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[Livin4Christ]

This has been a rough couple of days, but I'll get to that in my later chains! Today's chain is abuse.
Chain # 2 - abuse
One year after I graduated high school, I married my high school sweetheart! I was so young and so much in love! It wasn't even a year into the marriage until things started happening that weren't quite right, but it took me many years to accept and realize that it was abuse. No, it wasn't physical and that's why it was so hard to discern. It was emotional, verbal, and mental. What my ex put me and my kids through, especially my son, was at times hell. I lived with it for 20 years because I didn't believe in divorce, I took my marriage vows very seriously and I loved my husband. I kept praying and praying for God to heal our marriage, but it just didn't happen. I don't know why, but He didn't. It took me a long time to realize that there are more kinds of abuse than just physical. I don't have any physical scars, but I sure do have alot of emotional ones and some of them are pretty deep! Don't let anyone tell you it isn't abuse just because he doesn't hit you! In June of 2008 we celebrated our 20th anniversary and by the end of that month he had moved out and told me he no longer loved me. Ouch! That hurt! In January of 2009, I filed for divorce and in April of 2009 our divorce was final. That was one of the worse days of my life! But, I had broke free of the abuse.

[Dora]

I'm sorry you had to endure that sis. I can understand how the effects can be long lasting. I'm glad you broke free.

I would love to have you share what effects it has caused and how you broke free and even those that may be trying to hold on.