Solution?

by **goldieluvs** » Fri Jun 20, 2008 1:23 am

I know that i have struggled greatly with this issue. My roomie (ex) who sleeps on the couch. Turns out he lied about starting a job and waited until the morning he was posed to go to work before telling me. This has weighed on my heart since that happened. I point blank asked him not to lie to me again. Although i realize he could very well be continuing to lie. Now he is starting this Monday. Ok, so am planning on having a peaceful weeked. Come Monday if he does not start a job, at that point i have decided what my line is. If he is not working then i will give him 2weeks verbal notice and then proceed with official eviction process if it comes right down to it. I think i have reached my limit. If he starts working then he will begin paying rent here and will be a wait and see kinda thing. I am far far from perfect, and not saying i dont do some things i shouldnt ( which btw are not a problem for me as far as addictions go; with the possible exception of my bipolar meds as i will be on those the rest of my life. I accepted that a long time ago) At any rate. I just wanted to give folks an update. I am peaceful in my heart about this decision even if i have to kick him out. It wont come without some pain but i had to make a decision. . I have searched for answers and that was the best I could come up with.. I havent point blank told him my plans as I dont want to spoil the weekend and I am giving him the benefit of the doubt until Monday when i will see then what happens. . At first; having experienced the effects of how much i slept when i first quit, i wont begrudge him on that although i didnt sleep quite as much as he has. At some point u either move forward, get stuck, or go backwards. I have prayed and sought counsel through the use of various tools ( God can provide some awesome tools ) I wish to thank all of you who responded with kindness and support and those who felt on their hearts to keep us in prayer. Am asking for continued prayers for him. That he uses this as yet another chance to get his life together and that he begins to do so.

by **Sylvia** » Fri Jun 20, 2008 8:17 am

Hi Goldie
Thanks for the update. I will continue to pray for you and your ex.
I pray that God will give you strength and wisdom in dealing with all this.
I pray for your ex that he will turn sincerely to the one who can help him and that is Jesus Christ our Lord.
Luv Ya
Sylvia