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Entering the State of Stability

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Glad to see you again. Ready to go? I have a surprise stop today! A theme park!

Pit Stop !!!

Check out that roller coaster! Look at all those people making their way to the biggest roller coaster the park has. After two hours of waiting in line, it was finally their turn to step into the car. The bar came across their laps and the tracks start to turn as it moves their car and the train of cars behind up a steep hill. Anxiety begins to build as they know what is coming.

They reach the top and hear the "click" as the track lets go of the car. The car flies to the bottom sending everyone into panic/scream mode. Its hits the bottom and flies up another hill, this one not quite as steep.

They feel like they have a quick chance to take a breath, but they know when they come down the next hill, more screams will follow. They hit the top of the hill and fly down the next one ... Picking up more and more speed. Then suddenly they hit a curve and the car jolts their bodies to the left, and then to the right.

(People are supposed to enjoy this stuff right?)

Up another hill, and flying faster then ever down again, this time with the park's flash photography going off so they can remember this moment for years to come for the lovely price of $9.99.

As they head up the next hill suddenly the car hit a short plateau. And they hear the tracks underneath catch and throws the car into "slow down" mode. They're safe. Everything is okay. For the moment. They move their hair out of their faces, and let their heart beat slow down.

Breathe in. Breathe out.

The plateau is short lived and down another hill they go followed by three more sharp turns and an upside down loop. After momentarily blacking out, they open their eyes to see they are pulling back into the station. And a huge line of people wanting to take their place to experience the exact same thing they just did.

Wow. What a ride. Reminds me how we feel everyday. You know what I mean?

It didn't really happen.
I can't believe they did that.
I can't believe I did that.
I'm so angry at them. I hate them.
I'm so frustrated at myself for allowing it.
I can't believe no one saw or said anything.
It did happen, but its over now.
God saved me from a lot worse that could have come from it.
I can't believe God just LET it happen.
Up and down. Up and down.
Every hour. Every day. Every week.

It's hard sometimes to accept it even really happened. That's normal. If we accept it, that means we admit it actually happened. Then ... It becomes ... Real. So, if we continue to deny everything, it will make everything okay.

Ha ... Not even close.

We have tried that game for quite some time now. We have already learned we can't "pretend" this away.

Those Incest triggers tell us that it is real and we can't just deny it to make it go away. We can push it out of the front of our mind, but it only gets shoved to the back. Meaning, once it's in the back of our head ... It's a lot harder to get out than if it just stayed at the front and we dealt with it.

But we can't deal with it. Or better said ... Do not want to deal with it. So we just shove it back as far as we can, awaiting another trigger. This cycle has to end. And it will.

Let's get back on the road shall we?

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Okay, we are back at the car. Wait ... What's that on the windshield? Someone must have left a flyer for something. Let's read it:

