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[ChristinaSelah]

I don't know if this is the right place to post my journal but here it goes. I am struggling. I am aching and I feel so betrayed. 6 years ago I was in and out of an abusive destructive relationship. One day I could take no more so I sat on my front steps and surrendered completely. I wanted whatever God wanted for me. I thought that he would deliver me from wanting that relationship and move me forward into a new life. What ended up happening is a promise. A promise to me that if I stood for the salvation and deliverence of that man the Lord would make our family legitimate and whole in Him. I was led on such a journey and it was so hard but I believed and this man was saved and delivered and we were married. My children had their own parents together. Things have never been easy but we continued to move foreward and I continued to believe in the Lord for Him to complete his work in us as a couple and individuals. Well 6 years later everything has fallen apart, I feel devastated and no longer know whether to believe in the original promise or to Trust God for a new promise. And if I that original promise never fully manifests how do I know that anything I trust and spiritually fight for will not be stolen as well. It's hard and I know God loves me I just don't know what direction I am going in anymore.

[Tam]

Hi Christina Welcome to Oasis so glad to have you here with us.
Glad to see you doing the counseling steps. Yes you are at the right place.
If you are in an abusive situtation My first concern is for your safety. I pray that as you do these steps that our Father will answer your every prayer and do the work in you that needs to be done.

Once again Welcome to Oasis Nice to have you here

[mlg]

Hello ChristinaSelah, Welcome to the Oasis! We are so very delighted to have you here.

I know right now it may seem that things are falling down around you and completely out of control...but God remains firmly in control, and He is not going to let you go this alone. He loves you very much and wants you to lean on Him.

Christina, take this time sis to work on your relationship with God. As you do so, let Him work on the issues around you...try your best not to worry...I know this is hard...but God can handle anything...just let go and let God.

My prayers are with you and your family sis.

Come visit us in the Oasis chatroom sometime. Welcome again, and we are here for you.

Take care and God Bless

[vahn]

Hello Christina , welcome aboard .

Yep , I know and been to that "turning point" all too well myself . What I thought was the end of the road , happened to be the beginning of the next .

Just like when you first were what you thought was the end , He promised you , and fulfilled it , and now what He has for you is another , much better one . Remember , that's what He always did throughout Scriptures , " a New Covenant , a New Covenant " over and over again and again . He fulfills one , starts another . It is us that think the older promise is over , but in reality , we are simply at the transition point from old to new .

The mistake we make is to stop and stay at that point wondering what happened instead of looking forward to what will happen . These steps will help you do just that , give you a new direction of where He wants you to go next .

Once again , welcome , you're among your own kind , we all went through it one way or another .


In Christ , our Lord . .

[ChristinaSelah]

Thanks guys. I guess where my struggle really really is, is that this a family we're talking about. Not a job or lost opportunity but a family with children. I am not minimizing the pain of not getting that career position or anybody else's journey it's just the decisions that I make will have long lasting consequences either way for more than just myself. I came from a divorced family and really once I got on board with the standing thing was excited about breaking that generational curse over my children. So disappointing on so many levels and it's so hard when you want an explanation and you know God doesn't have to give you one. I keep focusing on the word of God and casting out all the lies the enemy is trying to feed me right now but I am not that excited about the journey of a possible divorce. Sounds like a long and painful one. No doubt it will pull me closer to God, but not fun.

[mlg]

Christina, nice to see you sharing some more.

I know right where you are sitting sis...I went through a divorce myself, about 6 1/2 years ago. Yes we had a child, and that was a heavy decision for me as well.

If there is any hope in your marriage sis, then God will use that hope to heal your marriage, if it is His will. But, if there are factors that are harming you, and your children, then God would not want you in any type of danger...or those children. I want to encourage you to spend some heavy time in prayer sis, talking to God and asking Him the direction He wants you to take. God brought you to the counseling steps for a reason, and you are on your way to finding His will. God's will always brings peace sis, not turmoil...so take everything one step at a time.

We serve a healing God sis...with Him all things are possible...don't give up. There ARE better days ahead...

Take care sis

[deetu]

Hi Christina
I'm not sure if I read this right. You asked if this was the right place to journal but do you know about the study?
It is a counseling program that is so good.
http://www.christianityoasis.com/cccc/forum.htm
Most people will journal as each day's lesson's progress.
The study is so helpful to someone who is confused and struggling.

Don't let the enemy feed you lies and make you doubt what you heard.
Things can change as time goes on. People have free will and can choose to not follow what the Lord wants.
I understand that the hurt comes because of your children.

I have a feeling you will feel right at home here very soon.

[momof3]

Hi Christina...welcome to Oasis.

I wanted to add to what's already been said here. My sister in Jesus, if you or your children are being hurt, it is not God's will. He would never want for you or them to be abused. He can use this, however. That does not mean you have to stay in the abuse until then. What your children see is what will be their example of what is normal..not only in a marriage, but in a Christian home.

Im not suggesting divorce, because with Christ all things are possible. However, He does give us the will and mind to make our own decisions and they arent always in God's will. Your husband is making his choices. If you are being abused by him it may be that he has to come to a place where he has to face and deal with the issues that are causing him to abuse you and bring those issues to the Lord for healing and deliverance. Staying in it is not helping him to do this. God isnt finished in this, and separating yourself and the children from abuse until he truly seeks healing from the Lord does not mean that you dont love him or that you have lost faith in what the Lord's plan is for your life.

Im sure you have spent many hours in prayer over this sis..and know that God hears each one. May His perfect will be done, sis. You are not alone. Prayers are rising for you, as well.

in Jesus,
love momo

[Lionhearted]

hi Christina and welcome again to oasis

marriage can be our one of greatest joys .... or our deepest pain; especially when the foundation starts to crumble right before our eyes and we seem helpless other than to watch it slip through our fingers.

i was once where you are ... numerous times wanting to leave (and him wanting to leave also); but like you, i came to a "turning" point and handed it all over to Him ... what else can you do when ur at "dead" end right?

it wasn't easy to watch the enemy run rampant thru my house destroying all my hard work in raising godly children; and i understand what its like to wonder ... "wha...." what about Your promise ... is this what You meant? ... i don't know how long i can live in this Lord ... the kids are being soooo affected by this.