Christianity Oasis Forum

[Dora]

Hey Brandy,
Speak the truth to those weeds when they pop up.
It does get easier.



God bless.
Prayers.

[verdad100]

I just want to first off appoligize for the couple of days lag in my postings. I have been sick and pretty much just in and out of bed. But I'm feeling a little better and awake enough to go ahead and make this posting. Lets see...the third step told me to except Gods grace. I always seem to forget that God is the best father that I could ever have. He forgives me for sins that nobody else would. Honestly this step has told(or rather reminded me) about several things.

1. Forgive yourself-God forgives you and you need to forgive you. I fight with this all the time. I know that God forgives me but I have a really hard time forgiving myself. But I need to forgive me. If God forgives me then I should really forgive myself.

2. 9 out of 10 trials we are in we put ourselfs in-WOW that is calling the kettle black. Its so true...most of the situations that I get into I have put myself in. But I know that God will be there...put my trust in him and he will pull me out. Thats just amazing to me...still comprehending that.

God loves me with all my faults and he forgives me. What an awesome God we serve. Thank you Father!!!!

[Dora]

Hello Verdad
Glad you are feeling well enough to get back at it.



Keep on moving forward. You're doing terrific.

[momof3]

1. Forgive yourself-God forgives you and you need to forgive you. I fight with this all the time. I know that God forgives me but I have a really hard time forgiving myself. But I need to forgive me. If God forgives me then I should really forgive myself. God loves me with all my faults and he forgives me. What an awesome God we serve. Thank you Father!!!!

Hi Verdad God bless you, sis. Isnt amazing how the Lord works? Ive often thought about and condemned myself...or let the enemy do it for me...and its so awesome when we realize what the Holy Spirit has shown you now. What right do we really have to hold things against oursleves that the Lord has already forgiven us for? Isnt He the One who has the authority to forgive or not? So, you are so right. It is so tough to do when we are slammed with the bad decisions and sins constantly..but we have to remember that the condemnation isnt from the Lord...and if its not from the Lord...who is it from? So.......who are we gonna listen to and give authority over our lives to?

So happy to see the awesome progress you are making. Keep going! its gonna be a totally awesome journey...even in the tough steps.

love ya!
in Jesus,
momo

[verdad100]

Forgiveness Forgiveness, Forgiveness
This stone is hard for me. I've been using the forgive but not forget type of forgiveness. I just don't see how it is fair that i have to forgive and forget what those men did to me. I was a child...they took my ineccense away!!! They took my childhood!!!! I have to forgive them and forget that it ever happened. I had to do that my whole life. Thats all my parents ever told me...don't talk about it...pretend it never happened. And then it was blamed on me. I have to forgive them after all of that???? Its not even that i have to forgive them....I feel I have done that...but I just can't forget. It hurts!!! But if I don't forgive them whole heartedly then I won't be forgiven??? I feel like it is a catch 22!! What they took from me I can't get back. Its all so confussing...I need to go and contimplate what I have read today and go back and read it. Please give me peace God and the ability to forgive these men wholeheartedly!

[momof3]

hi Verdad sis

wow...this is the tough part. forgiveness....it doesnt mean to pretend it never happened. it did happen. forgiveness means that we will lay down those things at the foot of the cross of Jesus, ask Him to help us forgive the things that others have done, decide that you are not going to hold them accountable for what they have done...that you will let it go, knowing that the Lord's will will be done in it all and realizing that this is an evil world, and people are used by the enemy every day to hurt someone else. They are in need of our saviour every day, just as we are.

Yes, the pain is there and He is the only One who can heal that. He is the only one we can truly trust not to ever hurt us. These are some of the toughest things to face.....that little girl in you who was abused and used..the thoughts and images we are left with are there. Pray for them sis. There was a time I could not forgive either, but the day came when the Lord showed me that I could choose to bless them with my decision to pray for them..or i could choose to hold on to what they had done and never get the freedom and the truth I was seeking from Him with His healing and grace. its not easy, but you can do it...day by day, with His strength, not your own.

Lean on Him now sis.

standing with you in prayer and supplication. His will be done in this.

In Jesus,
love you
momo