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[Christnundrconstruxn]

seemed like it was starting out too good of a year
I got a message from my not so favorite sister in law last night bringing up the past and twisting the knife so to speak and even threw in a couple of threats to round it out
It bothers me most because this is a woman that has made ALOT of mistakes in her OWN life but she can't let go of mistakes I made that everyone INVOLVED in have forgiven me for, but the part that really bothers me is she won't quit until she destroys what little I have left between me, my kids and the friendship that me and my wife have tried to build to show our kids it's not always hating in divorce, she's never been happy so she hates that I could possibly be happy after mistakes I made, I just hope God will step in and say ENOUGH, I don't wish her no bad I just wish she would leave me the heck ALONE!!
I have been asking for the Lord to show me ways to forgive her, but this is going to take His divine intervention to end this once and for all
God bless, and please pray for deliverance from this so I can continue to work on things that matter with God and my family
Cuc

[sbennett]

I imagine this is very hurtful to you. Perhaps not taking calls or txt from her might help. The less negative you have right now the better?? You know when we do our best to become more Christ like the devil will come and try to break us down with the negative. Maybe try to look at this situation as you are doing so well....satan is worried and needs to bother you!!! Keep praying and believin g God is going to do good work in you and through you!!

[lizzie]

Brother C
Happy New year to you my friend

Im with benny there... Let her do what she feels she must do for whatever reason she feels she needs to do it... just refuse to play along. It takes two to tango, and when she realizes that she is just flitting around the dance floor alone and looking rather silly, she may just quit it. It will ultimately be her choice, but you choose to not participate and keep focused on your goals. This is just a distraction.

If you make the decision to forgive, God will give you the strength to let go.

God bless u

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Hello all
Lizzie I'm sorry it took so long to reply
I am battling satan hard right now, I was served papers for the foreclosure of the house me and my family lived in before me and my wife separated
but the biggest reason this hurts is I was told don't worry it's ALL in HER name and she's filing bankrupty, well now I'm being told they are going to come after me for what ever the house can't be sold for (the balance) of her loan, the house fell apart after I left and was in bad shape so I have a feeling I'm about to be taken for a long ride on a short road, even though I have been doing all I can to help my wife get settled into the new place and other ways of helping her too I went to her about this and her cold reply: guess you'll have to file bankrupty too, well the problem there is it's all in motion now I can't file on it, SO I have no clue what is ahead but I still continue to do anything for her just to keep the peace between us because I know that is what I am supposed to do but also what I want too.
I get to see my kids and grandson because I stay on good terms with her.
as for my wifes sister ( sorry but I can't call her my sister inlaw anymore)
it has been said she was on one of her binges with pills when that happened but that doesn't make it hurt any less and I wonder what she has stirred up with her other family members while she was on this kick.
then I have noticed the nice car I left my wife with when I left and took "her" junk van is falling apart- oil leaks, NO brakes, busted windshield,slow leaking tires that she has ran on the rim twice I know of and she tells me I don't have the money, NOBODY HAS THE MONEY but you have to keep the car running and safe!!!
So here I am worring about helping fix the car I left her with so she would have a good car!!
PLEASE don't think I am asking for sympathy I am just venting all of what is on my mind, I am asking for Gods blessings on these things and some others also, I am to confess to you I have fallen and been looking at filth, It's just all of this and the loneliness too was too much and I chose the wrong ways to deal with it.
I know my Lord will deliver me from ALL these things but I fear sometimes I want to quit and give up everything, it's as I said before if it wasn't for my kids and my faith I wouldn't be writing this now, I know suicide is NO way out but when you are that low it's scary, but I can't give up on my kids and I know it's a sin and I would not be allowed to be with my lord those are the ONLY 2 reasons I haven't given up already, I'm just so tired of this life as it is and I keep praying for change, some of you spent some time in the holiday forum with me so you'll know what I mean by I'm tired of my desert and the mirages I'm seeing.
I'm praying the Lord will lead me from this desert soon and into my paradise either here or with him,...... I'm tired
God bless
Cuc

[Mackenaw]

Hello CUC

God bless you this day.

I want you to know that I'm lifting you up in prayer to our Lord. May His blessed will be done.

Often during times of trials we lose our footing, because the trials can be very chaotic. It's important to stay as close to God as you possibly can. Amen?

There is God's Law of Harvest -- whatever ANYONE (Christian or non-Christian) plants, they are going to receive an harvest. If we planted good seed, we'll receive an harvest of good, if we plant bad seed, we'll receive an harvest of bad. So how long does that seed planting -- good or bad -- continue to produce???

Then we have the enemy of our soul who is always gonna mess with Christians.

