that want me NOT to attend to those feelings from my body. The constant conflict! The stone also says that the enemy will always be attacking those that are a threat and not waste time with those who are of no threat.

Recently, a counselor I have been going to (who also is a preacher) said that I must be a great threat to the enemy if I am suffering so greatly. The enemy must be trying so hard to thwart me because I am so important to God. Her words telling me these things made me almost cry.

I thought to myself: why would God be so interested in me? I haven't done much at all in my life that warrants Gods favor that much (in my humble opinion). But perhaps from what that counselor said: I have a strong soul and spiritual presence.
I never believed or looked into myself that way, but I have sought this over the past 5 years... sought to open up myself to being more spiritual. My only problem is that it is difficult for me to get along with people because where I live, most people are undesireable to be near or talk with. so I have a time of trying to find people who are sort of like me. Most are not so there is no common ground to build any friendship upon. Maybe i shall try looking into meeting people of the faith instead of haphazardly, might fix it.

May the Lord watch over me and guide me to my destiny like a spear to its target.
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Postby Bearer Of Light » Wed Oct 19, 2011 4:12 am

Thanks again for your reply. It is great to have something to read from someone in the forum after posting my thoughts and feelings about this Path we are on. My dear Sister in Jesus, I have completed stone 8 this morning and it was a real eye opener so far from the rest of the stones. Please read if you wish and let me know your thoughts on my words.

After reading a bit of other replies I've seen in other topics, I wanted to ask you something: what keeps you going in life now after all you have been through? Is there anything that God allows you strength to do that you manage to find useful in your life to keep you going? Maybe sharing with me a bit about some things you've been successful with might help inspire me to have new ideas and fresh thoughts? I truly want to make something good of my life and earn the successes and comforts I know i can achieve. I just need to figure out what to do and where to do it.

I will probably try the chat at some stage... just to feel a bit more part of things here. Perhaps i may see you in there :)

In Jesus,
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