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Today was the hardest topic of all for me. Forgiving myself and others. I find it much easier to forgive others then to forgive myself. Even though I will ask God to take it away and give it over to him I seem to only give him a little and take the rest for myself to keep. I noticed tonight that I am carrying guilt for a lot of things that were never my fault. And carrying guilt for a lot of things that were already forgiven. I do carry unforgiveness for some tings people have done in the past that hurt me. I was teased really bad in school because I was an easy target we couldnt afford the expensive clothes and I was tiny and quiet. I still replay some of the conversations over and over and get angry all over again. Okay so I guess I need to let go....anyone got any super glue solvent? ugh! I know God wants me to forgive myself and others but this is soo hard. I dont WANT the resentment I just feel it anyways. Okay so right here right now. God please take away the resentment I feel towards myself and others. I hand it over to you and accept the freedom that you intended for us all to have. You know that it may take time to take the bad memories away and Father I promise you that I will pray and give it to you each and everytime I remember till I feel nothing of anger everytime I remember. I pray these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, Amen.
Amie

Amen, sis. I stand in prayer with you.

One thing that helps me to forgive is to remember that the ones who hurt me are human, too. They have the same enemy battling for their souls as we do. Kids can be so cruel. Its a climb up the mountain to figure out who they are...and in their own insecurities, they make fun of others so they dont feel so badly about themselves. They too, all of us, need our Lord and Savior to save us...to reach us, to heal us and to change us. There are others who hurt us more deeply. The roots go deeper. These too, are human. We dont know their stories...what has twisted their souls...or hurt them that would cause them to hurt someone else. But, God does. He knows their hearts. Forgiving doesnt mean what they did was ok...it means you will let God be God and judge in their lives.

Like you said, every time something comes back up, weed it out. Give it to Him. Ask Him to help you forgive.

Sister, forgiving yourself...that is the hardest most times. He died for that. He didnt do it half way on the cross. His mercy and grace are complete. Trust what He says. It is finished the minute you ask Him to forgive you.

Standing with you through all..

In Jesus,
love momo

Hi Amie,
I hope that you find your path and that HE heals you in the process. I think I still need to recognize that maybe I also need to forgive myself for many things. Sometimes I think I have already made my peace with those things, but somehow some of them linger on in my mind. Time to weed the Garden! Blessings and Love to you in HIS name.

BoL