Sexual Addiction
Posted: Fri Jun 17, 2011 6:42 pmHi Ya'll...
Those of us, who are recovering from sexual addiction, were driven here by different forms of the same problem.
Some of us fit society’s stereotype of what a sex addict might be, and some of us didn’t. Some of us were driven to buy or sell sex on the street, others to have it anonymously in bars or public places.
Some of found ourselves in painful and destructive affairs, or consumed by an unhealthy obsession with a particular person.
Many of us kept our obsessions to ourselves, resorting to compulsive masturbation, pictures, fetishes, voyeurism, or exhibitionism.
Some of us victimized others. And with many of us, our compulsions took a tool on family, coworkers, and friends.
Very often, we felt that we were the only ones who could not stop, that we were doing this-whatever it was-against our will.
When we sought help, we found that in spite of our differences, we share a common problem- the obsession of lust, usually combined with a compulsive demand for sex in some form.
We identify with one another on the inside. Whatever the details of our problem, we were dying spiritually –dying of guilt, fear, and loneliness.
As we come to see that for us, there is a common solution – the Twelve Steps of recovery, practiced in a fellowship, and on a foundation of what we call sexual sobriety.
Our definition of sobriety represents, for us, the basic and necessary condition for lasting freedom from the pain that brought us here.
We find that nothing else works. We have tried to deny what our common experience has taught us, we have found that recovery still eludes us.
And this seems true whether we are male or female; married or single; whether our acting out was with the same sex or not; whether our relationships were “committed”, “meaningful”, or one-night-stands; or whether we resorted to a little sex with self as a “physical outlet”.
As men and women of Alcoholics Anonymous learned over fifty years ago, “half-measures avail us nothing”!
There is a solution. We don’t claim that it’s for everyone, but for us, it works. If you identify with us, and think you may share our problem, we’d like to share a solution with you.
We will be working through the Twelve Steps for sexual addiction.
May God Bless and Strengthen us all.
Those of us, who are recovering from sexual addiction, were driven here by different forms of the same problem.
Some of us fit society’s stereotype of what a sex addict might be, and some of us didn’t. Some of us were driven to buy or sell sex on the street, others to have it anonymously in bars or public places.
Some of found ourselves in painful and destructive affairs, or consumed by an unhealthy obsession with a particular person.
Many of us kept our obsessions to ourselves, resorting to compulsive masturbation, pictures, fetishes, voyeurism, or exhibitionism.
Some of us victimized others. And with many of us, our compulsions took a tool on family, coworkers, and friends.
Very often, we felt that we were the only ones who could not stop, that we were doing this-whatever it was-against our will.
When we sought help, we found that in spite of our differences, we share a common problem- the obsession of lust, usually combined with a compulsive demand for sex in some form.
We identify with one another on the inside. Whatever the details of our problem, we were dying spiritually –dying of guilt, fear, and loneliness.
As we come to see that for us, there is a common solution – the Twelve Steps of recovery, practiced in a fellowship, and on a foundation of what we call sexual sobriety.
Our definition of sobriety represents, for us, the basic and necessary condition for lasting freedom from the pain that brought us here.
We find that nothing else works. We have tried to deny what our common experience has taught us, we have found that recovery still eludes us.
And this seems true whether we are male or female; married or single; whether our acting out was with the same sex or not; whether our relationships were “committed”, “meaningful”, or one-night-stands; or whether we resorted to a little sex with self as a “physical outlet”.
As men and women of Alcoholics Anonymous learned over fifty years ago, “half-measures avail us nothing”!
There is a solution. We don’t claim that it’s for everyone, but for us, it works. If you identify with us, and think you may share our problem, we’d like to share a solution with you.
We will be working through the Twelve Steps for sexual addiction.
May God Bless and Strengthen us all.