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[Sylvia]

One thing I learned from doing the 14 day counseling study was in dealing with the thoughts in my head. I have not always dealt with them with wisdom and lived in fear most if the time.
A constant sore spot has been my sister. I seldom talk about her but I want to share this. She left home pregnant when I was 14 yrs old. Her husband abused her and she ended up leaving him after 17 yrs of marriage for another man. This man totally controls her. When our parents were both on their last days on earth she was not allowed to come and help me and she was not allowed to come to their funerals.
In forty years she has only come home maybe four times.
I have always been the one to put out the effort with her. If I didn't I would never hear from her. Yesterday I called her. I wanted to come see her in February. I was told that her husband did not want me to come. He was too depressed to have visitors. Again she will not be allowed to see her family. The last time I was allowed down there to see her was to give her the inheritance check from our parents will. That was in 2004.
Yesterday I was upset. I wanted to see her and again I felt it was all about him and not her needs. I wanted to write a letter and tell him what I thought. Bringing up the past, present and future.
Then I remembered something in the counseling study. I prayed to God to allow me to hear the Truth above all the other voices in my head telling me what to do. Instantly the other voices were silent. God told me not to think about the past, give Him the present, and He will take care of the future. I gave my sister and her husband over to the Lord. I feel free. The voices are gone. I have peace. I will continue to pray for my sister and her husband that they will turn to Christ for the answers in their lives.
He has the answers. Not me. Praise the name of Jesus
Sylvia

[realtmg]

Amen. Powerful message sis. When we allow the Holy Spirit to work in our lives and not cling to what we "think" is best, peace is right around the corner, waiting to enter in.
You let go of a resentment that you were harboring and God opened your eyes revealing the answer to you through this study. I praise Him for this.

Your post reminded me of a verse in Phil. 3:13 " Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,"

I have observed many people who give 100% of themselves to this study, change their thinking in which changes their behavior. I say this to you because we share a common problem and Resentments are the number one offender to a potential relapse.

I read post of the ones who do this study and this verse comes into my mind, "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God." Hebrews 12:2.

God's word WILL transform people if we seek to be transformed. You know that my past was devastating and only by the grace of God, I am able to get up on a Saturday morning to see the post made in these forums whereas I used to get up with hangovers and guilt from the night before.

1 John 3:18-22 states,
18 My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.
19 And hereby we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before him.
20 For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things.
21 Beloved, if our heart condemn us not, then have we confidence toward God.
22 And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.

The blood of Christ gives me an opportunity to start fresh each day. And for this, I am truly grateful.

Thanks for sharing. Luv Ya, Real

[Sylvia]

Real,
You have been a constant support for me since I came to Oasis. For this I want to Thank You.
You have been used by God to help me where professional therapists couldn't (and I have been to several for several reasons)
I am not seeing my therapist any more. I truly feel Oasis is it for me.
I am not saying this is the right choice for everyone who sees a therapist.
But I do know I have gotten into the deeper parts of my problems here and not there. My body might be falling apart but my heart is healing!!
Luv you Real
Sylvia

[realtmg]

Sylvia, I am honored to be a vessel of the Most High. As you know, I am not an expert or therapist. I know that Jesus can to give life and life more abundantly. I wanted to live life my own way and only needed God in the bad times you see.
All I can say is that I try to stay humble and grateful and live One Day At A Time.
Thank You for your honesty and sincerity to work hard at your struggles. It has given me strength.
You are just as much of this site as I am. I come to the Oasis and I see people getting honest with themselves and reach out for help. Then, God goes to work. It is such a pleasure to see Him working in peoples lives.
My prayer is for everyone to experience His peace and love.
I serve a Living God.
GBU sis. Luv Ya, Real.