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[kl]

God is speaking to me about giving grace and mercy to others and forgive them, as I want to be forgiven.

[Lani]

Hey kl!

So glad to see you posting sis.

ahhhhhh Forgiveness.... awesome and sometimes challenging

What holds you back from such?
Unsure where to begin?

well... I am a HUGE fan of lists So, my suggestion, if you wish...

Bring up Notepad or Wordpad or some similar "writing" program on your computer...
List initials of people you may harbor any ill feelings toward, for whatever the reason.

Go through each one in whatever order you wish, say all you need to say about that situation and then tell God you are done with it. Me personally, I add.. "and if they hold any ill feeling toward me Lord, I ask that you lead them to forgiveness also" but Go as God leads ya sis. It can be even harder when our human thinking tells us, "But they don't deserve to be forgiven"
Forgiving others doesn't free them.... generally they don't even realize they upset ya cuz they are so focused on their own pain, they miss that which comes as a result of their own actions... Forgiving another, frees you.
As you work on forgiving those on your list, (remove the initials as ya go) you will begin to feel lighter, free.

But, Yep... add you to the list also.
I know, THIS took me some time and a LOT of prayer also cuz whew, forgive others, "uh huh"... forgive me... "yeah but" take your time. God will continue to lead ya through this journey in healing.

Again, this is just my suggestion sooooooo if it sounds odd.... well, I am kinda weird... if ya hadn't guessed that already. I am sure others will offer their experience as well... something will click. God rocks that way!

You are on an awesome path sis, blessed to be walkin with ya.

Hope to type again soon! Prayers remain!!

Peace n Luv in Christ,
Lani

[TrueAndMagneticNorth]

Hi kl,

There can be no doubt that this is something that the vast majority of Christians have struggled with at one time or another.

Here is a little tip. It might not be of any use to you, but on the off chance it might be useful, I would like to share it with you.

Of course, we've all seen others commit sins and do wrongs, as we have done such things ourselves. None of us are worthy of forgiveness, yet, as you no doubt already know, the ultimate forgiveness is offered to us scot-free through Christ's sacrifice.

To get to the point, as someone who has struggled with this very same issue during my own life, I think it is a really good idea to remember how Christ pleaded to God to forgive his killers during his crucifiction. In this way, for us mere mortals, forgiving someone is essentially more about honouring God, and his perfect role-model son, than musing too much over a person and what they might or shouldn't have done.

Of course, this sounds easy enough regarding 'minor' sins, but when we talk about the worst kinds of things that us human beings can do, then it can be a really complicated matter for us.

Anyway, God bless you and all the best in your walk with Christ.

[momof3]

Hi kl and God bless you.

Forgiving is hard. Forgiving ourselves is even harder most times. Along with the suggestions here, i just wanna add what helps me to forgive. We ALL live in a broken world. We ALL have the same enemy of our souls using each and every tool and tactic he can to hurt one another. We ALL are in need of His saving grace. Those who have hurt you...they are just as need of Him as we are. Somewhere, in this broken world, someone hurt them. We are all so imperfect that alot of times, we dont even realize we have hurt them until it's done..if we ever know it at all. About forgiving ourselves.....wow.....if God, Himself forgives me...and Christ died for it all...who am I to say that God has forgiven everything but......

Ask Him to help you in this. Decide to forgive and ask Him to help you. Each time someone or something comes into your mind, pray about it and leave it at the foot of the cross and let Him remind you that this is why He died for us. Bless those who have hurt you by praying for them and remember that they are just as in need of Him and His life-changing ways as we are. God bless you in this, kl. You are so not alone in it.

in Jesus,
love momo

[kl]

Thanks everyone for the encouragement and Love

God Bless
KL

[Dora]

God is speaking to me about giving grace and mercy to others and forgive them, as I want to be forgiven.

Good to hear. He's been talking to me about this too. I have found I need His help forgiving. He's been softening my heart. Perhaps praying that He softens your heart towards these people will help.

Gods good and perfect will be done in your life. God loves you and so do I!

[mlg]

I'm delighted that you are hearing God speak to you. May you follow Him and forgive, let go, and move forward.

Take care