Octobercc, you wrote:But since we are what we are we will fail from time to time...
Yes, *we* fail. "We" includes ones who do not need to lose weight > we can fail in other ways > I fail to love and forgive and have compassion the way God wants . . . not to mention, how You want me to do things only with You in Your peace (Clossians 3:15).
I need to be reminded not to be demanding instant improvement and success by people who have weight problems. I keep failing in other ways > why, all of a sudden, do I expect a person with an eating problem to suddenly do so well? Considering how I fail in how to love, I should have compassion instead of criticizing > "He can have compassion on those who are ignorant and going astray, since he himself is also subject to weakness." (Hebrews 5:2)
About when someone fails to keep to a good diet, you wrote:it is not the end of what we are doing
That's right . . . when we fail, this does not mean it's the end. Satan can come at us with thinking that any failure means it's over, we haven't got a chance. And we should not be this way with others . . . have hope and keep having hope, and this for ourselves, too.
And then you wrote:You know I did not go into healthy eating with the intention of losing weight..that was a side benefit. My desire was to be healthy and get off the meds I was taking,
That's interesting . . . that you had the motive not just of less quantity of weight, but the quality of your health. How you look to others would not be enough of a reason. And I'm finding that as I get more into caring more for others, and doing more for others, with this can come better activities than my sin problem stuff. And, by the way > in my case, my caring activities are not much exercise, but these keep me busy away from eating, so it all balances out.

sometimes I eat a little extra, out of worry that I might be losing too much weight

And wrote:As I began to drop pounds I was delighted, it was the extra blessing God gifted me.
a *gift* . . . "not of works"
About that Thailand diet having the lady looking good > I stay with a lot of vegetables and fruit and simply cooked meat, poultry, seafood. And some raw veggie stuff. But I do flavor things lightly with dressings, often mixed with soybean oil. And with other people, I may eat what they eat, but I do openly notify people that I have to watch my sweets . . . "just like anyone else, even though I'm not overweight." Some will try to stuff me and give me just high-carb food; so I gently and kindly talk with them like I'm *trusting* them to not do this with me. But with family and with Jesus people, I find we are welcome to make our choices so we enjoy. But some people, I have to stand up to them.
I was thinking, in the United States, we can have a way of just getting things without any effort. Animals have to hunt and find what they eat; so they stay in shape. Cave people would hunt and gather. *Seeking and finding.* There can be a natural need to seek and find; so when we just buy stuff at the store, with no effort, no challenge to find it . . . we can be missing something, maybe of the adventure of searching with God to get what He has for us.
You might go to where they sell apples, and eat some off the tree. There are organic growers who co-op their produce for a weekly fee, and you can work there and fill up as you weed and harvest, eating natural foods you find while working.
But seeking and finding how God wants us to be loving people > feed on this, and see some weight go off . . . deeper, spiritually, emotionally. We have left behind the challenge of finding out how to love. And with this, we can't be satisfied just with food or TV or excitement and pleasure thingys.