Then we have seasons of chastisement. God's correction of His children, because we need to learn something vital to our walk. Perhaps a character flaw, one of those areas He is focusing on, and we kinda danced around it for a while, but He finally says enough is enough, you need to learn this now.

In the midst of trials, it is kinda hard, sometimes, to figure out what the heck is going on. Is this harvest from past sin planting? Is God chastising me -- desiring I learn a valuable truth so He can use me better for His good and glory? Is the enemy of our soul messing with me?

Read Hebrews Chapter 12. It helped me a lot, during some confusing times in my life.

Also, remember this CUC. The Lord loves you. He is with you, even on the most chaotic days and nights, and when you may feel totally lost -- He is still there and loving you.

Talk to Him, CUC. And keep coming back here. You need to continue to hear His Word and hear the testimonies of others -- their testimony to how God is doing a good thing in their life. It strengthens our hope muscles to hear it. And you need a constant outlet for your expressions of faith in our Lord.

May God bless and keep you, CUC.
Love,
Mack

[Christnundrconstruxn]

hello oasis family
sorry it's been awhile, well lets see where do I start
first I have very bad news...The sister of my wife I spoke about has been hit hard along with the rest of the family, her 21 year old pregnant daughter was in a bad accident with her 2 year old daughter, she was hit on the side that they were sitting on , mom got banged up unborn child being monitored but fine.....the 2 year old is the one we are worried about, she got banged up real bad, she has a broken pelvis and some other less dangerous injuries but the one we are worried about is she hit her head very hard and had to have part of her skull removed to relieve the pressure and bleeding they have kept her heavily sedated so it is a wait game to see if she will recover 100% so please you all know just as I do the one thing that ensures her full recovery is God's will so PLEASE pray for this little one and her mom and unborn sibling.
to make matters worse for me I am no longer accepted by this family so I am on the outside hurting for this little one that also was born on....my birthday.
I found out also by my wife doing my taxes that at first I owed $1600 until she allowed me to claim my son and knocked the amount down to $30 (if she's right)
now this is good news with a scary twist,
my church is going to put on a drama in march or somewhere around there, it is called "IS MY NAME WRITTEN THERE?" it is a very eye opening drama, we had done one before called "HEAVENS GATES AND HELLS FLAMES" this is what drawed me back to church so I know personally what these drama's can do, now here is the scary twist, I was asked to be in it as a demon....what I was NOT told was it is VERY VERY demanding physically and I don't know that I can do it, I am 47 years old and feel that and older sometimes, we as demons run out and drag and carry the condemded souls to hell (kicking and screaming ALL the way), these people are quietly placed in the audience unnoticed until they are called by the "reader of the book of life" they then find out if they go to heaven or hell, so PLEASE pray that I can do this, I very much want to be a part of this but I just don't want to injure myself trying to act like I am still 25 years old (which I had issues with learning the hard way) but that's another story
well that is it for now, so please pray for the little one and her mom and sibling, and please pray that God will give me the strength and ability to do this drama and we are able to touch many souls and bring them to the Lord so He can show them His love and mercy.
God bless all
Cuc

[xxJILLxx]

Hey cuc,

wanted to let you know i will be lifting these requests up to our Lord, His will be done all .

God bless you brother

♥Jill

[Christnundrconstruxn]

hello all
Just wanted to let you know what I know about wifes great niece, I heard they took her off life support wednesday so that is good but she is still in very poor condition so please keep the prayers coming.
As for me tonight is the 2nd drama practice, and the (demons) in the drama are dropping off like flies, it is too demanding for some, I am struggling with this because it is tough for me also but I don't want to give in but I don't want to get hurt either so I am asking for God to give me the strength and ability to stick with this and not be hurt or allow satan to weaken me to the point of giving up as others have had to do.
You see the drama we use to do before this one IS the reason I started going back to church, it got ahold of me and SHOOK ME so I know what it means to do this and hope we shake up some others to come to the Lord just as I did.
Please pray for me and our drama, and all who are in it to be safe and strong.
Cuc

[xxJILLxx]

Hello brother,

Will continue to pray for your niece, God's will be done. Also praying for you and others in the human video.

I indeed know the impct of these dramas (human videos), my teens have been impacted by them and have performed them and brought souls to the Lord as a result of them. I know how much practice and hard work is required to fill these roles, and it is tedious and strenous. Hats off to ya bro! Maybe they will post on you tube??? Would love to see it.

