Christianity Oasis Forum

[kimberly]

What fear bothers you the most? How is God working on this in your life?

[comfy]

Stuff I'm not sure I should repeat, here.

Paranoid imagined stuff.

I guess you could imagine anything I might dread someone doing to me in a captive situation.

And what helps is if I am brought to consider how my suspicion and reacting in my imagination is NOT being attentive to God, first, in His peace (Colossians 3:15), and not loving and caring about the people I am suspecting or imagining. Then I have even dramatized the worst through, but with prayer and me imagining myself staying positive and caring about the ones hating and bludgeoning me however. I get in grace to say, "I choose to live." This situation is NOT going to decide how I am, I am going to enjoy God and aggressively love and pray blessing to everyone.

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I would say what fear bothers me most is that I will not complete the job God has given me to do.
Of course He has given me many things to do... but there was one I heard Him tell me this was mine to do and I was to complete this in His plan.

The job to be done was to raise Kat(17) and DJ(almost 16).

It was not something I gave any thought to not doing but from the beginning I knew it was God's Hand that placed them in John's and my life. They also came into my life as I had just given my heart over to Jesus the year before. So in teaching them from infants I was learning also...He was teaching me with them...it has been an awesome walk..learning and teaching at the same time. To see these two kids grow in His Spirit..to see the potential they have in Him...to know they have taught me with their child's acceptance and view point...seeing things easily; where I was looking to deep. The gentleness of faith when it comes to them...and knowing so much does not matter that I tried to make matter; when it is simple; loving God and seeking His will.

The biggest fear in my life has been fear of not completing this task.
My health has been the one main issue. Some things there was nothing I could do...but some things I knew of and was not taking care of myself for a long while. Many changes had been required and I choose not to make those changes until recently.

Now their time with us is coming to an end..as in living with us in our home.
Kat will be leaving for college at the end of next school year...DJ only has three years left. In looking at the time going by I question myself almost daily about the job He has given me. Do I do and did I do as He wanted? Probably not always. Are they a success in Christ? I only hope so for I see and hear what they tell me but only God knows their hearts.

I continually turn this fear to Him.
There is glory in what He has done in their lives, and what is to come...what He has accomplished in His Name in their world...for both these kids so far are doing well beyond the normal teen stuff that arises.

Am not anxious for my job to be completed...for will miss much as I all ready do the interaction we shared when they were small. Will miss them when they venture on their own...but am anxious to see the impact they will surely make upon the people and world about them as they grow and mature in their walk with God and the rest of their lives.

My biggest fear is not completing or doing the job He has given me.

Have wanted desperately to succeed for the Lord...after all He specifically asked me to take this job and I happily accepted it from Him.

[lizzie]

hi cc sis

Failure to try is the only true failure. You accepted them into your home and your heart and raised them as your own the best way you knew how.

Yes they may be leaving home soon, but what you have taught them will remain within them, and it will grow in God's time and you will see the fruits of those seeds you planted in time to come.

I dont think anything will ever truly come to completion until we are with our Lord, cuz we are always growing. But God never begins something He will not complete. And when you are a parent, you are a parent for life.

I imagine it is so difficult for parents to let their children into the world... there is that worry for them. But when it is time, you will have to trust the one who brought them to you, their Father, to do the increase and to watch over them and guide them. Perhaps this faith is what is needed to bring peace to your heart.

Praying for you and yours sis

Blessings to you

[susidivah]

I dont think anything will ever truly come to completion until we are with our Lord, cuz we are always growing. But God never begins something He will not complete.

I think this is soooo true, Lizzie! October, I am not a parent, but have heard many parents talk about the feelings in giving their children over to God, including fears. I also agree with Lizzie that the Trust and Faith is to be put in God. Then I would think His Will would fall into place

As for me... fear of the unknown is still a biggie with me, particularly with medical stuff. But, He's helped me come a long way with MY trust and faith in Him. Sometimes people, including myself, make mountains outta molehills, or magnify the scenarios to situations. Of course it makes it 1000 times worse!!! I also truly believe it can be a deception of Satan as well. As is fear as a whole, except the fear of God.

I'm rambling here but my point is where I have tackled fears is thru the awareness and armor against the Spiritual Warfare. My fears have taken away from enjoying my earthly life as well as my time in growing with my Lord. I would hope it wouldn't as much in the future nor with any of my brothers and sisters here

Thanks for listening,
Susi

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Thanks ladies for your kind words and encouragement.

I certainly do trust the Lord for their care and feeding as they venture out on their own. Have all ready sent off 4 other kids..
Just never had that empty nest syndrome yet Lucy.
Not sure am looking forward to it then maybe again I am ... have not decided that yet..maybe I will know when I actually experience it.

There is just something different when God places kids with you that could have gone or been taken somewhere else.(thank God they were NOT) It seems like there is an extra responsibility or something I can not quite place my finger on. I know He gave me each of my own children to raise...and I know He had/has plans for each one of them, for those who know Him and for those who do not...yet.

But with Kat and DJ He has spoken to me so many times about them...giving me audible direction.. reminders...coaxing and conviction of what I was not doing or what I could be doing. Encouragmenet when things were going right and well. It has just been different. And to see there is an absolute calling on them ...to hear from what they feel, what they see and how they live out God's desires just causes me to look at what I have or have not done in His will or not followed through.

I have all ready given them over to Him.
This was one special job I did not want to bungle up too much...knowing my ability to mess things up has been my fear, wanting to please God with what He gave me specifically to do.
I will rest on His favor...knowing I did not always do my best but considering who and what I am ... trusting it is all God's anyway....least I ramble too much more...once again thanks for the words of good will from you each.

blessings to all