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[grace2010]

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[Dora]

Please pray for me, please pray that God has mercy on my soul and that he lifts my family up during this time.

Praying for you grace2010

Love the name. Grace. God giving a free gift we don't deserve.

Have you begun the counseling steps?
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[SimplyBreezy]

Dear Grace,

Welcome to Christianity Oasis. I feel your pain that you are facing dear brother in Christ and I know your heart is very heavy right now. But I do know that you are on the right path, you have already chosen to repent and ask the Lord for His forgiveness. He hears you, and He will answer and work miracles in your life according to His will. All things we go through in this life become lessons, some well, in fact most are NEVER easy, but we all do learn from them and take from them the truth that God wanted us to learn, so please hang on tight to Him and He will lead you through this, one way or another. I know He is with you, He has never left you, even when you closed your eyes and heart to Him, He remained constant, just as He always will. You aren't alone, you are a loving child of Him and He will help you find healing in all of this, I have faith in all He can and will do for you.

I will be praying for your situation and all of those involved. I know you all are in good hands, His.

As Pine suggested, take a little walk along the counseling steps here, they are a life changing journey that can open up doors into new adventures with Him if you are ready to move forward and never look backwards on yesterday but LIVE for Him in the present and future.

If you ever want someone to talk to, or many to talk to, we have lots of members here that are always willing to listen. Come on into the chat room sometime.

Have a blessed day and evening in the Lord.


Sincerely,

Breezy

[mlg]

Hello grace2010, welcome to the Oasis. I so feel your pain and your hurt and I want you to know that God forgives you...and the first big step you have made is to turn away from the sin...which means you are heading back towards the arms of God.

There's two big things I see her that have to be addressed. Number 1 you are about to be a father again...and this new baby needs a dad in their life. This sin is not this baby's fault...so you need to begin making arrangements to care for this child....to make sure it grows up in the Lord...remember you asked how will God be glorified in all of this...in the raising of this child and bringing the child up to know that God is God and that He loves all no matter what sins they fall into.

Also, you are going to have to sit down and talk with your wife. This will be the hardest part...but make sure to take God with you. Be prepared for hurt and anger from your wife...as she is going to be very much so...and you have to be prepared to stand strong in God through this...and God has to become the foundation of your marriage...because without God as the center and the head of your family...the enemy will always have an opportunity to step in.

My prayers are with you, this new baby, the mom of the new baby, and your family.

Remember God still loves you and He has forgiven you...now you have to begin to work on forgiving yourself.

Come visit us in the chatroom sometime.

Take care and God Bless

[xxJILLxx]

hello grace2010,

Nice to have u here at the Oasis. I think this is the beginning of your healing relationship with the Lord.

Is there grace for me? You might be asking yourself and God.

The answer is YES, without a shadow of doubt there is grace for you. And it is free, no strings attatched... just because He loves you.

You know what i see? I see a repentant heart, God loves a repentant heart because we are willing to lay our faults before the Lord and ask Him for forgiveness and accept the consequences to our decisions. Its a tuff pill to swallow. But non the less one we have to take to be in reconciliation with our Father.

Keep your heart open to the Lord and do what He would have you do, He can take a bad situation and turn it for the good. I know that may seem farfetched at this moment but we must remain hopeful and know who our Daddy is. I think of David when i read your post and how he was a man after God's own heart. Why was that? Because he left his heart open to God!

As mlg has said take God with you as you go to your wife, i will be praying for all who are involved, for HIs will to be done.

God bless
♥Jill

[sweetlittleangel]

hello grace2010 . welcome to oasis family.

we are forgiven no matter what we did..remember He has taken away our past and future sins..all of it.

so we fall now n then..but dun forget His grace n mercy.

our offering..our brokenness.

only then He can make u whole again.

only He can. and He knows ur heart.

trust that He will.

[grace2010]

On day 13 of my steps. I feel awakened again by the Spirit of God, I feel His love and I am seeking to see His face and know His will for my life.

There are still so many unanswered questions regarding what will happen to my relationship with my wife and family. I have gotten past the point of dwelling on it so that it discourages me. I only know that whatever the outcome, it is in God's hands. I am still fervently and boldly praying to the Lord that He restores my marriage. I have to tell you that this is the biggest challenge to my faith that I've ever experienced. I have to confess that sometimes I look at this situation with doubt. How can God restore this marriage? I committed adultery and the woman I committed this sin with is pregnant. I have no doubt that God can do anything if it is according to His will. I believe restoring my marriage is according to His will. Daily I focus on His word and the countless examples of great men and women of God who fell to sin, but God raised them up once again.

