Christianity Oasis Forum

[Rose]

I am dealing with my dad and my mother in law both hospitalized, both not wanting to live... my dad fell and broke his shoulder and his pelvis and he's 89. Long term recovery and not a lot of hope. My mother in law is 98 and has severe dementia, spends a lot of time just counting. My brother has cancer. Trying to figure out how to take care of ME in all this. Feeling very very overwhelmed.
It is really hard not to give in to anxiety. I start feeling like I'm having a heart attack, or maybe some other fatal thing. My daughter is having a baby in a couple months, and I can't even focus on that!
I keep thinking about focusing on the Lord: not being anxious, trusting. Sometimes I do ok. Other times I cry and cry.
One day at a time, one day at a time. One STEP at a time...
Anyway.

[Mackenaw]

Hello Rose

God bless you this day.

I'm so glad you have returned and that you are continuing on the 14 Path study. Thank You Jesus!!!

I have read all your posts, and have prayed for you -- praying to our Lord in the name of Jesus. It's an honor and privilege to lift you up in prayer to our Lord and Saviour. God is so very Good!

I, too, know what it is like to care for elderly parents and all the challenges that they endure, as well as how their challenges impact us, as the caregivers. It's very challenging indeed. (((hugs))) God bless you. It is so easy for our own emotions to get out of balance, because it feels so "personal". Dementia is so very unkind. And, sadly, as our elderly parents become more and more physically challenged, and they feel miserable both physically and mentally, their emotions often betray them, having them say things they might not otherwise say. Even though it feels personal, it is not -- no matter how convincing the enemy's whispers in our ears. Remember, God loves you, Rose, He loves you so very much, and He loves your parents, and He will help you serve them by His power, and He will help you overcome the whispers of the enemy. Hallelujah! Thank You Jesus! Take frequent breaks, deep cleansing breaths, and praise our Lord.

In conjunction to your husband and your current living condition, you mentioned that you are tempted to either move into your parents' house or in with your daughter. While I cannot make that decision for you, I feel compelled to share...if it were me, I'd move to either place, and I'd do so quickly. Your husband needs professional help, but sadly, he is in denial, and given your marriage's history, I don't know that his healing will come through you as one of God's vessels -- at least, not at this time. God may very well use you, down the road, to help your husband, but, right now you need some blessed healing, yourself. I do, however, encourage you to continue to pray for your husband and be open to God's leading. Currently, you are so overwhelmed, I think it important that you give yourself some space from the situation, because, right now, you are being drawn into the pit with him. We cannot help pull someone out of a pit, if we're in the pit with them.

God is Good, and He loves your husband. God loves you, Rose.

Soooooo, your daughter is going to have a baby? Awwwwwwwwwwesome! I, myself, am a new grandma, and oh, what a blessing. Thank You Lord!!! When is the baby due?

Rose, I hope you will continue on the 14-Path Study, and embrace, fully, the truths shared within each of the stepping stones. The Word, Jesus, is Truth and the truth will set you free. \o/ \o/ \o/

I'm sending up prayers to our Lord in the name of Jesus on your behalf. May God's blessed and perfect will be done.

God bless and keep you, Rose.
In Christ Jesus' love,
Sister Mack

[dema]

You are God's child too. You are important too. And Mack is a smart lady who listens to God.