God bless n keep ya

your sis
Jill

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Hello All,
As for my wife's great niece she is still in bad shape but making improvements slowly, she was supposed to have a MRI done yesterday, she is starting to move around in the bed and acknowledge her parents so prayers are working as God is answering them.
As for the drama more of the demons have dropped off, we started with 8 or so and last week we had to use one of the people that we casted into hell as a backup demon but we will get this and we will put this on for HIM and hopefully lead some lost ones to Him.
As for me......well.....I am having a rough time with the time of year (feb 14) and I am struggling to get the floor in the annex of our church shined back up in between things being held in there (did part of it monday) and today is my next chance, I'm hoping I can complete it tonight it's 2500 sq ft, I have been the goto guy for this for a while but it's getting to be too much.
My grandson is growing so fast...he's so awesome!!
I worry because it's getting closer to the time when the bank is going to court over the foreclosure of the house we had together, I'm just so tired of worrying about this and everything else on top of being alone...it's taking it's toll on me, I just wish I could go away for a vacation far away someplace warm and sunny, I keep picturing st thomas, st martin and nassau years ago when I went...I want to be there SO BAD right now and just STOP!! for awhile and take it all in.
I have always been one that if I "escape" to the country or somewhere peaceful just for a day or two it makes SO much difference, but the other issue is I always spent it with a "special person" and I know what your thinking and your right but me and the Lord have been spending that time together I need that human touch of a woman, you know I wonder if it's even the touch as much as the companionship that I starve for
OK OK ENOUGH CRYBABY STUFF!!
Hey Jill that's cool I never heard them called that before but it's so true.
I AM blessed in many ways I know, and I should think of that instead!!
one thing I need you all to know is a big blessing in my life.....YOU!!!
thanks for always being there for me and lifting me from the lows and most importantly...not judging me for my faults.
May God bless you all and keep us all close to His heart and in His loving arms AMEN!!

[Dora]

Praying for you brother.

The foreclosure is painful but once it's finished there will be so much more peace.

Get wrapped up real tight in the presence of the Holy Spirit. BEST vacation you can take and FREE of charge!

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Hello all,
I'm sorry it has taken me so long to post, I guess that says alot about me huh, I struggle to be what I know He wants me to be but then I let this world and things of this world suck me back in, I want to be that better man but then I lose my sight of things, I just don't know what He see's in me that makes me worth His time and efforts.
I'm so tired of being the "good guy" to my wife only to have it feel like I'm being used, I do and do and do for her trying to show her that I'm still here for her and that I AM a good man only to have her do things behind my back and then get mad when I speak about it in a forgiving BUT please don't do that kinda way, I guess what I'm saying is I see her TRUE feelings when that happens, I see hate and it bothers me but then I think of my kids so I keep trying.
I think it's going to come down to when the foreclosure is completed and I know my fate concerning that I want to file for divorce and move on, I'm tired of being alone, It's like I've said before, alot of my fears of what I didn't want to end up in life is exactly what happened, loss of marriage-losing my kids-losing my home-being cast out by friends or family(hers,ours)-and lastly I had what I thought was a stupid fear but now I see it wasn't as stupid as I thought, being a man getting older I feared the loss of intimacy due to "failure" SORRY I'M JUST TRYING TO BE HONEST!! and in the end I have seen all of these things in some way, these where true fears I had and to see them us splitting up- my kids are less and less bothered by my absence- foreclosure- friends and her family see me as the WHOLE reason we failed- and the last one not because of the reasons I thought but because we are no longer together and I have stayed true to myself as far as "other women" so I sit and dwell on what all "I" done wrong and "how bad my life's going to be" instead of moving on with the realization that "it's over" GET OVER IT!!!
But on the better side of things my wife's great niece is doing better she is using alot of her motor skills and moving parts when asked to, she is speaking in sentences and she had just been potty trained before the accident and she has made it very clear she doesn't like the diaper she has had to wear but now she is getting up and using the potty some
she said something that showed she is getting her "attitude" back, her daddy was aggravating her getting down in her face and kissing on her and talking "baby talk" to her and she told him...git outta my face dad!!
BUT we ALL know who is making ALL this possible right!!
I thank God He has done the things He did, they said if she hadn't gotten to the hospital when she did she would have died, but they also didn't think she was going to recover like she has but what they don't realize is "they" don't have the final say in the matter!!!

oh and the annex floor is done until spring then I have to do it all again but deeper so it will look clean and shine longer, this was just a "make it last until spring job"
The drama is going ok but I have been praying God will see the things that need fixed and show what is needed, I hope we can pull this all together by april and we can be honored enough to cause even a few souls to come to Christ through this ministry.
Again I want to thank those that have been my rock on here and lifted me in my times of need and please know that you are in my heart, on my mind and in my prayers, I fear where I would have went if it had not been for you ladies
God bless and keep you all
Cuc