Please Hear What I'm Not Saying
by Charles C. Finn

Jester Mask Don't be fooled by me.
Don't be fooled by the face I wear
For I wear a mask, a thousand masks,
Masks that I'm afraid to take off
And none of them is me.
Pretending is an art that's second nature with me,
but don't be fooled,
for God's sake don't be fooled.
I give you the impression that I'm secure,
that all is sunny and unruffled with me,
within as well as without,
that confidence is my name and coolness my game,
that the water's calm and I'm in command
and that I need no one,
but don't believe me.
My surface may be smooth but
my surface is my mask,
ever-varying and ever-concealing.
Beneath lies no complacence.
Beneath lies confusion, and fear, and aloneness.
But I hide this. I don't want anybody to know it.
I panic at the thought of my weakness exposed.
That's why I frantically create a mask to hide behind,
a nonchalant sophisticated facade,
to help me pretend,
to shield me from the glance that knows.
But such a glance is precisely my salvation,
my only hope, and I know it.
That is, if it is followed by acceptance,
If it is followed by love.
It's the only thing that can liberate me from myself
from my own self-built prison walls
from the barriers that I so painstakingly erect.
It's the only thing that will assure me
of what I can't assure myself,
that I'm really worth something.
But I don't tell you this. I don't dare to. I'm afraid to.
mask I'm afraid you'll think less of me,
that you'll laugh, and your laugh would kill me.
I'm afraid that deep-down I'm nothing
and that you will see this and reject me.
So I play my game, my desperate, pretending game
With a facade of assurance without
And a trembling child within.
So begins the glittering but empty parade of Masks,
And my life becomes a front.
I tell you everything that's really nothing,
and nothing of what's everything,
of what's crying within me.
So when I'm going through my routine
do not be fooled by what I'm saying.
Please listen carefully and try to hear what I'm not saying,
what I'd like to be able to say,
what for survival I need to say,
but what I can't say.
I don't like hiding.
I don't like playing superficial phony games.
I want to stop playing them.
I want to be genuine and spontaneous and me
but you've got to help me.
You've got to hold out your hand
even when that's the last thing I seem to want.
Only you can wipe away from my eyes
the blank stare of the breathing dead.
Only you can call me into aliveness.
Each time you're kind, and gentle, and encouraging,
each time you try to understand because you really care,
my heart begins to grow wings --
very small wings,
but wings!
With your power to touch me into feeling
you can breathe life into me.
I want you to know that.
I want you to know how important you are to me,
how you can be a creator--an honest-to-God creator --
of the person that is me
if you choose to.
You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble,
you alone can remove my mask,
you alone can release me from the shadow-world of panic,
from my lonely prison,
if you choose to.
Please choose to.
Do not pass me by.
It will not be easy for you.
A long conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls.
The nearer you approach me
the blinder I may strike back.
It's irrational, but despite what the books may say about man
often I am irrational.
I fight against the very thing I cry out for.
But I am told that love is stronger than strong walls
and in this lies my hope.
Gold mask Please try to beat down those walls
with firm hands but with gentle hands
for a child is very sensitive.
Who am I, you may wonder?
I am someone you know very well.
For I am every man you meet
and I am every woman you meet.

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Pretty powerful stuff, huh? Powerful because it's true. We can definitely relate to that.

The mask that we so often wear ...

We don't know how to feel, so we put it on.
We don't want to appear weak, so we put it on.
We don't want to look sad, so we put it on.
We do not want anyone to see within, so we put it on.

You know what? God sees past the mask. We have been wearing our masks for years ... And He sees every tear, frown, smile, glare, and expression we have underneath our mask. And guess what ... He still loves us.

The Real Me
by Natalie Grant

Foolish heart looks like we're here again
Same old game of plastic smile
Don't let anybody in
Hiding my heartache, will this glass house break
How much will they take before I'm empty
Do I let it show, does anybody know?
[Chorus:]
But you see the real me
Hiding in my skin, broken from within
Unveil me completely
I'm loosening my grasp
There's no need to mask my frailty
Oh, Cause you see the real me
Painted on, life is behind a mask
Self-inflicted circus clown
I'm tired of the song and dance
Living a charade, always on parade
What a mess I've made of my existence
But you love me even now
And still I see somehow
But you see the real me
Hiding in my skin, broken from within
Unveil me completely
I'm loosening my grasp
There's no need to mask my frailty
Oh, Cause you see the real me
Wonderful, beautiful is what you see
When you look at me
You're turning the tattered fabric of my life into
A perfect tapestry
I just wanna be me
But you see the real me
Hiding in my skin, broken from within
Unveil me completely
I'm loosening my grasp
There's no need to mask my frailty
Oh, Cause you see the real me
And you love me just as I am
Wonderful, beautiful is what you see
When you look at me

If only life were this simple with everyone. If people couldn't wear masks ... How different our world would be. Don't hide behind a mask any longer. Don't sit in silence anymore. Talk to someone. Talk to God. Tell Him that you are having a bad day and ask Him to help you gain a different perspective.

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Many times we can only see where we are and not where we could be. A lot of times we aren't even looking forward ... We are looking behind us. God can help us turn us around and face ahead. To focus on things that are true, holy, righteous, just, lovely and good.

