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I'm sorta new here. Been here on an off. To make a long story short...This is whats going on. ...
I have an elderly neighbor I've known all my life since I was a kid. (I'm 44 now) she has always considered my sister an I her daughters.

my neighbor has a neice that i met last year. we hit it off great. we like to be with each other. she is older than i so I call her "mom". i dont have any parents so having Mama Jo is a hugh blessing to me. A parent in my life is what i need so much right now . even if i am in my 40's.

this has gotten my elderly neighbor all in a knot. she absolutely does NOT want us together. i never knew why..........till now.

neighbor is in a rehab / nursing home for a while. she was hurt and now has pneumonia. i went to visit her yesterday (sat) i take her her mail and watch over her house.

we were filling out a couple of checks and she got VERY serious with me. telling me what we talk about is to only be between the 3 of us. (My sister, Lu and I) so i was like "ok. i understand" (but didn't promise anything). then she just went off about her wishes. that she wants us to have everything she has if / when she dies. (she is 95) she was telling me all kinds of stuff about her neice that i have a very hard time believing. she does not want me to tell her neice ANYTHING. lu thinks her neice is trying to get her house and material stuff. then she told me that her neice wanted me to be her friend so that i will tell her (neice) stuff about lu. now what am i going to tell her neice? i dont know anything. all i ever wanted was to feel like somone one cares about me. i grew up feeling neglected by my parents so when i met lu's neice i was in heaven. someone i could look up to and call mom.

this is very upsetting to me. i dont' know if i'm making sence but its NOT FAIR that lu dumped all this on me and expects me to keep quiet. not tell ANYONE. i have told her neice some stuff but not the specific things lu said to absolutely tell no one.

this isn't fair. i've never done anything to Lu. all i ever wanted was to feel like i had a mom again. i have a hard enough time living with depression and borderline personality disorder.

'mom" thinks i should get this off my chest and just tell her everything lu told me not to tell. i must say i am thinking about it alot. i don't owe lu anything. she's told lies her whole life so this shouldn't be a surprise but it is to me.

i feel like i can't trust ANYONE. i dont' know what to do. i've been crying about it on an off for 2 days. asking God "WHAT should I do?" i think and need to just write my "mom" everything. they know how lu is so this won't be to surprising to her and her husband anyways.

Hi mokie

Its great to hear from you sis.

Wow some tangle huh? Aww

I know it must be hard, being torn between two people that you obviously care very deeply for.

Well sis, I wish I could tell you exactly what to do in this situation, but Im afraid that I cannot, as this is something that you need to pray about and seek God's guidance on, as He alone knows ALL truth. If you seek Him in this situation, the Holy Spirit will lead you into truth and show you what needs to be done, if anything.It is called discernment. If you attempt to proceed without the guidance of God, you run the risk of having this whole situation become even worse than it is now.

Instead of acting in haste, or letting the enemy place thoughts within you that cause you to become depressed and angry etc, offer your situation up to the Lord, and let Him know that you want His guidance as to be able to do the right thing. He will place it upon your heart, in His time. Pray for His will to be done in the matter.

I remember the story of Solomon and the two women with the baby (1 Kings 3) Solomon was able to discover Truth, by applying wisdom and discernment from God.

How do we get wisdom? Ask...

James 1:5-7 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.

Ask in faith, and then wait on the Lord to lead you.

GBU mokie
lizzie

I know that this situation is hard for you but just keep it in prayer because although paranoia may set in with some elderly people also keep in mind that you have known her niece for a few years she has known her niece all her nieces life and i only tell you this because I have family members that in a millon years I would never believe that they would hurt someone in our family for money but I had three aunts who even after they were told by my grandmothers regular physician not to allow anyone to do surgery on her because it would kill her signed for her to have heart surgery and then when my grandmother ended up unconscious and couldn't breath on her own they signed to pull the plug before my grandmothers other 10 children could object. So although it may be hard for you to believe that she would do anything to make sure she can get materialistic things there are people like that so just keep the situation in prayer and I will pray for you as well and ask for GOd to give you guidance.