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[Christnundrconstruxn]

Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 6:35 am Post subject:

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HEY GUYS!!!
I'm back... I had a little trouble with my log on but phantomfaith is awesome and help me resolve it quickly so I could get on here and talk to you all, I may soon change my name so it isn't so long and because I want to show change, I want to symbolize that I am NOT the broken person that stumbled onto this site thinking it was the end, this IS the beginning of whatever He has instore for me, it does not mean that I still don't hurt or regret losing my family and home BUT it does mean I will have faith in where He will lead me.
As for my vacation, I spent the 1st part of it getting settled in and my kids came over and spent 4 days but then I threw my back out moving things (and my vehicle is on it's last leg) when they left I started to fall into that depression (does it ever get easier to take them home) but I called out to the Lord to be with me and not allow satan to ruin things and He comforted me and quickly allowed my back to heal so I was ready to go back to work.
I very much enjoyed my time off and the time I spent with my kids
and even got some reassurance from friends and family about the home the Lord blessed me with and help me to build.
so all is well with me and I have the Lord and you to thank for being there to lift me up in spirit and remind me who's REALLY in charge
God is Great!!!

[Christnundrconstruxn]

This one reminded me how much I miss Skrubby and his words

Posted: Fri Feb 19, 2010 1:45 pm Post subject: To all who make this possible

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I have only been on here for a short while but I just wanted to say how greatful I am of this site and those involved in it's creation, it is truely a Godthing and it will be a major help to those who allow it to
as for the people in the blogs and pm's you guys ARE the greatest please don't stop what you do that for sure goes out to skrubby and some of the ladies that have blogged with me and I don't want to forget bluebird
I hope we can all get passed our addictions and one day meet on this earth and talk about how we help each other through the tough times
THAT WOULD BE AWESOME!!!
God bless all and keep up the fight!!

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Posted: Fri Feb 19, 2010 11:26 am Post subject:

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Hey forgiven
Yes I like the name also because just as the name says we all are...forgiven
I to am struggleing with the addiction and have fell so much I'm tempted to just stay down but then I remember stepping stone #12 what happens when you fall, do you lay there or....GET UP!!!
if you have not done these counseling steps PLEASE DO
also remember the verse:1 corinthians 10:13
No temptation has over taken you that is not common to man, God is faithful and he will not tempt you beyond your strength, but with the temptation will allow a way of escape so that you may endure it.
Just as mlg said distance from the temptation is what works for me but understand you will unwittingly let yourself be led back there if your not careful and someone on here made a statement that when that happens you speak it out loud NO!!! I will not allow you satan!!! you may feel silly but try it it does work because your speaking truth to the problem.
we have to be there to help each other up as I hope we have done with you, keep fighting we love you!!

[Christnundrconstruxn]

here is another stinger

posted: Thu Feb 18, 2010 12:58 pm Post subject:

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After reading my own post I realized I seemed to show hatred toward my wife and NOTHING could be more wrong so let me rewrite some of it 1st I have a LOT of hatred and anger but it is towards me and the devil because I allowed satan to tempt me and CONvince me what I was doing was alright, I love my wife VERY much (more than life itself) but I have crossed a line that I don't think she will ever be able to erase, I think she will one day forgive me but never love me again and that kills me, I pictured myself growing old with her and being with her when the kids were grown so we could enjoy life to ourselves
But I destroyed that dream and all I ever wanted out of life
now could even be facing loosing my job and facing jail (never been there before) I just don't see any good coming from this endless hell that I have created, I can only hope that the Lord finds a way to bring me through this so I can concentrate on the things at hand instead of worrying about all the bad stuff.
I know it is said that He wants us to learn from mistakes....OK I LEARNED MY LESSION!!! at the cost of everything dear to me!!
enough is enough please!! I just want to move forward with what little bit of dignity and grace I have left
I just wish the Lord would wrap His arms around me and say ENOUGH SATAN!!! get behind thee
I love you guys and I'm praying for us all
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[Christnundrconstruxn]

this one is where He started to open my eyes to how large this addiction really is, and people don't have a clue

