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[xxJILLxx]

"Would you like to feel whole again? Do you long to be restored into right relationship with God? Are you longing to release your secrets in the safety of acceptance? Are you ready to trade darkness for light?" To begin a journey out of shame?

Through my own recovery journey any many shame-filled peeps I have talked with and encouraged, I have become convinced that most of the shaming sin we get into is based on our own emotional neediness.

Now hear me out i say that in a loving way not condemning. In our years of growing up for some of us we did not get our emotional needs met. example To feel the pure love of a family member, feelings of being secure, etc...

We each desperately long to feel valuable, important, cared for, listened to, esteemed, loved, and completely accepted for who we are. We seek both to accomplish something worthwhile with our lives and to win the approval of others.

Am I right to assume so?

When these needs are not met, we shift into the false self and go out seeking to fill the hurting places in our hearts with relationships, activities, food, money, power, control, sex, alcohol, drugs, exercise, shopping  you name it, we've tried it.

This "emotional neediness" was born out of the original sin and broken relationship with God the Father. Until we clearly understand who God truly is, how passionately He loves us, and how deeply He desires to restore us into right relationship with Him, we will continue to search for fulfillment in unsafe places.

But in this brokeness, we will never find wholeness. Restoration can only come through understanding and accepting the healing unconditional love and grace of God.

We can also find remarkable hope and encouragement for our future in knowing that in Genesis 3:8-9, even after Adam and Eve had sinned, God still chose to visit the Garden that evening to search for them.

God understood that Adam and Eve were the victims of their choice to disobey, and that they were now in bondage to shame, sin, secrets, darkness, and death.

Adam and Eve had changed. God had not changed at all. So with the cry of a brokenhearted Father, God called out, "Adam, where are you? Where are you?" God did not abandon His children in their time of crisis then and He has not abandoned you now.

With that same gentle understanding, God knows every minute detail of what you have done and why you are ashamed. Yet, He still lovingly pursues you at this very moment, calling out your name and asking, "My precious child, where are you?" Won't you step out of hiding and take His hand?

This shame causes loneliness, fear, and a profound emptiness.

Often, a shame-filled person knows that she somehow needs to find a way back home, but many choose the wrong paths for the lead away from God and deeper into self-abusive behaviors, which only make feelings of shame more pronounced.

I ask again...

"Would you like to feel whole again? Do you long to be restored into right relationship with God? Are you longing to release your secrets in the safety of acceptance? Are you ready to trade darkness for light?" To begin a journey out of shame?

and i echo...

Restoration can only come through understanding and accepting the healing unconditional love and grace of God.

Break the bondage of shame, you hve the power within you to do so. For us as believers, He resides in us. Try to grasp that for a minute... the God who created everything .. the God of heavens and earth... the God of LOVE and mighty power.. the GOd of compassion and forgiveness.... His Spirit resides in us. That is a realization that the enemy is trying to make us overlook, and he blinds us into bondage with shame and guilt.

Break FREE with Him. Step into His presence and out of shame.

Father i come to you boldly and ask that you help these who are dealing with bondage of shame to take that step out of shame and into Your presence. Father give them that boldness and confidence to walk with their heads held high and know how much you love them. I thank you Father what you are going to do in these lives and i give all glory and honor to You, For you are our King and our redeemer.

In Jesus name i pray,
Amen

Love you all!
Gb
♥Jill

[Guest]

This is so true! I realize my addiction to pornography is an attempt to satisfy desires that only God can fill. I've only begun to realize lately that I am also turning to other methods to fulfill my desire to be loved deeply and satisfied... whether it's eating, facebook, finding/putting too much worth in my friends, playing piano. And I can easily see how this correlates with my lack of time spent with God in prayer and reading my Bible. This is something I really need to work on.

Thank you for the post!

[Guest]

AMEN!

Another good post Jill. Thanks

Luv in Christ

B.B.B.

[Whisperingsprings]

thumbs up. thanks Jill.