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Hello and welcome to the oasis!
I wanted to tell you I found this place just as you did and just like you I didn't go to the others, I believe God led you here just as I feel that is why I was led here, I've been here 2 years and still have NO interest in looking any farther
Please look around and feel free to ask questions, you will find this site full of God's love as well as a ton of info created to help those in need or those searching for answers
As for the things you spoke of
You are not your mom or your dad so allow God to lead you to the church He wants for you, you will know, I got lucky I was raised Lutheran but 20 some years passed and I went to the church I attend now and have been there ever since and it is not Lutheran, I feel for now this is where He wants me.
As for the other, you will find there are many opinions of this but I think you already know who holds the answers, this is between you and God and I think he is trying to give you the answer, you must go to Him ask and be quiet and listen to Him to hear His path for you, your vision is Him calling to you but you are not allowing yourself to listen, this is the not being able to reach the hand as you are reaching for it, it is as you said He can and will give you answers and fill that empty spot that nothing else can.
Again welcome to the oasis and may God bless you as only He can
Cuc

Thank you Cuc, I believe he's been trying to tell me, but I don't know how to sit there and listen for anything he might be saying. I know that I have to have patience though, and it's something I definitely need more of. Thank you for taking the time to read this and reply. ^_^

Entry 2

I'm feeling a lot better about things in general today. The only thing that even remotely bothers me today is the stitches I have for getting my wisdom teeth taken out. I can't wait to get the stitches out soon, they bother me and gross me out.

I'm fairly happy today, and get to go out to eat with my family at Red Lobster for my sister's birthday even though that's a ways away. We're getting this done before both of us go back to our respective colleges. I do hope my mom feels well enough to go though, she wasn't feeling well yesterday.

Hello TeganB

God bless you this day.

I am glad The Lord led you here and that you are seeking His Counsel. The Lord loves you so very much, and God The Father, God The Son and God The Holy Spirit all want a personal relationship with you.

I'm not sure if you are reading the 14 Day Study / CCCC Study or not, I assume you are, but just in case here is the link to the Study: http://www.christianityoasis.com/CCCC/Forum.htm

It is good to journal your thoughts on your life's journey, but equally as important to journal about the lessons taught within each day's step of the Study. God's Word and the lessons within the Study are so good to meditate on, think on and journal/write down, as it helps get it planted and watered deeper within. God, Himself, will give the increase.

I look forward to reading what you have to share.

God bless and keep you.
In Christ Jesus' love,
Sister Mack

Hello Sister Mack,

Yes, I realized that after I posted my second entry that I needed to go on to the second stepping stone. I really like what it's talking about and I have a really good feeling about this Stepping Stones process.

Thank you and have a good day/evening/night!

Entry 3

Dear Lord,

After I have written my first entry, I felt like a huge weight had been lifted from my chest. It was from that point on that I finally felt like I had someone I could tell everything to without any worries. I want to try and make it a habit to talk to you more no matter what time of day it is. I know that I can and should tell you of my sins and I know that you will forgive me. I am also sorry that it has taken this long for me to reach out and say something. I have been searching for you, and I am ready to listen. Please grant me the patience to wait and hear you. I long to have a deep and intimate relationship with you.

Eagerly waiting and forever yours,
Tegan

After reading about the third stepping stone, a little light ignited within me. I realized the Lord is willing to forgive anything and I'm so grateful for that. I have denied Him before but I will never deny Him ever again. I will do my best to do what he wants me to do.

Entry 4

I forgot to do this yesterday with so much going on. But I'm back now!

Stepping Stone 4 struck a nerve with me- but in a good way that makes me think- if that's possible.

You cease to feel resentment against an offender, but you really don't trust them anymore whether you should or should not in some cases, causing you not to be able to trust others for this particular offense caused by one soul.
You can forgive but you can't forget. You store a record of the offence in the back of your mind just in case you need to bring it up at a later date for any reason.
You claim to forgive, but your relationship has never been quite the same with the person … and never will be. You tolerate the offender as much and as you can bear to, because Jesus said to forgive. Sometimes you rarely speak, if ever again, and the relationship virtually ends after the so-called forgiveness.
You excuse the offense, but you ridicule, deride, mock, taunt or rally the offender, sometimes in anger and other times in humor.
You forgive outwardly for appearances, but inside you just can't seem to forgive.
Some things you forgive, some things ya don't, it's complicated y'know.
You pardon someone totally and unconditionally. You continue to love the person who sinned against you, just as you did before the offense. It's as though it never even happened. Recollections of the offense are not used for any reason. You don't forget that you're a sinner yourself and mercy and grace are the greatest gift that God has given you through Jesus Christ.

I can do this easily with pretty much everyone.

However..

I have been friends with this girl ever since first grade and now we're in our first year in college- the same college no less since that's the only place her mom would let her go because I was going.

She had wronged me so many times with taking advantage of my friendship. Everything she thought was minor was a big issue with her, but I turned the other cheek and forgave her for all of them. Other problems she'd caused in the past years pales in comparison to what she did last year; everything fell apart and she completely tore apart everything I worked hard on trying to preserve our friendship. After fighting and yelling at both me and my boyfriend, she wised up and went to a psychologist afterwards. Then she apologized to my boyfriend and started talking him everything while paying no mind to me. I'm so hurt because she said she was afraid of losing our friendship, and now she's not even trying to fix it. Is she so used to having me pick up the messes that I'm supposed to try and fix something she had done- again?

Other problems she'd caused in the past years pales in comparison to what she did last year.

How can I forgive her for something like this?

Entry 5

My sister's now trying to get out of a relationship with a boy who's known for severe depression. She told me how he was crying on the phone to her before driving over to talk, and how she's worried about him hurting himself. I felt this extreme wave of despair come over me. Where did this come from??

I used to play the blame game before I graduated high school. Somewhere along the way to now, I've figured out to stop doing that and leave others alone. I started taking responsibility for my actions and suffered the consequences, thus leaving no one else to blame but myself. But it looks like I can't blame myself either. However, can't blame Satan either since he's only the source. Looks like the only way to go is talk to God, and honestly, I have no problem. It's about time for a talk anyways, I only hope I can hear Him one way or another.