Posted: Mon Feb 15, 2010 8:32 am Post subject:

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I KNOW there are more Christian men than this because in our church of 300+ people I have spoke with 3 men and 2 of them have or had this same problem, thank the Lord the third doesn't He's our pastor!!
So you see 3 out of just 4 of the 300+ (which is kids,teens,men and women) that I know of, now imagine if I spoke one on one with each person and got honest answers, I would feel safe to say at least 50 or 100 total!! THAT'S HEART BREAKING!!!!!
I didn't want to come forward about my problem until it blew up in my face, now it has cost me my marriage of 13 years and possibly my 3 beautiful kids, I pretty much got that answer from my wife 2 days ago when she could almost look at me without getting sick with disgust because of what I became AND THAT is the reason I never came out with it before I knew she wouldn't handle it well, but I wished now I would have tried sooner before I did the unthinkable and caused so much pain and disgust that it can never be fixed!!
I was proud of where I was in my recovery of this, even though I had been separated from her for a month I was diverting my eyes away and turning my thoughts towards my wife and was what I would call "4 days clean" when my world crashed around me so I was a little angry with God because I didn't understand why even though I was doing all the right things such as counseling, C.O. ,2 pastors, diverting eyes and thoughts and staying within the Christian community(not reverting to my old days of drinking and drugs) even though things looked bad only to have what little I was hanging onto for dear life also got ripped from my grasp.
when I met my wife I had a fully furnished four bedroom house that I was paying for and she had the clothes on her back now I have the clothes on MY back and a whole lot of dept and she has the fully furnished 2nd home (the 1st was destroyed when we rented it to her family members) so it's sitting with a big mortgage that can't be paid and is condemed.
so you see because of what I allowed into my mind I have lost EVERYTHING!!
so I understand why we only have 2 men in here some of the rest are scared to death of how society won't accept that this IS an addiction and the rest are not ready to accept the fact it's filth and it WILL destroy their lives!!
I AM going to start looking at ways I can get this out into the public more so it's realized what kind of epidemic it is.
sorry so long but it had to be said

[Christnundrconstruxn]

this was for a woman on here I felt so guilty for and didn't even know her BUT I knew what she had endured and it sickend me

Posted: Wed Feb 17, 2010 10:53 am Post subject:

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Ree
I know you probably don't want to hear from a man about this but I had to say something to you
first I am so sorry for what has happend and I admire that even with all you have endured you still forgive GOD BLESS YOU!!!
I must tell you that I almost became "that guy" to someone very dear to me at one time and luckily the grace of God stopped me and I will never come close to crossing that line again!!
for only moments of pleasure (if you could have pleasure in doing that to someone) to cause that kinda pain for someone all because of the filth that satan plants in our minds saying "it's ok"
I pray that you are able to heal and not feel you lost that control which that man TOOK from you, you WILL be alright because I cannot see our Lord allowing you not to be!!
GOD BLESS YOU!! you ARE a strong woman!! we love you!!

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Posted: Wed Feb 17, 2010 6:53 am Post subject:

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Hey Bluebird
I hope you are well in your struggle and you are still fighting the addictions, I just wanted to tell you I also gave up drinking and have not touched it for 8 years...I would drink a 5th of tequela like water and still be able to walk and talk. I also gave up pot, been doing it for 25 yrs and I couldn't go a day without it (if I did you didn't want to know me) about 5 years ago.
and three and a half years ago I put down the cigs of aprox.30 yrs now I am fighting the last 3 real demons that satan has slipped into my life and they are the hardest of all, the cussing, temper and porn.
I know most would say no they are not as hard but I'm here to tell you they are!! I did the other 3 with NO...NONE cravings!!!
because I gave them whole heartingly to the Lord and He took them away!!! and I give him ALL the praise for me being free of them
but I am still struggleing with the others....one day at a time
and I hope that we are able to fight satan and you and I both are able to release these addictions to the Lord and be free.
hang in there blue I will be praying for ya!!

