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married life
Hi I am married for 9months now and its an amazing journey that I
Don't walk without God, He is a pillar of strenght in my marrige but at times
The devil comes and make a mess of this good life I'm living.
I need same advice please to keep my faith up
Don't walk without God, He is a pillar of strenght in my marrige but at times
The devil comes and make a mess of this good life I'm living.
I need same advice please to keep my faith up
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Humble Man - Posts: 1
- Location: South Africa
- Marital Status: Married
Re: married life
What is the issue?
Keeping faith up is focusing on God. Praise God. Get in the habit of including God in your thoughts and life. Make a ten minute break every morning to spend thinking of God.
To keep faith up, God needs to be integrated into life.
Is this what you mean?
For wives, well - men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Many things makes sense to 99% of all women and only 5% of men and vice versa. There are ways to learn to cope.
Get specific. Maybe I've read something.
Common problems - women don't want to ask you to help. They want you to do the stuff that they think you should do. Here that list is change light bulbs, take out the trash, put your dishes in the sink and some individual stuff. Maybe play with the kids for 20 minutes before bed - maybe more. Should likely be more if you both work. Should be that much if she doesn't work. But she doesn't want to ask. A man thinks, "I always do what she asks, so why is that a problem?"
But as a woman I can tell you it really is. To us it says that you think of us as your mother instead of as the lovely friend and romantic person that we want to be.
So, that is one possibility for conflict. If you get specific, maybe I can help. Or tell you what to Google.
Keeping faith up is focusing on God. Praise God. Get in the habit of including God in your thoughts and life. Make a ten minute break every morning to spend thinking of God.
To keep faith up, God needs to be integrated into life.
Is this what you mean?
For wives, well - men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Many things makes sense to 99% of all women and only 5% of men and vice versa. There are ways to learn to cope.
Get specific. Maybe I've read something.
Common problems - women don't want to ask you to help. They want you to do the stuff that they think you should do. Here that list is change light bulbs, take out the trash, put your dishes in the sink and some individual stuff. Maybe play with the kids for 20 minutes before bed - maybe more. Should likely be more if you both work. Should be that much if she doesn't work. But she doesn't want to ask. A man thinks, "I always do what she asks, so why is that a problem?"
But as a woman I can tell you it really is. To us it says that you think of us as your mother instead of as the lovely friend and romantic person that we want to be.
So, that is one possibility for conflict. If you get specific, maybe I can help. Or tell you what to Google.
Hugs,
Dema
Shame and blame are the devil's tools. With God ALL things are possible.
Dema
Shame and blame are the devil's tools. With God ALL things are possible.
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dema - Posts: 1133
- Location: Indiana
- Marital Status: Married
Re: married life
Thanks Dema; some of us guys need that insight.
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PeterJames - Posts: 9
- Location: Massachussetts
- Marital Status: Married
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