Christianity Oasis Forum

[kimberly]

My father died the last day of February, 2014. He had been living with us for about 2 years--after a 45 year gap. (long boring story). He was 80. He had serious health problems. The last 2 weeks of his life were hard and joyless for him.

When a loved one dies, it's an emotional thing. Even when you know--and hate when people say-- "He's better off now". Correction: He's PERFECTED now, but I'm still here. And I miss him.

Totally normal. I'll always miss him in many ways. Some, funny, some sad, some happy. Yes, happy. I AM happy he knows Jesus, and is in glory with Him. I'm happy the that everyone got what they wanted for his dying.
My mom didn't want to be there.
My brother didn't want him to die while brother was out of the country this summer.
I didn't want him to die suffering or hooked to machines meant to prolong an inevitable death.
And HE didn't want to die alone in a hospital or nursing home.

He didn't. I was here with him when he took his last few breaths, and his spirit was released from his body and went home. It's the first time I ever had the experience...I was concerned I would be panicky, or nervous--But God is gracious and I was neither. I knew what was happening, and it seemed right to me. Bless God, He is ever our comforter and provider in every instance.

I miss my dad the way he was a year ago, before the heart failure began to take away his ability to enjoy life. I'll never miss him the way it ravaged his body and affected his spirit. I can't be sad the life of his body on this earth is through.

I'm so thankful I had the near two years to spend with my dad. THAT was a true work of God in my life.
One I am still seeing the gloriousness of.

We all have loved ones whom have died and missing them is part of our lives until we move on. It's their due, I figure, for if we loved them--we should miss them. They have lived in such a way they left an imprint on our lives. I hope to live in such a way to do the same with those I love.

I did pray for my dad's death to go as it did. I see no hindrance to asking for and expecting a soft, calm passage from this life to the next.
I'm praying for mom too.

Blessings,
Kimberly

[dema]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[Mackenaw]

Hello Kimberly (((hugs)))

God bless you this day.

I gotta tell you, I am always so blessed by your posts! Yes, even in reading a post about the passing of your dad, I was blessed. The Word of God has given you such insight and wisdom and it has become such a part of you that I'm inspired in the reading of it...it rings so true within my being. What an awesome ability to share and to "tell it like it is". Thank You Jesus.

I wish I could hug your neck, join you in devouring some of your baked goodies and sip some hot tea or coffee with you. But until then, don't hold back on sharing in print, because this sister eats it up and drinks it down.

I know The Lord will continue to comfort you and yours in regards to the passing of your dad, and how much each of you miss him now. God is Awesome!!! I look forward to meeting your dad one day, in the future. I hear there are awesome accommodations in Heaven.

Love, hugs and blessings to you, dear Kimberly,
Mack

[kimberly]

Thanks to both of you Godly ladies for taking time to post. It means a lot.

Mack, I would so love to visit with you over warm bread and coffee. (coke? :D ) Dema, you bring the muffins!
I am thankful I can share in print what would be so much harder in voice.
God has been so much more gracious to me than I can even understand, and funny you should mention wisdom, I just yesterday opened to Proverbs talking about Godly wisdom. It IS the 'principle' thing to receiving the awe and reverence due God. I fail at it miserably some days, . But concerning my dad, it has helped so much.

God bless you both.
Kimberly

[daybyday]

I am sorry for your loss.
Thank you for sharing your heart about it

[dohdohfruit]

God bless you and I pray that things have gotten easier for you. I hope all is well with you. Peace!