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Day 3 was a long day... spent the evening of day 2 at her relatives making cookies for the holidays... it wasn't too bad... day 3 she spent most of the day sleeping while I took care of the kids... it was great spending time with them, but I had hoped I would've gotten some one on one time with her... Day 4 had a victory! A coworker asked if I wanted to see some pictures of some girls and I told him no! It was very thrilling and exciting hearing myself resist Satans attempt... the night however was very lonely, but I still managed not to succumb to any pornography (would pictures of one's own wife be considered that?)... Day 5 after not hearing from her last night or much this morning was a spiraling dive into deep sorrow... It is very difficult for me to cry, and I found myself overcome with sorrow to the point that I actually did cry... I had to seclude myself in the bathroom to collect myself... I had another victory against Satan's attempts when another coworker wanted to show me pictures... I boldly announced loudly that if it wasn't a picture of my wife then I didn't want to see it... Both individuals respected my wishes and I truly believe that they won't attempt this again... I am struggling with the idea of us being separated... I am very lonely... I miss our friendship very much... But I'm still holding on and trying to stay strong... Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement... This website is truly a blessing from GOD!

[havingfaithagain53]

Wilsdot~

I will be praying for you and know how the pain is DEEP & REAL. I have just read this one and didn't go to your profile to see all about you. So I will just talk to you about this problem right now.

I know sometimes in our TRIALS & TRIBULATIONS that we go through it is hard sometimes to see past them. But keep reminding yourself that the Lord let's things happen to STRENGTHEN us! Not to frustrate us but to help us GROW to be stronger for the next one. Once you get that in your heart and mind that satan is NOT going to win this battle... half of the battle is already over...

And my feelings on the looking at pictures of your wife.... I feel that it is YOUR WIFE and that is NOT wrong. ANYTHING that the husband and wife agree on together isn't wrong...where it says the 'bed is undefiled' is what that means. This is my opinion and I have lived by this for years. Never feeling guilty of anything as long as we are agreeable with it.

I will be praying that GOD'S WILL be done in both your lives. That a TRUE HEALING will be a part of your answer to your prayers. May the Lord Bless you and help you through this to have the TRUE VICTORY!!!

Love & Prayers in Christ,
Linda

[Dora]

praying for you.

[vahn]

Hello wilsdot

Glad to hear of overcoming the temptations as they presented themselves by other's actions , but my concern , or rather what caught my attention , is the fact that when you got to be by yourself , it was harder .

Many times in my own addictions , I had found myself praying , and succeeding to divert from actually taking that drug/drink/or whatever that I knew I shouldn't , but , like yourself , when I was "alone" it was a different story . What happened was , I found out that , though sincere , I was praying for the "wrong" thing for the "wrong" reason(s) . See , I had an obsession , and not necessarily a "getting-high" problem , I was obsessed with the IDEA . It wasn't until I prayed for the obsession to be removed , I was constantly being pestered with "fighting off" temptations and sooner or later I would get tired and give in .

Only expressing my own experience and how I was freed from the Big Picture , rather than the small battles here and there .



In Christ , our Lord

[mlg]

Hi wilsdot,

I want to share a couple of thoughts with you. I believe maybe the Lord wants you to be alone some....not because He wants to punish you...but because He wants you to come to KNOW Him. What is going to heal you from these issues is a TRUE relationship with God. God wants you to take those times you are alone, and use them to talk with Him, tell Him how you feel, express to Him your wants and needs...yes He already knows...but He wants you to tell Him...that way He can be involved. Talk to Him about the problems, the things you need to overcome, the things you need Him to do in you and in your marriage.

I also, want to encourage you to romance your wife. No matter how long you have been married, women need romance. How about inviting your wife out for a date? How about sending her a rose? How about writing her a love note and mailing it to her? How about a phone call to say I miss you and I love you? There are so many things you can do for her, but most of all she needs to see that you are trying to change you...and that means putting God first.

Keep working the steps. God is in control.

Take care and God Bless