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I'm 16, and until recently, I've been determined not to marry. I feel like God wants me to, but I don't know it's actually God talking. Fear is probably the bigest factor making me not want to marry; I'm afraid of raising kids, I'm afraid of messing up, and I don't believe that any human relationship can last long or end well. I don't like female personality, and I don't want to be tied down. I'm currently trying to recover from a porn problem, any suggestions?
When I was very young, I loved a girl very much, and hastily gave her my heart. Her mom got angry at mine, and I never saw her again. It hurt me a lot, and I spent years in misery. Then I realized that she might be feeling the same way, I felt like I should do something, but didn't. I don't know if I should have or not, but I think it's too late to now. I think she has a boyfriend. Unless she's changed a lot, she's probably not the one for me, and I don't think I care for her more than anyone else.

Hi JP,

At this stage in your life I would discourage you from giving serious thought to whether or not you want to marry. I'm assuming you are still in High School, and possibly considering college or other goals in life. Give prayerful attention to these things. Marriage can wait. If the Lord has Marriage in His plan for your life, He will give you that desire in His time. Until then, don't fret over marriage or the idea of raising kids. Give your attention to knowing and growing in God and His will for your life - now.

In Love, Sister Julie

Hey JP, I have to agree with our sister JulieAnn...

Matthew 6:34
Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.

Just take life one day at a time...and for now work on your relationship with God. This will bring you the joy you need.

Take care