Christianity Oasis Forum

[Rochelle]

What I want out of this study is how to deal spiritually with my husband divorcing me.I married someone that was not born again and in turn my fellowship with Chrisit suffered.After five years of marriage he left me for his high school crush,calling it true love.Its been a long hard two years since our separation/ divorce and God is walking me through it,However,some question have not been answered so clearly.Like,should I pray for God to restore my marriage? I pray all the time for him but it seems that it just leaves an open wound for me that never heals, while I wait on God. I started the first steps of this program and to what I understand some marriages are not blessed by God? Together we made a vow before the Lord, a covenant promise and God may or may not have honored it? How can one be sure?What a mess I have made for myself




Okay,it's has come to my attention that I have miss communicated my feels about my husband and our divorce. In my first statement I said,I was trying to deal spiritually with my husband divorcing me.What I should have said was,I'm beleving and praying for God to bring him to repentance and to reconcile our marriage.Next,I gave a brief history of what the bottom line was when it came to our marriage and ultimately our divorce.what was clearly his fault and mine.I want everyone here to know I walk in freedom with no condemnation.Even though, I felt bad about my lack of Christianity , God Has corrected me for it and I never one time thought I wasn't forgive or God stopped loving me.
Now,I know God can do ALL things,even restoring a divorce marriage,Amen? But,If God has other plans for me,that is fine too.I am waiting for Him to answer me,until then I will wait for His answer?That is all and that is it! I ask if my sisters and brothers pray for me

[Dora]

Hello sister. I am sorry for the pain you feel. I pray The Lord heals your pain.

You ask about if you should pray for God to restore your marriage. I suggest you pray for Gods will to be done. Then you will know you are praying for what God wants for your life.

I also wanted to suggest to you that just because a spouse isn't a believer doesn't mean God didn't bless it. Many have come to Christ through their believing spouses. It sounds like the man fell for a trap that many fall into. Believer or unbeliever.

If you made a mistake by marring this man. I am not saying you did as it's only for God to judge that, but if you have it's in the past. Through Christs shed blood you are forgiven. I hope from this study you can learn to forgive yourself because God has.

Praying for you.

[Rochelle]

Thank you brother for your prayers and wisdom,You have discern correctly. You mention that I would pray for God's will in my life and I do.I don't regret marrying him but I do feel when I had the chance to be the example I allowed the thorns to grow under my feet.It left no defense when the enemy came to rob me.I surely reaped what I have sown and God has corrected his daughter for doing so.When I pray for restoration I don't feel like I am out of His will for my life,it's just when I pray I'm not sure if He will and that is where I'm confused,because why wouldn't He? or why wouldn't He tell me otherwise?

[dema]

Pink means it is a woman.

Please read the study on Divorce on this site. It is a good one and it isn't what you think.

God still loves you. No matter what.

And, even if your very worst thoughts were true - which they aren't - Paul was murdering Christians. He signed the consent for Stephen to be stoned. And look what Paul did after. God loves you and will use you if you let him.

The study is good.

[Rochelle]

Thank you,Dema for your loving response,it is so encouraging to me.You and Pine's comments brought tears to my eyes,thank you

[dema]

YW. God loved you so much that he sent his only son to die for your sins. All our sins. We all must have been pretty dirty in sin to need to have blood sacrificed for us?

Nothing can separate you from the love of God. Not principalities or strongholds or ... read the end of Romans 8.

[Amaia]

Hi Rochelie!
Good place to be. I'm glad to see you round. It must be painful and difficult where you are now. And I encourage you to read the steps you are following and look for other studies on this site, I can tell you, they really will get you closer to God. I encourage you to carry on. No matter how you're feeling, God is stronger than any our problems.
God knows your situation and I know He is the only answer.

God bless you and I pray that He will give you strength to carry on.

[Gods Sheep]

If you are looking for spiritual comfort because of the passages in the bible about divorce and adultery. A marriage between a born again believer and a non believer is not held by the same standards of that of a marriage that was made between two born again believers. As the born again believer you are held at a higher standard and expected to remain with your non believer spouse and be the best partner you can be but if that non believer makes the choice to leave there is nothing you can do about it except for pray for that person to find the peace that are searching for and forgive them for their transgression.

Here is a little scripture on the matter. 1 Corinthians chapter 7

1Co 7:10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband.
1Co 7:11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
1Co 7:12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her.
1Co 7:13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.
1Co 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
1Co 7:15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
1Co 7:16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
1Co 7:17 But as God has distributed to each one, as the Lord has called each one, so let him walk. And so I ordain in all the churches.

[Rochelle]

Thank you God's sheep for your encouragement,it brings me comfort and peace,thank you. I want to say concerning my situation that I have forgiven him and I'm praying for his salvation with a reconciliation.But so far there is no answer from God

[Rochelle]

Thank you Amala for reminding me that God can do all things and nothing is to hard for God.