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We somehow buy into the myth that the abuse is really our fault, that we somehow provoked it, deserved it, or are otherwise responsible for it. Most abusers shift the blame onto their victim, making us responsible for their emotional and often physical well-being, and it can be very hard realising that they alone are responsible for their actions.

foreverHis wrote:We somehow buy into the myth that the abuse is really our fault, that we somehow provoked it, deserved it, or are otherwise responsible for it. Most abusers shift the blame onto their victim, making us responsible for their emotional and often physical well-being, and it can be very hard realising that they alone are responsible for their actions.

I deserved it...i didn't alway's obey..so there was a punishment. That make's me also responsible.

waterlily wrote:
I deserved it...i didn't alway's obey..so there was a punishment. That make's me also responsible.

Hi, Waterlily. There is a line between abuse and punishment. Parents spank their kids from time to time. That is punishment. If it goes beyond a spanking, it is probably abuse. No one deserves that. Not kids or adults.

There are so many non-physical techniques for discipline. They teach kids how to behave. Hitting children teaches them that adults hit kids.

Let go of that thought, Waterlily. Give it to God and may He bless you and protect you.