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[stillstanding]

you wouldn't like me when im angry...quoting David Banner. you know - the incredible hulk? ok some of u know. sorry mild attempt at humor. but it really isnt funny. if i was 6'2 and turned green maybe, but it feels like that. i get soooo angry. there seems like there has to be something i can do before i lose my mind. i go from zero to psycho in -.4 seconds.

trying to identify triggers...the kids fighting and screaming at each other. thats what set me off tonite. trying so hard to have control over my thoughts and then brought back down to ground zero in just a couple minutes. i want to scream and cry and throw things and im just...i dont know what im feeling. besides furious. when i hafta raise my voice to be heard...its like the act of having to scream in order be heard just makes my blood boil or something. if i dont get to that point i can calm back down and think about what im doing.

[Mackenaw]

Hello Sortamorta

God bless you this day.

I'm lifting you up in prayers to our Lord in the name of Jesus. May God's blessed will be done.

Sortamorta, anger is a very bad habit, yet one that many of us incorporated into our lives, only to find out that it takes over. The reason being, it is straight from the devil.

I'm not judging you, I am merely reaching out to you in hopes of helping you break the habit. You see, anger used to run my life -- or better said, satan used to run my life anytime I resorted to anger, so I do understand. Praise God, there is victory in Jesus -- The Truth shall set you free.

There is a blessed Study here at Christianity Oasis on anger. Here is the link: http://www.christianityoasis.com/Keywor ... gement.htm

I encourage you to ask The Holy Spirit of God to read it with you, slowly -- taking it into your very core. It blessed me, and I feel confident it will bless you too.

I re-visit that Study periodically, myself, because The Holy Spirit senses when the enemy has been tempting me and I've, perhaps, been entertaining the thoughts too long, so He reminds me of the Study. I re-read it, again, tonight when I went searching for the link for you. Awesome! Awesome!! Awesome!!!

I hope you'll read it and comment, here, on the great lessons it offers, and how you are incorporating The Truths into your life.

God bless and keep you, Sortamorta.
Love,
Mack

[stillstanding]

mack, i can't hug you cuz you're -----> way over there....but i would hug you sooooo huge right now. thank you so much for sharing for praying for posting for being a wonderful friend. thank you thank you and thank you!

it is horrible - anger, rage even and hate comes with it. my dad was so mean and easily angered when i was a kid...he's totally changed now, God took the anger from him - miraculously - but they have an amazing relationship, God and my dad....sidetrack sorry.

God bless you, sis! and did i say thank you? thank you :D

love you!

[swar9920]

Hey Sortamora, I totally understand where you are coming from...I have huge anger problems myself. I didnt always used to be this way. I used to be so peaceful, quiet, and slow to anger. My heart used to be full of love and on fire for God....But slowly, during the past few years, I've become an anger addict (to use a new term)....You see, I wanted to please my Dad so badly during childhood- I had a fierce drive to please my Dad, and thus I became a perfectionist and overachiever. But it didnt matter, It seemed I could never be good enough for my Dad. And this hurt me terribly, leaving wounds that will take years to heal. Thus, the pain of not being able to please my Dad has finally caught up with me at the OLD age of 24:) I get angry so easily now, and I've started swearing and using words I didnt even know as a child. Whenever something goes slightly wrong in my life, I start cursing my life. I exercise and strain myself hard physically at work during the week, and even this doesnt take out my anger. I wish I could get rid of this anger- I dont want to be this way! Thats why I plan to get counseling soon, before I hurt someone or hurt myself badly. My anger just feels like a raging fire sometimes- How can quench this fire???? I know my anger is just a front for all the pain I have- but I'm so afraid of being hurt in life that I have to wear my hard look and angry demeanor.

Mack, how did you gain victory over the anger/pain in your life??

[Mackenaw]

Hello Swar9920

God bless you this day, and...welcome to Christianity Oasis.

You asked:

Mack, how did you gain victory over the anger/pain in your life??

Well, I read the Study on Anger Management, with the help of The Holy Spirit, and I prayed and asked The Lord to help me to stop resorting to the power of Anger (which is from the enemy of our souls), and instead reach for The Lord and the fruit of The Holy Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, self-control, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness (see Galatians 5:22-23).

Here is the link to the Study entitled "Anger Management"
http://www.christianityoasis.com/Keywor ... gement.htm

I used to think I was justified in my anger. God Word says... be angry, but do not sin (see Ephesians 4:26). Furthermore, His Word also tells us not to go to sleep angry, because that ugly evil weed will take root and grow. Eeeuuwwwwww!!!
My thought about anger now is... there is not much use spending time being angry, if I can't do anything with it, but be it's victim, huh?

I highly recommend the Study (link above) on Anger, as well as reading all the Awesome Studies on this site. All the Studies are Holy Spirit inspired, and are based on The Word of God. The Word of God is Truth, and Jesus is The Word; therefore Jesus is Truth, and the Truth shall set you free.

I'm sending up prayers to our Lord in the name of Jesus, on your behalf. May God's blessed will be done.

God bless and keep you,
Sister Mack

[Dora]

.the kids fighting and screaming at each other

sortamorta this is exactly what steals my joy as well. I use to get angry then I realized I was angry because they weren't perfect. Ouch! I began to give my kids some lead way to be little sinners, which is what they are. We all are sinners and fall short, and I found the anger came less frequent and less intense. I hope this helps. Anger seems to come when they are doing something that I want changed. Which really is just a form of control.

love ya.

[stillstanding]

Anger seems to come when they are doing something that I want changed. Which really is just a form of control.

whoa...lightbulb!




thanks, sis