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Positive? What good is around right now? Here are just a few things we can hold on to:

Whether or not we believe it, there is a God above that loves us.
There is a reason we are still alive. We have a purpose!
We have hope that things will get better (even if it's a small amount)
God's grace forgives all of the mistakes we have made.
We had the strength and self discipline to continue this road trip for 4 whole days!
Freedom will be encompassing us soon enough! We just have to keep going.
We have the power to save another soul going through the same anguish as we have ... just because we understand how they feel when no one else can.
We know what we believe, we will receive.
God promised us that He will never leave or forsake us ... We know that we are not (nor were ever) alone.
We are gaining more self-respect for ourselves by strengthening our spirit right now.
Our soul is being restored.

Don't believe me? Need some proof from God?

The weaker we are, the stronger God can be and work in our lives.

2 Corinthians 12:9

And He said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Incest Help / Incest Support Tidbit of Truth ... This pain we feel will not last forever ... We have learned (and are still learning) we have the power to say:

No More!

Our bodies are set free from the abuse and our spirit will be set free as soon as we stop living the abuse in our minds. God gives us that power as we learn more about Him. God will bring all of this pain and suffering to an end. It will pass.

Psalms 37:5

Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in Him; and He shall bring it to pass.

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We don't have to understand things ... God will direct our life if we allow Him to.

Proverbs 3:5-6

⁵ Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
⁶ In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.

With God, all things are possible.

Matthew 19:26

But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.

We can do anything with Christ's strength within us!

Philippians 4:13

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

If we learn to dwell on the positive and trusting in God ... Perfect peace will come.

Isaiah 26:3

Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.

We will soon soar as eagles!

Isaiah 40:31

But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

We can truly rest in Jesus. He wants to take this burden from us.

Matthew 11:28-30

²⁸ Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
²⁹ Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
³⁰ For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

Proverbs 17:22

A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.

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This is not saying to go around "happy go lucky" all the time with a plastered fake smile across our face.

Let's challenge ourselves to dwell only on the good right now in life. There are times when we will sit down and have to work out these issues from our past. But when we have spent some time on it (like we have today) ... Let's try to spend the rest of the day trying only to focus on the good.

Yeah, it might sound hard ... Almost impossible some days. But we can do this. We have to be determined. We are in it together.

Every time we get overwhelmed by our emotions, we need to start reciting out loud the good in our lives, so the negative thoughts will have no place to dwell. The longer we allow them to dwell in our minds ... It seeps to our hearts ... And then to our souls ... Focusing on what is ahead ... And surrounding ourselves with positive things is our next step to being released from our negative emotions and past.

Who wants to dwell on bad? No no. Not us. Not anymore. We are headed forward. So we have to make sure we are at least facing forward.

I Know
Overcoming Incest Support by Ginny Owens

Life is a strange thing.
Sometimes it thrilling
And sometimes it gets me down.
Some days my world seems
So all consuming
I'm afraid I'm gonna drown.
But there's one thing I know for sure

Chorus:
The good days come
The dark days call
But every day you're with me, with me through it all.
And I will embrace what every moment brings
'cause you are with me.
I cannot measure
The pain and pleasure
Life has up its sleeve
My joys and sorrows
Todays and tomorrows
Are for me no guarantees.
But there's one thing I know for sure

Chorus
And when life isn't fair
I can still smile
Even in my despair
You're there all the way.
Chorus x2

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Biblical Overcoming Incest Support

There's a movie quote that says:

Was I ever crazy? Maybe. Or maybe life is ... Crazy isn't being broken or swallowing a dark secret. It's you or me amplified.

Whatever we are thinking does get amplified and our spirit is affected. So, lets' make sure what we amplify is positive. No more of these negative emotions. They are way too draining to keep living day by day with.

Let's pull over for a little while. We had a big day today. Theme park. Flyers. Songs ... Whewww. I'm tired! Let's journal and meet up tomorrow. Okay?

After all this Incest Help talk about emotions and thoughts, I brought along some reading material on various topics that you can read if you feel it relates to us. Being as we are like two peas in a pod and always have been, I know at least one will touch you.

Do you know who I am yet?

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