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Selfish? Kind of an understatement when it comes to the way I treated my marriage. Don't get me wrong, I love my wife and children. I have tried my best to see to it they had the things in life they needed. In my drive to excell I left her behind and alone. I worked too much and wasn't much company when I came home. This came after some years of addiction and we all know that was cruel selfishness on my part. The blank in the statement from this lesson could be filled with so many things. One would think that somewhere along 12 years of marriage I would have figured the things out that I have learned over the last six months or so. I was just a pew sitter. I loved but had no idea how to do it. Now I am in a place where I may have lost my wife and children. I,hate feeling like I am basing my self forgiveness on my wife's forgiveness. I just feel lost.

praying for you bro.

I look up to you for being able to admit to being selfish. I to am selfish.

Jake,
I suggest you be honest and admit your faults including your addiction.
Sounds if you took things for granted.
I have done this.
I do know that love is a verb as in giving of yourself without reward.
What do I know,but I'll ponder on this because I will be self- centered if I forget.
Thank you for sharing.
it helped me

GBU

Real

Hey Jake

Where do I start....how about by saying I too was selfish, addicted and shallow
It is so easy to get swallowed up in this as I did and it only spiraled out of control
I tried SO HARD to show her love by doing things....but I forgot....to just love her.
addictions yes I had a few but the last one had a vice on me and destroyed what was left of my marriage
I pray the Lords will be done in your life and that He shows you the path He has.
DO NOT drive yourself into the ground with self hate for your actions....THAT IS NOT GOD'S WISH
You have to go to Him and accept your wrongs and ask for His forgiveness and move forward....it is done!
You cannot change the past only how it effects your future, and destroying yourself from self hate will solve nothing
I know
Pray He will show you the path He has and that He will soften the hearts of those you love and give you the strength to rise above all that stands in your way.

God bless
Cuc