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As I write this I am in tears, feeling so overwhelmed with emotion and sorrow. I think of the lord and I know he is LOVE and I know he is always good and his promises I believe. The ache in my heart still overwhelmes my being and I have come to a decision to stop seeking to make a difference in the heart of my husband. I ask God for the words to be his and not my own, but still nothing has been able to penetrate his soul and he continues on a mission to be cruel and hurtful every chance he gets. I know when my husband speaks it's under the spell the enemy has him in but still hard to take. I sent him the lyrics to a song that spoke to me in every way, a song that I listened to and thought WOW that is exactly how I feel, only to get in response yeah I heard that song before and I dedicated it to the woman he is with. It broke my heart and I haven't been able to hear the song since. Lord I surrender! I surreder my problems and lay them at your feet, I will not quit but will just be praying on the sidelines because ultimately it is you Father that is the business of miracles, it is you Father that can change our hearts and restore all things according to you will!! I SURRENDER!!

armywife1207 I feel your pain, as i have been in your shoes at one time. we cannot force anyone to love us the way that we love them, no matter how much try. You are right in the fact that you need to surrender it to God, like I've been reading in my healing path: Let go, Let God! God has someone for you in mind and in due time he will reveal that person to you(maybe it might be your current husband). we need to be patient and work in God's timing for he has someone very special for you that will love you, honor you, respect you, and never leave your side. I pray and lift you up to Jesus that he will console you at this time and that you will be able to find peace and serenity, in jesus name we pray, AMEN!!!
sherry

This post is to you both,

I feel your pain as I too have been where you are, I have been separated for 3 years and wanted nothing more than to have my "happy marriage" healed....but then when I realized what I wanted was to be "happy" not back in the cold empty marriage which mine had turned to, that is when I realized even more that the prayers I had been asking was being answered just not as I thought I wanted, you see I agree marriage should be sacred but when it is full of emptiness, abuse and or cheating...that is not a marriage God wants.
I started and still pray for His will to be done, I now am trying my hand at dating (after 14 years of being with someone)
BUT I believe God has someone out there for me just as He does for you, and as Honey Girl said it may very well be your husband and he just needs a good shakin to wake him to realize it but NO one knows...except God
I pray He will bless me with my angel, someone who I will be happy with and make happy, and that anytime someone comes into my life He makes it clear to me as to weather or not she is His choice for me because it is His will I want and as it says He knows your desires and will give them if you give yourself to Him

I pray He shows both of us the one He has for us and it is plain for us to see, and that we no longer deal with empty lonely hurtful times but those of love, respect and happiness.

God Bless
Cuc