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I first wanna start out with my Thank you for patience on me stating what it was that I could use advice on. Its been a very busy day today with my son... A exhausting day in the sun. but what a amazing day. I got to teach my son to not be afraid of letting go of Mama in the water in with his life jacket on. It was really hard to watch him get really scared. I simply grabbed him tightly the first cry for "Mama please help me" but after that I looked him the straight in the eyes and I said do you trust? "yeah Mama I trust you" then you know that I would never do anything to harm you! I want you to look Mama in the eyes and dont move them away from mine and paddle like a puppy. When I let go of him he let out a little cry (broke my heart) but I said "Christian Nicholas, you keep your eyes on Mama, your fine I promise!" shortly after my son was over joyed that he could continously do it and be safe. It was a day Ill never forget. But anywho... On to my advice.

My husband has stated that it is a slap in the face everytime he sees my ring on my finger. But I dont know whether to take it off...or keep it off... I think I kinda just answered my question as I was just writing it out... Its selfish... I am wearing it for my own purpose, to feel comforted by still being my husbands wife, I feel lost without it, like a part of me is missing when its off... I mean apart of me is missing, my better half... My flesh... But I dont know. Would it b selfish of me and wrong of me to wear it only when hes not around... That would b dishonest huh? I am very torn. Please help.

Todays stepping stone was refreshing... IM going to admit something that I am kind of embarrassed about... But I didn't know the difference between. The Lord, Jesus, and The Holy Spirit. I really enjoyed Stepping Stone 10 I can't wait till tomorrow.

Good thoughts today.
Also I weeded out a weed today. I began to watch "The preachers wife" with my mom today and I was completely moved in every way to that movie... Me and my mom were both crying... Uplifting, Spirtiual, and Moved by the movie. I forgave my husbands girlfriend today... A weight has been lifted and IM feeling good about. Thank you Jesus!

Goodnight and God Bless all of you

Dear Cc4l,
I just wanted to say it is good to hear you have the blessings of this study
And as for the day with your son, did you realize the story of you and your son is the story of us and God
we are so affraid to let go we grab and cling and cry out and yes while it breaks His heart He knows you are safe
and wants us to trust in Him that He is in control.

As for the ring, it is only my OPINION that it while yes is hurting your husband that you wear it.......why....because he defiled it, it makes him feel bad you as you told me before about fighting for your marriage is why I think you still wear it
and as you said it makes you feel as if everything is alright when you look down and see it on your finger
some see the wedding ring differently than others, in 14 years I never took mine off and I do not wear jewlery much at all but hardly ever rings but it was a symbol, but my ex was constantly taking hers off and laying it down and sometimes losing it but even the times she didn't lose it she didn't rush to put it back on when she relized it was gone

You see I took that as a symbol of our committment to each other, she took it as a peice of jewlery
I would have stood through ANYTHING with her....she didn't

Cling to God and your son and when the time comes the Lord will want you to let go and swim on your own

God bless and I pray He gives you peace and comfort in this hurting time
Cuc