Well Skrubbs , one thing for sure , that I am glad that you're sticking for the "second time" around deal . But however , I'm afraid I have to second Deetu's statement as to "stop beating yourself up " ! Last I heard , you were still human right ? Well , what else do you expect from humans Skrubbs ?
I'm hearing a lot of "reflections" and the "used to be's " in your last "report" and all the , though not written , but I'm sensing all the infamous "What if's " underneath all that .
I remember , I think it was in my first or second year of recovery , my sponsor suggesting I go through the steps once over again and I just simply went "wha .. who .. why ... " I mean talk about ego deflation !!!
(yes , you may be asking , what does this have to do with "recovery" )
Well , the experience was exactly the same with my spiritual health as well . See , you said it yourself , and I was saying and treating others as such as well , "I didn't care ! " for
I knew I was right !! . And with that attitude , and unbeknownst to me , I was bulldozing my way of thinking upon others , and they in turn were feeling very "uncomfortable" . So you see , it wasn't me that they wanted to "cut-off" so to speak , but rather , they were trying to cut the legs off the spiritual high-chair I was talking to them from , to make the chair a bit shorter in order for me to see eye to eye .
My dear Skrubby , my brother , please don't take this personal , I am only relating my own experience , and I see myself in what you just wrote .
See , by me going over through the steps the second time , with the help of my sponsor , I found out the things I had left out in the first round because of all the excitement in the new-found freedom , I just wanted to run and tell the world whether they wanted to hear it or not !
After that , I found it very beneficial to go through them once again every two years or so , just to keep myself in check .
The only thing I can suggest (though not asked of me) is that keep your focus on today , work on who you are today , and what Skrubby needs to do today , did I by any chance mention today ?
Our Lord wants you today Skrubbs , He sees you as you are today .
Luv ya