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Posted: Fri Mar 26, 2010 8:49 am Post subject:

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Hey Scrubbs,
I just wanted to sayyou played a BIG part in my opening up on here!!
so I just wanted to say thanks and God bless
I hope to one day be a part of something like this and help to bring light into dark souls just as you and the others did mine
PLEASE stay in touch with us even if only to let us know you are still there
and if it's not to personal tell us what your working on and let us know how it does
luv ya bro and good luck!!!

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Posted: Fri Mar 12, 2010 12:04 pm Post subject:

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Hello Bacchus,
I first want to tell you that I felt as I was reading one of my post,
I too have battled some form of depression over my life and I too get very tired and just don't want to do anything but sulk.
I am about to lose my wife of 13 years (if God doesn't change her heart)
and I too can count the TRUE friends I have on one hand and have fingers left.
BUT now for the good, WE BOTH have God, WE BOTH have children that love us and we love, AND WE BOTH have the oasis family!!
I don't know about you but I am like mlg said "I too have struggled a lot with trust" but I'm learning to trust God and be more a Godly man and through that I feel trust of mankind will come, you also have something that is priceless on this earth and that is a companion that loves and accepts you for who you are and DOESN'T want change.
You can consider me a new online friend and I hope the same for many others on oasis.
God bless and keep your head up!

[Christnundrconstruxn]

posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 6:50 am Post subject:

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Hey Blue
I just want to tell you you are NOT a fake you are weak in the flesh and that's IT, this porn addiction has ALL of us just as it has you and you are right we have to do our part to get past it but it isn't easy but the Lord wants you to be persistant in your fight when you fall you GET UP dust yourself off ask for forgiveness and move on HE KNOWS YOUR GOING TO FALL BEFORE YOU DO it's no surprise to him as for the "sex acts committed" did you or did you not ask for forgiveness..... it is finished
allow yourself to heal.
please look into the book titled "every man's battle" it along with oasis and 2 pastors AND professional counseling is what I chose to use as my weapons against this sickness those combined with the grace of God AND I WILL BEAT THIS!!!! and so can you!!

[Christnundrconstruxn]

This is the day the Lord has made..I will rejoice and be glad in it

posted: Wed Apr 14, 2010 7:29 am Post subject:

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Hey Tam,
I think it is so cool how He works..... I woke up this morning and went to prayer with the Lord and after I finished speaking with Him that same verse came to my mind along with those same thoughts (well thoughts along the same line).
"when life hands you a bowl of lemons....make the Lord some lemonade"

[Christnundrconstruxn]

Posted: Mon Apr 19, 2010 7:17 am Post subject: Teenagers + Drugs= lost

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I hope this is the right place for this
I recently found out that my wife, (we are separated) was allowing my sixteen year old daughter alot more freedom than we ever did together and it scared me to death because I know what is out in the world today, and I also had some things come to light before I left that also worried me, but she was running around alot more than we allowed and given more chances to be with her "new" boyfriend and I'm sorry but I REMEMBER WHEN I WAS A TEENAGER!!!
But as the story unfolded I found out he broke up with her because she was "pestering" him about coming to church and it really hurt her bad and all I wanted to do was hold her and tell her it would be alright and that I was SO PROUD OF HER!!!
then I heard the rest of the story, it was because of this she was pushing him to come to church...she found out he was smoking pot and she didn't like it.....PRAISE GOD, our Lord had better control of things than I thought
I only thought I was proud of her before!!!
I thanked God for having control and apologized for doupting Him,
you see I prayed for God to protect my babies for me because I couldn't be there to do it myself anymore BUT I didn't fully trust Him to do so.
So after I get off work I'm going by the house and give her the BIGGEST hug and tell her how proud I am and then ask if she will pray with me for her ex to be healed of the drugs, you see this touches me in a bad way because remember what I said earlier about remembering when I was a teenager, I WAS THAT BOY being the pothead, losing my first REAL love because she didn't approve of what I did and spending a big part of my younger life stumbling around in life not knowing what I was doing to myself, BUT I can thank the Lord because I finally wised up and asked our Lord to take away my habit and He did just that!!!
So that is my praise report, how good is our God....HE IS AWESOME!!!!