I've asked that the Holy Spirit come into my life and stay with me always, provide me guidance and comfort me and show me God's will for my life. I feel deep within me that I have been forgiven, however, I also know that the consequences of my sin are very real and must be dealth with. I therefore ask that God give me the strength, discernment and direction to get through this time of my life. I know that the devil will continue to take as many shots at me as he can. He will come after me, my reputation, my job and whatever tools he has to move me from where I am right now, saved my the blood of Jesus my Lord and Savior. The devil should know that he is waisting his time though. I am a child of God, I will prevail in the name of God, I will continue to give Him all the glory and honor.

Please continue to pray for me and my situation. Please pray that it be God's will that my marriage be restored.

In His love...

[mlg]

Hi grace, day 13 huh...that is great!

You know the enemy wants us to doubt in God and what He can do for us. We often try to think of all the what ifs and yet most of the time...those things never happen. And at other times things do happen...but then we must accept that God is bigger than what is happening...but as we know there is often a reaction to sin...and when we fall...God will always be there to pick us up...dust us off and put us back on our feet.

I don't know the plans that God has for your marriage, but what I do know is that His plan for your life is already made and He has the perfect plan for you.

My prayers continue for you, your family, your new baby, and the mother of your new baby.

Take care and God Bless you.

[grace2010]

Everytime I have doubts or begin to have anxiety about my thoughts and what the future holds, I call out to God for His help. I immediately begin praying and asking that the Holy Spirit guide me and fill me. I have been through the steps and I daily get into the Word and ask for God to speak to me. There has been one thing that has been on my mind, and I am asking God to show me the correct path.

I know He has forgiven me and forgotten my sin, as far as the East is from the West, however, how do I deal with the consequences of my sin when there will be constant reminders all around me? The scars will be so evident. I feel secure in His love and I know that my spirit has been renewed. I feel so close to the Lord and even during this hard time, I get joy in my heart, I really can't control it, I just feel overwhelmed with positive emotions, but then I think about the circumstances and the impact on my loved one's lives and I can't help but feel guilty and sad. I trust in the Lord totally and I know He has great things for me, which makes me feel so loved and happy. I want to remain this way regardless of what is happening but I am constantly reminded of what I've done, and the see saw ride begins. Lately, I've been praying that even though it will be sad for them, that God will grant them the same joy and peace.

I know what I must do, trust totally in Him. He controls all things, and therefore, will meet their needs as well. Pray for me that I continue to let go and let God.

In His love...

[mlg]

Awww my friend...an answer to your question about how you will feel with the reminders around you...well it comes from a story about a man named David long ago. David laid with Bathsheba who was Urriah's wife...and in doing so David conceived a child with Bathsheba that then led to David committing more sin by having Urriah sent to the front lines of the army to be killed. Then God told David that the child he had conceived would die because of David's sin...and David went to fasting and praying for the child...but once the child died...then David went to eating again....and his servants came to ask him how he could now go back to eating after his child had died...and David answered as follows:

II Samuel 12:22-23
22 And he said, While the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept: for I said, Who can tell whether GOD will be gracious to me, that the child may live?
23 But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.

In other words what is done is done and we can't turn back what is done...so we have to look forward and seek God's glory in the matter always...those reminders are scars of what has been...but not what will be...you have a testimony to share...and it's how God can restore a sinner through grace always.

I continue to pray for you.

luv ya

[Dora]

Hello Grace.

You know the words, the truth will set you free.

John 8:32
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.

What seems to be coming up to choke you is what will be.

Perhaps it is time for you to share the truth so that you will be free.

The longer you keep this secret the longer you will be captive to it.

praying for you and all those involved.

[grace2010]

I've been praying and asking for guidance and strength. I appreciate all the words of encouragement and prayers. As a result and after reading some of the replies, especially the references to David, I have been getting this very strong urge and call to fast and pray. I need to be prepared not only in setting myself free but also in order to be responsive to God's call for my life. I have never fasted before, I am looking forward to the uninterrupted time with God and to be ready to hear what He has for my life.

In His love...