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I need some guideance


"Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them." Mark 11:24
Remember God loves you,
danty
Remember God loves you,

danty
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dantyriverside - Posts: 87
- Location: Alabama, USA
- Marital Status: Married
Re: I need some guideance
Hi dantyriverside,
Sorry to hear about the problems you've been having. I have some thoughts on the situation you've outlined. Of course, it's best to let God do the talking, ie. through scripture. But as I can't think of any verses at this point that apply directly to your situation, I can only talk to you, based on life experiences, about what might be the best way to proceed on this.
Obviously, God wants your family to stay close and to overcome the difficulties, complicated as they obviously are. But while He would want you to be sensitive to your sister's difficulties right now (and from what I read, you are indeed being sensitive about this), He would not want you to apologize if there is nothing for you to apologize for.
So, regarding the lack of contact after the 'hang-up' incident, it might be an example of just one of those things that needs to be forgotten, not mentioned again. My suggestion is perhaps just to ring her up some time soon, just to ask her how things are going, or for some other non-related issue. This could be the best way to break the ice in this regard.
Regarding defending your son if he is unfairly criticized, the trick is to defend him while not attacking the one doing the criticizing. I know, this is easier said than done, and something that I do not claim to be so good at myself. But, for example, if an unfair claim is made about him, maybe you could quietly reply with something like, 'Okay, that's your view, but I have another view about my son,' or 'Okay, you've made your view about him very clear to me.'
So maybe in this way you can distance yourself from the unfair criticism while at the same time being sensitive to your sister's issues.
I'll stop it there. Maybe my advice has helped, maybe not, but the important thing to remember is that God does have a solution and the best advice on how to proceed on this. I'll pray for you and for your whole family. Hope if goes forth in a positive manner.
God bless.
Sorry to hear about the problems you've been having. I have some thoughts on the situation you've outlined. Of course, it's best to let God do the talking, ie. through scripture. But as I can't think of any verses at this point that apply directly to your situation, I can only talk to you, based on life experiences, about what might be the best way to proceed on this.
Obviously, God wants your family to stay close and to overcome the difficulties, complicated as they obviously are. But while He would want you to be sensitive to your sister's difficulties right now (and from what I read, you are indeed being sensitive about this), He would not want you to apologize if there is nothing for you to apologize for.
So, regarding the lack of contact after the 'hang-up' incident, it might be an example of just one of those things that needs to be forgotten, not mentioned again. My suggestion is perhaps just to ring her up some time soon, just to ask her how things are going, or for some other non-related issue. This could be the best way to break the ice in this regard.
Regarding defending your son if he is unfairly criticized, the trick is to defend him while not attacking the one doing the criticizing. I know, this is easier said than done, and something that I do not claim to be so good at myself. But, for example, if an unfair claim is made about him, maybe you could quietly reply with something like, 'Okay, that's your view, but I have another view about my son,' or 'Okay, you've made your view about him very clear to me.'
So maybe in this way you can distance yourself from the unfair criticism while at the same time being sensitive to your sister's issues.
I'll stop it there. Maybe my advice has helped, maybe not, but the important thing to remember is that God does have a solution and the best advice on how to proceed on this. I'll pray for you and for your whole family. Hope if goes forth in a positive manner.
God bless.
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TrueAndMagneticNorth - Posts: 756
- Location: Germany
- Marital Status: Married
Re: I need some guideance
I am sorry it took so long to update. I followed your advice and gave my sister some space and she called me. She apologized for being hormonal without me even saying anything. We are all one big happy family again. Thank you for you advice and prayers 

"Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them." Mark 11:24
Remember God loves you,
danty
Remember God loves you,

danty
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dantyriverside - Posts: 87
- Location: Alabama, USA
- Marital Status: Married
Re: I need some guideance
Nice to hear back from you, and great to hear that there is harmony in the family again. Praise be to Jesus for this. And may he guide your sister through her pregnancy. I hope it all goes well in this regard, and will pray for this.
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TrueAndMagneticNorth - Posts: 756
- Location: Germany
- Marital Status: Married
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