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[Dora]

God loves you and so do I!
Prayers going up for you and your family bro.

[Whisperingsprings]

I'm praying for you too, my friend.

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Hello friends,
I have very sad news, she is calling it quits...13and a half years gone.
april will be a very bad month for me because that's when we married
and now it's going to be set in my mind that it's also when I had to come to grips with what has become of my life because of my actions.
I was SO SOO mad at the lord last night after I left from talking to her, I know it's all due to my actions but I was so upset that I was doing everything I could to prove myself and show remorse for my failing in my marriage, I really hoped for the better outcome but He apparently has other plans...and after I calmed down and asked for his forgiveness for the anger I told the Lord with tears in my eyes that I was ready to follow His lead of where He wanted to take me next but it still hurts like hell!!!
I thought I was past the forgiving myself part BUT that all flooded back last night and I'm back to hating myself for allowing this all to happen and destroy my marriage and all things connected, you see I came from a broken home and I swore my kids would NEVER have to go through that and I was always the one to swallow my pride (even when I thought I was right) because I was the glue in the marriage but I couldn't fix it this time.
I just hope the lord keeps me close and keeps opening the doors of life so I can continue to heal and someday be happy again.
He IS my rock!!
please pray for me to have her forgiveness because I don't want her to suffer any more for my actions and pray that she has peace in her mind at all times through our Lord because she deserves it she is a good Christian woman that didn't deserve what I done!
luv ya guys

[mlg]

My precious friend, I am sorry that your marriage has come to this, but sometimes God lets things happen to us so that we can grow closer to Him. I know right now you are thinking...that you are to blame in this matter, but the truth is the enemy is the one who is to blame...you fell into a trap and now it's time to forgive yourself and let it go...then you have to get up and carry on as God has much more for you. There are souls out there just like you Christian who need a friend, need to know they aren't alone..or even more need to know that they are not damned to hell....and you my friend might be the one the Lord can use to reach them...but you have to lay down your old life and pick up the new...it's your choice.

Praying for you.

luv ya

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Hello my oasis family,
I have gotten my home ready to move into but I am so afraid of the loneliness that I fear will be there but I'm trying to get it ready so my kids can come over and spend some of their spring break with me, I just pray that this is what the Lord has for me, it feels right but I worry about finances, I just want to be independent again and have time for my kids, and myself to study his word and the other things I need to get my brain right, I have also started counseling but there again is the money issue so I hope the Lord has the plan that I see and even though I have lost the love of my life I still have not given up on her, but I fear she gave up on me a long time ago it just took this to allow her a way out, I really don't understand it because I'm not a bad husband (atleast I don't think I am) I always tried to do the things to show my love and commitment I tried to raise my kids with respect and I tried to do what was right in gods eyes (other than the porn) I quit drinking drugs and smoking and was going to church 3 times a week most weeks plus volunteering but somewhere I messed things up and lost her love and I feel I will never regain it.
please keep me in your prayers that I keep my strength and will to do His will and that finances allow me to be in this house and make it my home so my kids and I can have precious time together because I have come to realize that IS priceless!!
God bless all and prayers and strength be with you all in your struggles

[mlg]

Hey Christian,

So now you begin anew...building a life based around the love of Christ...make your new home one that would be inviting if Jesus comes to knock on your door tonight. He loves you and He wants to be there with you through the Spirit...look at this as a new opportunity...do not worry about being lonely...because if you are filled with the presence of the Lord surrounding you continually...you won't be lonely...even when you are alone.

If you find yourself becoming lonely...come here to the Oasis...and drop in the chatroom. We would love to spend time there chatting with you.

Praying for you.

luv ya

[Whisperingsprings]

Hi Christian,

I do hear you myfriend. Consequences do stink, but that doesn't mean that this can't turn out for good in the end.

In addition to this, mlg is right. You will eventually be able to use this experience to help and warn others from this particular pit. It's a bad pit, I know. And believe me, your warnings won't go wasted .

Please take care and yes, by all means go to the chat rooms here on CO when u feel lonely and weak. It will help. Best wishes. And praying, cause I know what pain is like.

whisp.

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Hello oasis family,
I regret to say I might not be on here for a week due to not having my own computer and having to use a work computer,
Good news is the reason I won't be at work is I'm taking a much needed vacation and spending some of it with my twins in my new home, BUT there is still that fear of being alone but I WILL be keeping God close and thinking and praying about you all, there are a few of you that I will miss talking to dearly and you know who you are, you've made me realize that there IS such thing as unconditional love because you have shown it to me through this site and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I also want to give our Lord praise for the feelings of peace and being able to more accept where I am and where He is leading me, I just need to be more aggresive in the following and taking as much in as I can.
Thanks to the Lord and you guys too
God bless (I will try to pop in if I'm able if not see you in a week)
Luv ya guys

[mlg]

What a wonderful week you will have...spending time with the little ones...and spending time soaking up the Spirit of the Lord...refreshment is always needed...hope to see you back soon.

Christian I read what you shared with skrubby about God using you...and I want you to know that God does want to use you...and as long as you stay willing...He will use you...Many are Called but Few are Chosen cuz Few choose. Glad to see you choosing to serve Him.

luv ya

[Dora]

I WILL be keeping God close and thinking and praying about you all

Me too! Enjoy this time. Hope to hear from you again soon.

[Whisperingsprings]

I do and will continue.

Please have a great time with the twins, and be blessed.

[Tam]

You are going to be missed ....Hurry Back